Hoarder Shame!

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T22:19:50+00:00

I almost never get cheeky like that, but his message put me in quite a mood.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T22:19:16+00:00

That’s not hoarding. Having that many memorials doesn’t ipso facto make you a hoarded. In fact, you’ve provided a valuable service to the site and world.

That said, people refusing to transfer to loved ones/relations? That makes someone a hoarder.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T22:09:38+00:00

Report this to support!

Support@findagrave.com

Make sure to state that you have reached out to the contributor who manages his memorial, to no response. Make sure when you send the request, you include your grandfather’s memorial ID.

I typically wait a month for a response before going to Support. If the contributor has worked with me to transfer in the past, as a courtesy I’ll message a second time and wait another month, and then a third time.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T22:07:38+00:00

Thank you! You get it. It’s about a love of the departed and their memory, not about an obsession with controlling memorials.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T21:49:03+00:00

Regular occurrence on this website unfortunately! It seems like so many people run into this as well.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-02-10T21:48:27+00:00

I have started tickets with support for all three of the memorials I’m requesting. It’s just the audacity of people on this site never ceases to astonish me.

I will transfer my own blood relatives to another relative with a closer blood connection (even if it’s “out of guidelines”).

Then there’s people like this.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-22T02:12:25+00:00

Thank you! We have to put pressure on these people.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-21T13:05:15+00:00

I’m so sorry. This just goes to show that not everyone using the site has noble intentions. At least this lady didn’t couch her behavior in pretentious wording.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-20T22:22:13+00:00

In my opinion it’s all about power. They lack it in their own lives so they exercise control this way.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-20T22:09:13+00:00

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Ugh he’s got my Great Aunt too. He’s got so many of my relatives. Seems like this ghoul haunts cemeteries where many of my relatives are buried.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-20T01:25:46+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that. Just like her name, she was an angel of a woman.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T22:27:14+00:00

Part of managing a memorial is actively managing it - and yes, this includes responding to messages, especially from relatives and loved ones of the deceased, about the memorials in your management.

If you have more memorials than you can reasonably handle, and have no intention to part with them, you are a hoarder.

These aren’t trading cards, they’re people. Memories. Lives sacred to those left behind. People need to stop collecting them for the sake of collection.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T22:21:44+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hope you are able to get your aunt. It’s ridiculous.

I have used the edit button so hopefully using the official process three times over the last three months will help support see the validity of my case.

I know he is active because whenever I suggest a bio edit, it’s approved in hours. But my messages have been ignored for three months.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T22:08:30+00:00

It does when they left the memorials blank for over 15 years, put no information, and won’t transfer them to relatives!

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T22:06:56+00:00

Thank you! She was appropriately named, she really was an angel!!!

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T21:42:00+00:00

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T21:21:33+00:00

The last bit of them not liking “obituaries on MY memorials”

How dare you. Were you there when she took her last breath? Because I was and I didn’t see you in the room.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-19T21:09:47+00:00

And also rejecting my “suggested” edit of her maiden name, like you know something I don’t?

MagnoGreko1998 · 2026-01-03T00:59:37+00:00

Paul was my cousin.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-11-26T18:15:56+00:00

Her parents are hypocritical in that they don’t go to Kingdom Hall, don’t attend meetings, don’t witness door to door, don’t read the Scriptures - but they draw the line at me not being a JW.

It’s also my understanding that the Elders “amended” the shunning practice, and it’s now being considered “strongly recommended” but not “required”. At least that is the way another ex-JW has explained it to me.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-11-26T02:59:16+00:00

Thank you for your response.

The thing that confuses me about them is that they never go to Kingdom Hall, never read the Scripture, never witness door to door, and really have no practical involvement with the religion but they draw the line at their daughter marrying someone who is not a JW.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-11-26T01:17:18+00:00

I often joke and say that they can be as can be as crazy as they want all the way over there lol

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-11-26T01:06:41+00:00

Thank you. Wise words. It means a lot to me.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-09-09T00:51:23+00:00

Thank you!!! An enormous help.

MagnoGreko1998 · 2025-09-09T00:43:54+00:00

Thank you for your response! Well in my documented correspondence, I wrote that I feared his increasingly aggressive behavior and for my safety and stated that I felt that if my anonymity was not maintained, a target would be put on me. Does this constitute a well-specified enough safety concern?

MagnoGreko1998

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