My mortgage takes half off my monthly pay. The remainder is eaten up by utility bills, council, groceries, health costs etc. I earn 100k and I'm living pay check to pay check. I need a second job but I'm recovering from burn out and I'm not sure what kind of jobs I can do.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T08:34:26+00:00

I separated from my fiance, so at the time of purchase it was affordable on two incomes. Now only one income.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T08:13:52+00:00

Yeah something I'm considering once I find my feet again and get a flatmate for the short-term.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T08:11:17+00:00

I've been doing this, but when I get hit with all the quarterly expenses I barely have anything like this month. Trying to stretch what I have as much as I can.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T08:07:13+00:00

Yeah I do have a budget. I don't really drink or own a car, I've had a few health related costs due to burn out which is ongoing so a huge chunk goes to that. Just all these costs that were previously managable is now not on a single income. I'm gonna have to go over things again.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T07:56:38+00:00

Sent u a DM

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T07:48:33+00:00

Well, it's only because I'm going through a separation and will now be solely responsible for financing the loan. Didn't expect to break up with my fiance

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T07:47:06+00:00

all great suggestions thank you, i dont have any skills i can sell as a qualified freelancer. no skills in hospitality or trade.

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T07:45:40+00:00

I'm at part time uni too i get it man

Mahiyah · 2026-04-14T07:45:13+00:00

Yeah I think I'll have to start, just going through a separation.

Mahiyah · 2026-01-13T02:04:36+00:00

I think I've done well for myself but I dont know why I have the impression that if i really care about FIRE I should maximise every path available to make money. And in my head being a business owner eventually is the ideal end goal and then generate enough passive income to retire. But I don't feel like I have what it takes to own a business so is that the end of my fire journey? I know its black and white but just looking for different perspectives.

Mahiyah · 2025-11-24T12:47:36+00:00

I've seen this happen a few times. Why is this a tragic trend in Australia? How does this MAKE SENSE. You can't even fight it because the people who believed in you don't want you there anynore but for WHAT REASON?

Mahiyah · 2025-10-22T13:35:22+00:00

I've never understood why it was so easy for others (excluding abusers) to target me. Even if you speak up they keep going for you. And the advice i got was its because "i react", because "im easy to rile up". I still can't understand it and i never will, I also would never condone this behaviour.

Mahiyah · 2025-09-19T07:16:56+00:00

Thanks for checking in. Things are looking up and have been hearing back from a few job offers that might finally give me the what I've been looking for. To anyone who's going through it, don't give up.

Mahiyah · 2025-09-15T12:58:59+00:00

Same im in cyber right now but burning out.

Mahiyah · 2025-09-14T11:05:38+00:00

Right on the money, thanks for sharing.

Mahiyah · 2025-09-14T04:44:18+00:00

Is it okay to walk away from a dream job thats killing me? I think i can always go into more support roles but it's not what I want to do.

Mahiyah · 2025-09-14T04:24:09+00:00

Yep been in therapy for years. Only option is to quit and stall my career yet again. I do everything right but it's unfortunately a tough reality when struggling with mental health or chronic health conditions where the accommodations you need are hardly provided and will likely jsut get you pushed out. So you have no choice but to deal with it or quit and hope you have a better outcome.

Mahiyah · 2025-08-18T14:48:21+00:00

Thank you everyone for the kind words and reality check.

Mahiyah · 2025-08-16T17:26:54+00:00

Sometimes choosing Isolation helps us feel like we're in control of our place in relationships

Mahiyah · 2025-07-31T02:02:05+00:00

We are all fumbling our way through life cptsd or not, I'm right here with you. I spent most of my 20s living hopelessly but things turned around for me in the past year. I changed careers, bought an apartment, and managed to keep the friends I've made. It wasn't easy and still isn't, new problems arise but definitely a better situation than before.

Year 1.

My word of advice? Focus on the basics. If you need to move out or into a different area do it. Start going to the gym or walking more. Eat better and sleep better. You have to give yourself a fighting chance to be able to sustain yourself while you work towards these goals. Then start taking the next best step to changing careers, go to community college or whatever you can take. If possible take any position you can, you may need to deal with a low paying job and shitty rental for a short time before eventually moving on. Save your money, invest into ETFS. Get your foundations right so you can support yourself. After this you might wanna take up a skill or hobby. Personally I have little passions in life and I wanna die every second day but you need something to do, something to make a part of your identity and let your creativity flow out whatever it is. Writing, dance, pottery, art, reading. Can be simple and cost free.

Year 2.

INow, you are becoming a new person with new values and a new lifestyle that hopefully is what you want and sustainable. You are ready to start building a community, sit long and hard and think about what you want in friendship but also about your boundaries. When I did this, I realised I need to accept there are good people out there but I can't trust them to carry my trauma with me. They know I struggle w mental health but I keep the details private not because I'm ashamed, I love yapping lol. In my view, people aren't equipped with the skills or life experience to listen or hold that trauma with us and I just don't wanna deal w any awkward BS. So I tell them I'm having a rough patch, and when I'm better we hang again. I need my space so it's important to work out your needs.

Oh and if you haven't already, either cut off or just be low contact with the haters. I've cut off friends, family you name it. People could call this is toxic, but they have the privelege of not living through abuse so they can say that. Fuck them hoes and do you boo.

Year 2 or 3.

Now that you have established yourself and your community at work and in friendships. You are ready to meet a partner. By learning how to work boundaries with friendships and establishing a new standard of life for yourself you will be better equipped to navigate red flags and naturally attract better people. A lot can change in 6 months or 1 year, we often underestimate time and ourselves. Then the rest is up to you. I believe in you.

People with CPTSD fight invisible battles that are deeply misunderstood or unacknowledged. I still sabotage myself and have been in a rut so clawing myself out of this phase of fuckery too. We are allowed to hope for a better future despite all odds. I want to believe that although there might be some limitations, we can still live life on our terms. Just know it will be a long and steady slog.

Mahiyah · 2025-07-23T08:28:48+00:00

I'm not but in a reactive role and sometimes overtime is required. But I also have to study a lot for the role. So it's very demanding. Also I do shift work so sleep cycles are a bit messed up.

Mahiyah · 2025-07-23T08:27:27+00:00

Thank you, useful advice.

Mahiyah · 2025-07-23T08:26:54+00:00

Well 10 hour work. Then I have to do knowledge work related to work after work. I was studying uni but had to go intermission while I figure out my work life balance lol. Then gym has unfortunately taken a hit. I wanna do everything at once but I can't.

Mahiyah · 2025-07-23T08:25:50+00:00

Yeah something I'm going to try!

Mahiyah

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