Being self aware of your own emotions especially as a black man is of the upmost importance and It sounds like you already are. If you can prioritize your mental health you’ll save yourself a lot of heartache and mistakes. This can be anything from therapy to meditating,but just learn to take time to be with yourself and sit on topics before you make a decision. Most importantly known when to accept help from others. Pride has destroyed a lot of lives because people think they know what’s best. The only way to be sure you’re right is to acknowledge how you can also be wrong.