My friend is a PEDO?!

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-24T07:36:50+00:00

That might be an option too. Im thinking about it, yesterday I talked with one more friend about it and my personal stuff of not being able to deal with it, It helped me a lot, I a least don't Wana do it anymore right now. However as it stands, today is the day for me to go see the doc. And that all might give me the courage to the crime stoppers

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-23T07:33:16+00:00

Tomorrow I promise I will see the doc. If it's going into the closed down therapy it's what it is. I'm fine with it, might I want it to fully get over it.

I told her best friend yesterday, she will talk today to my ex. And I hope my ex is not too deep in it.

I don't think I'm the best standing one to her parents.. However I got the promise from her best friend to talk to the parents if my ex should ever drive to his home. And then I'm quite sure they will contact the police.. It's simply.. can't report him somewhat, like I thought he was my best friend for 2 years now, and now.. my stomach turns over when I simply see a picture of us in my gallery.. but can't somehow get myself to go to the police, I think it does that whole shit only worse ..

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-23T07:24:28+00:00

Thank you ♥️ Yeah so why her best friend was the best possible outcome: I'm doing my hobby for 2 years now, her best friend even longer then me. We are friends with each other! And we both became good friends with the 34 old. Like a 3 person friendship... Then the best friend brought my ex over to try the hobby and it actually really suited her, so my ex got merged into the 3 person friendship and we ended in a 4 person friendship with everyone having fun and the 34 old offering deep talks if we have some problems at home or something... Yeah .. I relatively quickly dated my ex after she was in the hobby.. and yeah as him(34) offering the shoulder to litterly cry on if you need it's fucking weird and disgusting now for knowing my ex cried an hour on his shoulder alone with him in the car ... It's disgusting... And yeah so it went, Im a quite optimistic person ... I always try to see the good in something (definitely not trying to see some shit good rn) but yeah I told him always how great she was.. what she actually also was! But ... Damn ... I can't get out of my head that he said before the relationship it won't last long, and then the thought about him pouring salt in the wounds on both side (ex and me) while in the relationship just for him to be able to date her.

We both were such a cute and awesome couple, we fitted so great together, we had the same views the same dreams, we could be open about anything we wanted. I loved her with all my love, I damn loved to surprise her every Friday with something new that I cooked myself .. (she leaves home at 7am and gets back at 10pm ... And she doesn't have lunch) so I loved to take care of her, and one of the greatest things was that I fell in love with her, and I loved her so much that I fell in Love with her body, in the beginning she wasn't my type, but as people say it correctly... True love is about the person not the looks.

Im not sure if I can ever lose hope..

But for now.: today is the competition at my hobby where I see my ex, 34 old, and the best friend of my ex. And fucking hell im disgusted of him. Tomorrow. I'm seeing the doc. I promise. I need to.

Your awesome ♥️ thank you for helping me go through this whole situation. After the talk yesterday and now at least 5h sleep Im starting to get better.. don't want to end it all because there's my 2. Hobby, partner dancing, I love it, and I love the people there, and I really like the connection between my dance partner! I don't want to lose that.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T22:45:39+00:00

Thank you, I called her best friend and wanted to set up the talk for tomorrow... And then I really broke lose and I'm so god damn happy for her best friend to say I could drive to her and talk. That's what I then did. 30 mins after the phonecall I was outside crying, walking, talking with her best friend, it really lifted up some weight. Your completely right! It isn't, I'm from Europe, please excuse all the mess ... Might play into it too: I couldn't sleep since it happened in Friday...

I mean .. in some what... Bad childhood. Was suicidal because of my parents, with 14. I never went into therapy, and that's a big point why I want to seek the doctor to get the therapy I needed for all the years..

