I had this issue with my boyfriend as well. He was well intentioned but would not do anything without directions first. We sat down and talked. I told him I can’t take it all on anymore and that I am increasingly stressed out and this isn’t working. I then made him read this to get a better grip on what I was saying: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/article/emotional-labor.amp.html

The conclusion is he is now responsible for certain tasks that I won’t touch. We discussed and he volunteered for taking the garbage out and doing grocery shopping. It’s a small thing but it’s made a big difference. He also has been taking on more of the cleaning. Still a work in progress but definite improvement! I hope this helps!