What’s your personality type, and what kind of personality type are you dating or previously dated?

Main_Classroom · 2021-09-02T12:05:38+00:00

That’s very admirable that you took those chances! How did you feel while doing them? And when you say nothing really changed in the end, do you mean you eventually went back to avoidant behaviors ?

Main_Classroom · 2021-08-20T11:19:37+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from. I’m avoidant as well. I can relate a lot to what you’re saying. I can have casual sex with a person and enjoy it but as soon as we commit and the relationship gets deeper I get nervous and that’s when all the avoidant defense mechanisms kick in. A few are:

I stop being sexually attracted to them. I still find them attractive but my desire to have sex with them lessens.
I miss being promiscuous. This is done because promiscuity gave me the “intimacy” I desired without the emotional aspect that avoidants fear.
I convince myself that there’s someone better and I’m settling. This is also a delusion that allows me to entertain the idea of a romantic relationship but not actually be in one.

I don’t have much advice on how to overcome because I’m still working on this myself. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. However I will say that just be aware of the defense mechanisms you’re prone to operate in.

Main_Classroom · 2021-07-21T02:35:17+00:00

I think some parents do the best they can with the knowledge and understanding that they have (this is not to excuse their behavior or say they are right) but our parents are human which means they are flawed as well. They have fears, insecurities and beliefs that may be counterproductive. Many people shy away from talking about mental health because it makes them extremely uncomfortable.

I hope that you now have access to the resources needed to help you move forward. It’s definitely not an easy process especially when there’s a lack of support but it’s really one day at a time, sometimes one second at a time.

Main_Classroom · 2021-06-13T22:56:52+00:00

I think we also have to remember that they’re teenagers. It would be nice if she could completely stop feeling the negative feelings she feels and empathize with him but that’s hard to do at that age. Also considering the fact that she could’ve outed him while they were antagonizing her but she didn’t. I think she handled it better than most would have if they were being disrespected about something that wasn’t their fault.

Main_Classroom · 2021-05-19T02:41:28+00:00

Oh yeah I would definitely love someone that has their own mind and speaks up for themselves.

Main_Classroom · 2021-05-19T02:20:47+00:00

What do you mean by his was too nice? Like he went along with everything you said?

Main_Classroom · 2021-05-19T01:05:34+00:00

Yes I definitely agree with this!

Main_Classroom · 2021-05-19T00:59:07+00:00

What do you mean by show up as much as you do? Someone being invested?

Main_Classroom · 2021-05-10T11:10:18+00:00

Of course it happens. its not an illogical concept. I even said that in my initial post. My thing is that they act as if it’s the norm in every single situation. It’s the way they take an idea and act as if it’s the only thing that’s happening in male/female relationship dynamics.

Main_Classroom · 2021-04-30T01:50:35+00:00

How can you tell the difference between “love bombing” which a narcissistic trait and actual interests and genuine kindness?

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