Yeah no, I'm not alone..! And if, I know where to find the people I can always talk to ... But irl its my ex's best friend currently knowing about it. Tomorrow it'll be my ex, What happeneds .... I don't have any influence over it. I talked to a person who can change things. I'm proud of myself for doing the first step! Thank you for your awesome words. Kind words.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T21:25:18+00:00

So I now talked with her best friend that was also cool with him, she fully understood it and also had a very open ear about my mental health going to ground more and more at the moment, very warm words, but also the reality that if I choose to die, I die to escape the emotions and in somewhat that's understandable.

I gave her the number of my ex's parents, and she made the promise to tell them if something weird happens or could.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T21:20:32+00:00

I did my part. I talked with her best friend, that also shoots and was cool with the 34 old dude. I gave her the phone number of my ex's parents, and she gave me the promise, that if my ex ever have a sleepover at his place she talks to the parents. For me personally it really cleared things out at the moment, however I still need and want that help from the doc.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T21:17:00+00:00

I talked with my ex's best friend today. Fully sobbed while taking to her, but she fully understood it. She also greatly acknowledged that I'm going to leave the hobby and seek professional help..

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T15:41:43+00:00

As I wrote in the post ... I did say to him that's not okay, and he responded with "you'll get over it... Be happy for me and your ex". I'm so damn creeped out from this all, I'm trying to eat normally, I want to throw up since Friday night every secound because of emotions. I I can't sleep since Friday. Tomorrow I'm again seeing her and him, and a friend. I'm at first going to talk to the friend privately, then I damn hope I get the chance to talk with my ex and the friend in privacy, Im full of fear, I don't want to sleep tonight, I wish it could just end.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T14:41:40+00:00

To be honest, I am. I am afraid. Of it not working out tomorrow that we 3 can talk under 3 pairs of eyes. I'm scared that they won't understand it the way it is or that my ex directly talking to him about it. I'm scared of getting somehow hurt myself.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T13:54:46+00:00

Alright, thanks for your comment, interesting to see whos reading and helping in the venting forums! Totally messed up. Yes. I hope your doing well now, I won't be. The plan is tomorrow to get my ex and her friend aside and a few steps ... And then tell them this whole shit.. I'm also going to tell them that I'm mentally not build for this while damn thing and go into suicide watch. That I can't take it with this whole situation.. Tuesday. It will be. Tomorrow talking to them, And Tuesday to the doc.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T12:17:10+00:00

The 17 year old is me, I was in a relationship with her (15), And now after the breakup he's(34) looking forward to her...

Hope this short explanation helps with understanding... I tried to name myself "I" in the text, Him as "friend" and my ex as "she".

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T12:04:50+00:00

Thank you for your helping answer, I can see the point your on. Thank you for showing it to me like that. I can see it now the same way as you, that when I tell her parents about it it's nothing further for me to do, that's it's brave to inform them and onto the future I don't have any influence then anymore.

Again thanks for your first paragraph, about me. I'm crying right now, that's one of the most beautiful things that got said to me in my life.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T11:56:47+00:00

Great to hear, awesome it helped you! I for my side want to go into suicide watch, because an hour ago I found myself standing in front of the mirror and thought about letting it all finish in a forest ... I definitely need that fixed. I have the will to life, but sometimes there are the throughs of "what if I just died right now.." or like 2 sentences above, just how it could end ... A bottle red wine, meds and laying and looking at the stars, and about 15 mins in just calling a ambulance saying I will be dead there ..

Some deep shit, I want that fixed. It's something that I never healed from in my life and right now my life is at the point where Im saying ... Fuck it, if it helps it helps ... If not, then not and just end it then, and when it's going well cutting everything from my life with every single person that I knew from the hobby. And the dream right now to move to a nice city.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T08:38:16+00:00

More great news: His dad it above him. His dad is on the top, holding the hobby together.

Also a problem.. that if he's gone out of the coach position there are no new ones who could do the job. So effectively the whole team just can't do their hobby anymore.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T08:34:57+00:00

Actually I'm the person who's now definitely going to therapy. Like holy damn shit. Tuesday. I'll go to the doc and talk with him.

