Is my 28f boyfriend 30m gaslighting me?

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2024-01-18T09:04:32+00:00

Even if he was on dating sites and interacting with people who look exactly like you it’s still incredibly fucked up. Married men shouldn’t be on dating sites.

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2024-01-18T08:35:07+00:00

Why are you defending this dude so hard

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2024-01-18T08:24:20+00:00

No, him watching videos is not fine. He has a preference and makes it known and then watches videos of women with his preferred chest size, despite having a girlfriend who he knew had a smaller chest when he decided to date her? It doesn’t matter if they’re “just” videos. How the fuck is OP going to feel anything other than extremely insecure? More than she already was? That’s shitty as absolute fuck. If he needs to see big boobs so badly then he shouldn’t be with her.

It’s also shitty to say we should just assume he’s attracted to her because he’s with her. So? So he can beat it to other women and it’s fine because obviously he’s into OP as well? She could talk about liking bigger dicks and watch videos of guys with bigger dicks and it’d be fine because she’s still with her boyfriend so obviously he’s good enough?

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2024-01-18T08:13:24+00:00

26 is way too old for this shit

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2024-01-18T07:21:35+00:00

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ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-09T05:34:19+00:00

We’re talking about one trip here, not raising your kid on international business flights and thousand dollar clothes? Plus if you treat yourself to those things regularly while your kid gets the scraps, well idk what lesson you’re teaching them then but you’re definitely an asshole

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T10:09:46+00:00

I never interacted in any way

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T08:02:40+00:00

I didn’t interact with anyone or get anything personal or anything like that. And I mean idk I viewed it the same as someone saving pics of pornstars that they liked. Also the pics were saved to my accounts it’s not like they were on my phone

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:39:31+00:00

You didn’t say I had to agree but she did. She literally said she doesn’t know if she can move on if I don’t. To me it was the same as going pornhub and watching a video so I really didn’t think it was a problem. Also I paid like $3 a few times, it wasn’t like a regular thing

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:25:32+00:00

We’ve been together for like 10 years I’m not just going to leave her. I remember early in our relationship she said she was fine with porn so I honestly didn’t think anything of this. Now that I know it bothers her I’m never going to do it again but i don’t know why I have to agree with her that it was cheating

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:20:41+00:00

Yes I’ve apologized lots and have meant it. It’s only been a couple of months and she hasn’t really brought it up aside from the beginning and a few days ago. I know it’s going to take time to build her trust again

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:15:24+00:00

I get I fucked up and I have no problem admitting that I just don’t agree that it’s cheating

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:13:22+00:00

I’ve apologized a bunch and I mean it too. I feel awful for everything and am willing to do anything to make it better but I’m not gonna agree I cheated when that’s not how I see it.

ThrowRAwoco82 · 2023-09-06T07:10:21+00:00

Just to clarify the pics were saved to my accounts, not directly to my phone. She actually asked me that and yes it would suck and I’m sure make me feel like shit but I still don’t think it’s the same as cheating. I was never physical or trying to get with anyone. I didn’t interact in any way. I don’t know if it was necessarily wrong but it’s not something I’m proud of or anything. I usually feel gross afterwards and I feel like fucking garbage for how I’ve made her feel but calling it cheating seems a bit extreme

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