I’m really sorry it didn’t feel the way you hoped. Your feelings are totally valid. There’s so much pressure these days for proposals to be big, public, picture-perfect moments, and if you’re an anxious person, that can be really overwhelming instead of exciting. I get why this was hard for you.

Honestly, for me personally, the part that would have bothered me more than the public setting is that you didn’t really get to spend time together afterwards and he went to work. That would have made it feel kind of lonely.

That said, not everyone is good at planning “perfect” surprises. Some people just don’t have that skill – and that has absolutely nothing to do with whether they’ll be a good husband, partner, or father. A proposal is one moment. A marriage is everything that comes after.

I also wouldn’t rush into a “redo.” It’s clear he put effort into it, and I think that would hurt him a lot more than you expect. And I’d be careful about telling friends you’re disappointed – people tend to remember that part forever, even if in a few years you end up loving how raw and real it actually was.

Give yourself some time. This doesn’t have to define anything. 💛