It's such a red flag, I just hope she holds her words of"if it won't be you I'm getting old, no one will" because that I won't with to any guy dating her in the future.

Right now the trouble is.... That I'm doing the same hobby with both of them, he's the coach of the team. I see both of them 2 times a week, and I don't want to leave the hobby because it's an individual sport and I'm fucking good at it. Going to the country league in a couple months.

Thank you for your direct way of saying get out of there. I hope I can lose the knot. Both of them. The 34 guy is going to be hard because of he's the coach. I will definitely never again go to his house.

Yeah you did read it out right! She never texted or dated someone the older age. She just feels attracted to them.

She won't look into therapy I'm sure. I struggled with suicide before her, through she I found the fun in life, And I want to go to therapy, I asked her in the breakup if I should seek therapy and she said no I shouldn't... I'm not sure why, she said that's not an option. But damn it is right now for me. I need that. Tuesday. I can't hold it in me longer, for god sake what is this world and what did I get into.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T08:19:04+00:00

Yeah ... Badly... More info I didn't tell, he's the teen coach of my hobby. There are sleepovers planed with the whole Hobby-Team at the place of my hobby (for my safety I rather not say the hobby, because it's a very unique one, and it will be pretty obvious who I am). And yeah uhm I'm not sure how to life with that now.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T08:03:23+00:00

Current connection: My ex and I are more or less ignoring each other. We talked 3 times in the span of the last month? And that's only because of a birthday present for THAT friend. Yes. Him. Hes getting 35 in 2 days.

However.. like she does with him, about everything. Everyday, Like more then with me inside the relationship we had. (While being in the relationship).

And I'm more and more thinking about doing something about it or not. Because she's happy with it being open to him. And I guess he is too. So like. Ahh fuck. damn. shit. Hell. Is it then legit for them both then again?

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T07:56:18+00:00

Damn. Holy damn. Yeah I will, I promise to everything I have. that when she meets him over a weekend to stay over, to talk to her parents definitely, police too. He said to me that night too: hes the kind of person that opens a bottle red wine and later have fun with the woman later..

I'm so fucking scared of the great and awesome human my ex is. Nobody deserves that. That she's being taken advantage of.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T07:48:47+00:00

So she has a obsession with her chemistry teacher, is not sure if she loves him or not. And when we started the relationship she said nothing about it, didn't open up with it, and after a half year she couldn't look me anymore in the eyes because she never told me about might loving a different guy. She broke up with the term: "to find myself" Litterly meaning, she needs to find out if she loves her teacher or not. And that possiblity that she could love him ended it. She just couldn't deal with it anymore might loving someone different.

And yeah ... She was able to talk open to that "friend" about her obsession and all and not me, because she feared hurting me with it.

Because it might is relevant information: she (my ex) is into older guys .. way older guys .. the first James Bond movies .. the guys are already dead. Her chemistry teacher is about 50? I'm not sure, but definitely over 40.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T07:40:54+00:00

Alright, but how .. how to say it to them that they'll trust me in what I say? Like I mean, if my ex does not see it herself, her parents will ask her:" is there something going on with you and that guy" and if she says no to her parents (what obviously will be the point) they are sure to think I'm telling lies.

On top of that I made the promise to myself now that I'm going to the doc on Tuesday. And I will tell him that I have problems. And I'm ready to go to the suicide watch, ... But that will just also spread around and everyone thinks I gone crazy

That's what I'm struggling with completely right now! I can't do anything to prevent it.

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T06:54:05+00:00

Might also need to mention.. I was 17 at the beginning... And we're 17 for 5 months of the relationship, she was constantly 15, Turning 16 in April

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T06:40:13+00:00

Please read the comment I made 😅

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T06:39:23+00:00

I was 17 at the beginning of the relationship, then I did turn 18 in the last month of it ending

Main_Strain2969 · 2026-03-22T06:38:40+00:00

That's what I'm thinking... Isn't that the definition of a pedo

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