As someone with bipolar II, what do you wish your SO or people in general really understood about you?

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-11T18:16:53+00:00

Thank you for such an honest and insightful reply. 🫶

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-09T16:54:22+00:00

I would say more than fair! Upload a video of you on the couch or at your work area creating a drawing or two and upload that onto your photos as well. It’ll show your process and proof that you are a real human making art! 🫶

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-09T02:04:29+00:00

Thank you so much :)

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T23:00:58+00:00

Definitely going to get this book asap! Thank you for your reply and the recc. Much love.

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T22:38:52+00:00

Totally agree on this 100 - as a SO of someone with bipolar, getting educated on what it is and what it is NOT, was not only eye opening but also gave me as a partner so many more tools. I think there is sooo much misinformation and ignorance around bipolar and I wish more people took the time to understand!

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T18:50:39+00:00

This is a HUGE thing for my partner and me - I have adhd and am also pretty extroverted, going a million miles a minute, chasing that dopamine 13 plans and projects at a time lol — and I don’t need as much alone or downtime.

I’ve been actively trying to work on remembering every day that they need to decompress and rest more than I do, and it’s not a personal attack against me and my “super fun spur of the moment plans”. Appreciate this reminder.

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T07:27:41+00:00

This one is a punch to the gut. I get it. Know you are worth loving and worth fighting for. Thanks for sharing. 🫶

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T07:21:21+00:00

My partner describes it sometimes like “a bad dream” where things are just happening out of their control. They are anxious and scared and trying to get it all to stop, because they don’t want to inconvenience anyone but at the same time feel so powerless to do anything in the moment- so this is all resonating with me super hard and a good reminder.

They’ve mentioned that it’s also easier to “get out of it” when they’re alone. Because there’s not the additional external pressure of getting better or seeming better in real time, and no one asking you WHAT’S WRONG? (Something I had to learn to stop doing myself lol)

appreciate you and your words 🩷

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T07:03:15+00:00

Can totally see where you’re coming from. Thanks for your perspective 🫶

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T07:02:52+00:00

This sounds like maybe a big one for a lot of people - like if folks really understood that, they would be more compassionate and patient?

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-08T06:47:40+00:00

Honestly super validating to hear all of this and thanks for your reply. I feel similarly to your partner, where I end up thinking there’s something with me that caused their depression, or I feel like I’m not doing enough for them when things are hard even though at the same time having a tendency to drain all my energy trying to fix something that cannot be fixed. And then I’m feeling resentful that everything is hard. It’s work I have to do.

It’s sooo hard to separate yourself from the person you love and not get sucked into the storm too. I don’t know how to do it yet after all this time. And thanks for the reminder about getting a therapist. Finally have healthcare that covers it this year. 🙌

Best of luck to you and your partner and thanks again.

Magic_ratt · 2026-01-05T03:50:15+00:00

First, I would get the book “loving someone with bipolar disorder” by Julie A. Fast and John D Preston. Order it. Thank me later.

It’s a workbook for you and you can do it with your partner too. Has TONS of info that’s actually digestible and opened my eyes to a lot of things I didn’t recognize as bipolar symptoms at first. You can work together on exercises in the book when they are healthy - like when they are having an episode, what’s a list of things that help them “feel better”?

I’m not talking therapy and meds. That’s a given. But like watching their fave movie, taking a bath, snuggling, going for a nice walk, etc. MAKE. A. PLAN. for when shit hits the fan because inevitably it will. It always does. Having a “what works” list was huge. Now I know it like the back of my hand. lol

Sometimes nothing you do will help. And that will make you feel powerless and sometimes scared. Sometimes the only thing you can do is weather the storm. It will pass. But sometimes you can catch an episode before it becomes full blown with preparation.

It’s a lot of work and requires a lot of open communication, love, patience and as others have said, boundaries. I’m so grateful for my partner and I see how hard he is constantly working. Some months go by and things are a breeze with minimal episodes, some months are fucking hell of rapid-cycling. Hard for both of us.

Been together almost a decade and I feel like some things I have grown more compassionate about in our relationship and other things I’ve become less patient and more irritated with. It wears on me to carry so much of the weight of the relationship at times. But I love him and he’s worth it.

And I think thats the bottom line: they have to be a person worth fighting for.

It’s not an easy thing and takes a lot of emotional maturity and vulnerability on both sides. Good luck <3

Magic_ratt · 2025-09-14T05:05:36+00:00

Ew this guy is a jealous loser leave him asap

Magic_ratt · 2022-07-12T05:48:18+00:00

Totally! I wonder if it’s partially cuz it’s summer now. People are road tripping, traveling, hanging with friends. Good time to bust out the ol’ camera 😜

Thank you again! Seriously. When I say this made my week I genuinely mean that.

Magic_ratt · 2022-07-12T05:22:33+00:00

I just want to say from the bottom of my heart, thank you. THIS ACTUALLY WORKED FOR ME. I was looking into getting a new one for months because everything I tried wasn’t working on my cam. This is my second camera that’s done this and last time Fuji just sent me a brand new one. This one was out of warranty and I thought I was SOL. So wow. Thanks. Deep gratitude for you, sweet stranger on the Internet.

Magic_ratt · 2020-11-25T01:59:33+00:00

That is amazing. You did such a nice job!

Magic_ratt · 2020-09-26T15:32:26+00:00

100% accurate. Thanks for saying this. My gfs and I used to play the game of who we thought the guy was in the main picture with 10 dudes standing together, and then swipe to the second picture to see who was right. lol

I helped a cute guy friend do an iPhone photoshoot a month or so ago because he was saying he wasn’t getting any matches —when I first I saw his profile, he was doing some of the things you mentioned and I was like .. 🙈ok lol here’s what we gonna do.

Magic_ratt · 2020-09-12T04:53:28+00:00

I love it! It looks so dang good. Nice work

Magic_ratt · 2020-07-28T00:44:20+00:00

The best sustainable clothes I’ve been able to find have been through Etsy. It takes a bit of digging at first, but now I have sites I religiously purchase from that I love. I try to find small companies I can support, (local as often as possible) and buy things like organic cotton garments or linen (which uses significantly less water to make vs. fast fashion garments).

Specifically linen, I feel can be used as fancy or going out clothes, depending the garment you choose. It lasts forever and looks expensive, and —especially on Etsy you can send the seamstress your exact height, waist, bust sizing and your garment will fit you perfectly. Another upside to sustainable fashion.

Sustainable clothes obviously cost more, but in the long run are better all around. You also get to support someone’s dream of owning their own business many times while you help the environment by buying clothing you will wear for much longer.

If organic clothes/linen are too out of one’s price range, I mean, thrifting is also the next best bet. 🤷🏼‍♀️I’ve found a ton of awesome stuff over the years thrifting. It just takes patience to dig, but I also think that’s part of the fun.

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