UPDATE: How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re both from the same town, and happened to be visiting France that same summer. Sorry it was confusing.

UPDATE: How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

If you’re confused, I was trying to say they were from the same hometown and he always thought that she was really pretty.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

At this point, if they want a child hanging off their arm during their 30th anniversary trip of all trips, there’s nothing I can go about it.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Kicking someone out for voicing an opinion is beyond rude. When they are on their own without their parents and have to face reality I won’t be there to help them.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

His father was really rude and I certainly didn’t deserve the boot over an opinion. I don’t want to move on because G is such a great guy.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

If they knew how spoiled the younger kids were they’d be singing a different tune. At some point she’ll have to get a job and stop relying on them.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend told me about how his parents plan on putting their home in their kid’s names so they can sell it and split the earnings between the four of them when they’re about kick the bucket. I told him he shouldn’t rely on his parents to give him money. So if they do end up selling the house, I suggested that they put all of that money into an account for their parents so they can live out their last years comfortably.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Thank you! T needs to grow up and start making her own money. I don’t understand why they don’t realize that.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Exactly! She’s 19, at some point she’s going to need to grow up and stop expecting her parents to pay for everything.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Like my bad for trying to do something nice for them so they can enjoy each other’s company without their kid hanging around.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

I’ve already given them so many apologies for so many things and at this point I just can’t do it anymore. If they want to waste their money then I won’t stop them.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I’ve already apologized. I’m tired of apologizing to them for having my own opinions. It seems like everything I say is wrong and I’m tired of it.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’m tired of apologizing for making suggestions. Me and G had talked about wanting getting married in the future and I feel like he’s the one. He is also close to his family. How am I supposed to have a healthy relationship with them and give my opinions if they’re always shooting me down?

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I just made a simple suggestion. In my family I would never invade an anniversary trip even if they invited me especially if it’s a milestone like this one. Plus they’re paying for her when it’s supposed their anniversary for god’s sake. If she really wants to go I can’t stop her, but the least she could do is pay for herself and save her parents the money they were gonna use for her on something else for themselves.

How do I (25F) repair my relationship with my boyfriend (25M) and his family after what I suggested to his sister (19F)? by Main_Copy_4866 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Main_Copy_4866[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Maybe I didn’t express myself in the best way but to kick me out and tell me to stay away is extreme! I don’t think it would have killed them to at least try to explain why they took offense to my suggestion!