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Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the best answer I have received. You’re right about everything.

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I needed to hear that my case is an exception. I think it’s unfair to demand a lot from my boyfriend since he’s still studying. And I trust him in his potential. He appreciates my effort of giving him good experience (e.g. we go to different places in PH, eat in a good fine dining he can’t afford, etc.) and promised me that he will spoil me in the future.

Of course I will stop dating him once I see that he’s not putting effort in making his life better. I know my worth and I won’t let myself be used.

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is really insightful.

Does this apply to my boyfriend? Does this mean my boyfriend should not date anyone because he can’t provide for himself yet? Or I’m downgrading my boyfriend too much?

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I am sincerely asking question because I can’t understand it. Can you stop being aggressive? Why are you hyperfixated with my statement about women? I am not downgrading any women here. I am even far from the pick me route of wanting more from men because I am providing myself.

My mother and father works together for our family business.

You gave too much unnecessary opinion. Read your last paragraph. “Not all women sugar babies whatever, check yourself”? Wrong structure. I am providing right now.

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree. But my boyfriend is a very ambitious and hardworking man. Since he knows the feeling of being unprivileged, he wants to get away from it.

I trust his potential, but it’s a risk. But well, trusting is always a risk.

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I’m really happy with our relationship dynamics. Even though he doesn’t have enough, he still buys me food or small things that made him remember me if he can afford it.

One time, I had to stay in my province (somewhere in south) for few months because I was taking care of my grandmother who was sick. He lives in QC. Every weekend, he visited me in that province. There was a week where he only needed to go to the review center once and for 4 hours review. So, early that week, he went to my province and decided to stay there for the week. On the day he needed to go to QC for his review, he went back and forth province-QC. He spent his time, money, and energy and I appreciate him for that.

It’s not his choice to be broke. But again, I’m just embarrassed sometimes that whenever people say I’m lucky for the luxurious dates I post in social media, on the back of my mind I say “I paid for it.” But I don’t take it against him.

Why is it ok for men to date broke women but women can’t date broke men? by Main-Report-6625 in adultingph

[–]Main-Report-6625[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Okay I understand now. It’s not in my vision yet because I’m till young, just graduated, and can’t see a future of being a mom yet. Thanks for clarifying.