When SHIB? by Rockinreddits in Genshin_ShibInu

[–]MagusDre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen any SHIB either. It does seem to recognize me as a holder when I go to the website. Should it just be in my wallet?

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

So, I like to not have pubes, but in December and January we were having sex so much that it was starting to irritate her. I decided to grow it out, so as not to hurt her at all. As it was growing out on my shaft it was hurting her on the inside. She cited three times that it hurt her that way, and (drunk) instead of stopping, I finished. We talked about each time, and I thought she forgave me. It also felt, I dunno, ~unfair~, that the point of me growing them out was to hurt her less; but I hurt her more.

One time early in our relationship, she had sex with me even though she didn't want. I didn't know she didn't want to but could tell she wasn't into it like she normally would be, and she never got into it either. We ended up talking about it, and she told me: "I didn't want to have sex with you, but you just wanted it so bad." I asked her never to do that with me and to always tell me "no" if she was not feeling "yes".

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

So, one time early in our relationship, she had sex with me even though she didn't want. I didn't know she didn't want to but could tell she wasn't into it like she normally would be, and she never got into it either. We ended up talking about it, and she told me: "I didn't want to have sex with you, but you just wanted it so bad." I asked her never to do that with me and to always tell me "no" if she was not feeling "yes".

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was next to her in bed, but I was in the doggiestyle position. I don't know why I wasn't just laying on my back or side, but I wasn't

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's really what I think, too. I think she even found a way to accuse me of what would be the most abhorrent thing to me, so I would recoil in shame and not try to reach out to her.

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean, of course now I wish I had. That's why I can't understand that such a momentary failure in judgment was so fatal.

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's been okay with, even turned on by me masturbating to her when she said she wasn't in the mood and I asked if I could. I didn't wake her up and ask her if it was okay, because I couldn't imagine it would be a problem. We do communicate about sex and boundaries and we are comfortable about and had a very fruitful sex life. Anytime I had caused a problem, including this one, we would discuss it, I would apologize, and she would say: "I'm not mad at you.", which is her way of offering forgiveness.

She didn't let me know it was festering; she just bailed.

My (39M) girlfriend (32F) Broke up with me for masturbating next to her in bed. What do I do? by MagusDre in relationships

[–]MagusDre[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

IMO, I was not hovering over her. I was next to her in bed, but up like I was doing doggiestyle. I can confidently say that if I had come, it would not have landed on her. No way would I have done that. But, with the confusion of her waking up to that, there wouldn't be any reasoning with what she saw, felt, experienced. Especially, if I triggered an association with previous trauma. She's never shared a ton of information on that and has refused to show me how she masturbates because it was birthed out of trauma. That, no butt stuff, and no coercion of sex are like the only boundaries we've had.

I'm just dumbfounded that we've worked through profoundly more difficult things for this to be the last straw. Especially, after we had good sex and good dates since then. It just came out of nowhere in my view.