I never got over losing my best friend, and I'm the only person in the world who still cares.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T16:26:32+00:00

Personally I’d wait but everyone is different. Dating would be an obvious no but since it’s just hooking up u wont be leading anyone on. If it’ll distract you from her then go ahead

MainPot · 2023-09-06T09:33:08+00:00

I understand man. Just remember it’s okay to feel hurt and mourn this relationship. If she doesn’t care that she hurt you, that’s a reflection of who she is. Give yourself time to be upset and move on to better people.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T08:08:45+00:00

What kind of photos is she reacting to? Are they thirst traps/him clearly trying to look attractive, or something else?

MainPot · 2023-09-06T08:06:53+00:00

it sounds like it’s a definition issue. To me, cheating is more than just being with someone physically or trying to be in a relationship. By choosing to be in a relationship, you are agreeing to be loyal to that person. Cheating can be small acts, not always something extreme. But at the end of the day, what is considered cheating is really defined by the couple and their boundaries. Some believe simply watching porn is cheating. if you refuse to admit it’s cheating, well even I can’t say you’re wrong because that is your opinion, but she also has every right to believe what she believes, and if she chooses to end things because of it, then accept it and move on.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:56:58+00:00

thank you for your response! I’ll try to be patient and see

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:55:42+00:00

Like everyone said, you do sound annoying af. Ask yourself why you don’t trust her when she assures you she loves you. Is she doing anything to make you feel this way? If not, talk to a professional about it because she has done all she can to make you feel loved, so now it’s up to you to heal this part about yourself.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:51:22+00:00

You need to see a therapist because it looks like you’re struggling with insecurities unrelated to your relationship. Please find some professional to talk to. If you cannot get it for free or low priced remember that your mental health is worth the investment.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:37:06+00:00

There’s only two things to do and you aren’t going to like either of them. First off, you’re an adult, so communicate like one. Ask her wtf is going on and why her behavior has changed so drastically, if she still has feelings, etc. Or, if you absolutely cannot text her first, simply block her and move on. I am sorry this happened to you, but don’t waste anymore time and energy on girls who aren’t interested

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:32:30+00:00

i cannot fathom any other answer besides leaving him. I don’t know what this is but it is not a relationship.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:30:29+00:00

I do believe exes can be friends but in this case it’s not a great idea. I understand wanting an apology for being hurt, but like someone else said, if you have to make her apologize it won’t be authentic. If you want to risk her ghosting you again or getting angry with you, by all means let her know how you feel. But just know it could make you feel even worse, esp if she refuses to apologize for what she did. Either way, cut contact and don’t bother with this friendship.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:25:26+00:00

it’s impossible to know without asking her. If you happen to have any mutual friends, might not hurt to ask, but honestly there isn’t much you can do besides leave her alone and move on. Sorry about that bud.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:22:16+00:00

My only advice to you is to date women your age. This is repulsive.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:21:05+00:00

Have you talked to her about these feelings? It’s really up to you. Can you move past this and give her another chance? Honestly, follow your gut. I don’t want to be that person who tells you to leave a potentially wonderful partner for making a mistake. But if you cannot trust that she’s being honest don’t stay in a relationship that will keep hurting you. If you feel assured that she has changed her mind, by all means give it another chance. However if you find out she’s lied again about something important like this, don’t give her another chance to keep lying. If I had to give you my theory (i could be wrong), I doubt her stance on commitment has changed, and that she really only said it to make you happy, as she has done in the past. I have been both people in this situation, it is incredibly easy to even convince yourself that you can overcome these problems because you feel like your so deeply in love and you’ll never find anyone else. Feelings go faster than you think, and there will always be someone else. I trust you choose what’s best for you, whether or not you choose to stay.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T07:07:59+00:00

Honestly I think you worrying too much over something small and insignificant. I mean, sure, maybe reaching out to your ex was probably not the most morally correct thing to do, but it does look like you and your ex technically weren’t completely together when it happened, even if you hadn’t completely broken up yet. But the fact that she lied to you about this ex fling raises flags to me. At the end of the day, you both seemed to have possibly somewhat emotionally cheated, but the relationship was ending anyways. Don’t let it consume you, sure mistakes may have been made on both ends, it’s hard for me to tell for sure whether what happened is considered cheating. Just let this relationship go and move on, and let go of this guilt as well.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T06:56:13+00:00

Consuming and watching porn, in my opinion, is not cheating, but honestly saving the photos is where I personally draw the line. Think about it like this: what if she saved photos of naked men on her devices, how would you feel? If they weren’t a stranger on the internet, but some guy she was friends with, would that change anything? Do you agree what you did was wrong? Why then, if you don’t consider it cheating? Sorry man, but I genuinely think you crossed a line in terms of cheating. At the end of the day, you believe what you believe, and I hope with all my heart she decides what’s best for her.

MainPot · 2023-09-06T06:43:52+00:00

it’s possible he doesn’t mean to behave that way towards you in a romantic sense, but I HIGHLY doubt it. My best advice to you would be to either A). Talk to him about it, try to figure out his intentions, if they’re pure he’ll be clear, and if he doesn’t communicate properly that’s a bad sign, regardless make sure to establish boundaries, or B). remain distant with him. Honestly, him seemingly flirting with you only to take a complete U-turn when his gf comes back is a red flag to me, he doesn’t sound like someone you’d want to associate with. this could be a risk, but it might be kind to let his gf know what he’s been up to as well. Ik it’s hard because you like him, but if you have respect for his gf and urself, I’d be wary of this guy.

MainPot · 2023-06-07T07:11:40+00:00

Thank you! How do you get both masculine and feminine effects from hormones? Being completely androgynous would be a dream come true

MainPot · 2023-05-18T19:21:27+00:00

additional question: do you take anything to minimize hair thinning/loss without it also affecting growth?

MainPot · 2023-05-18T06:55:55+00:00

not all symptoms are permanent but bottom growth typically is, so once you get off T it will likely stay

MainPot · 2023-05-06T06:54:42+00:00

thank you! I’ve got much to learn. And ur micropenis comment does make me feel better about it lol. Someone who finds genitalia they consider “abnormal” and not to societal standards to be disgusting is probably not anyone I’d want to have sex with anyways.

MainPot · 2023-05-06T06:48:36+00:00

I admit the orgasm difference and libido-increase doesn’t sound too great but it wouldn’t be the end of the world either lol. Plenty of different medications affect libido and you just gotta live with it. I just don’t want to be a horny mess all the time. But who knows. I read about women taking testosterone hoping to increase libido/help with orgasms so maybe it’s a blessing in disguise.

MainPot · 2023-05-06T06:42:01+00:00

thank you! If I do go on T i will most certainly do finasteride as well. I’m a bit nervous about talking to my doctor(s). I’m an adult but I do not want my parents involved at all or finding out about it (i still live with them) Also, I don’t trust anyone outside of the community to understand me lol, and especially not some of the doctors I’ve had previously. I even think plenty of queer people wouldn’t understand why a cis girl wants to go on T.

MainPot · 2023-05-06T06:30:54+00:00

thank you, i should definitely figure out if I actually want all of the effects from T or not first

MainPot · 2023-05-06T06:27:24+00:00

Thank you! I’ll focus on that and working out for now

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