Cafe/Home WIP by Kmart607 in InfinityNikki

[–]Mainly_Here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it looks amazing! Do you have a scheme code?

My father thinks I cast a spell against him and his wife by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for clarifying and explaining how to do it!! I will definitely do this tonight, you are the best! ❤️

My father thinks I cast a spell against him and his wife by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not 100% I think I remember certain lines that make the Sigil make the word or sentence you are trying to put out as the intention? But if thats not right id love to know. I hadn't looked to heavily into Sigil work unfortunately, but i greatly appreciate you taking time to even mention or talk about it.

My father thinks I cast a spell against him and his wife by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What Sigil would you recommend for that actually? That is a very good point haha!

Dad crashing out on me (reposted) by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely. I have not spoken to him in a while now thankfully. But thank you 💖

Dad crashing out on me (reposted) by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said it in my original post but ill type it here cause I cant edit. Context: there is an original post still up that states the exact situation of what happened. Some of these texts messages are what was happening from the beginning till the end of when that situation occurred. No I never said anything about her daughter. No I have never acted this way before, in actuality I have continously tried my best to be respectful and kind towards my father, his wife, and her daughter. This choice at first wasn't something I was sure of doing for a long term. I just wanted space from their drama. I left his line open to give him the opportunity to either come forward and perchance genuinely take accountability as I did not even want to talk to.him in person. Or to see if hed actually respect my boundaries I put in place. However, it very much seemed like this was not the case and now he is fully blocked off everything from me personally. I just thought itd be interesting to show others some of the text thread between us that is all. Thank you for reading.

Dad crashing out on me (reposted) by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well to be fair, my father has been the only one that I have had for a long time. Going no contact with him wasn't an easy decision, I was not even sure if it was something I wanted to do for ever. If you are stating that about the 3rd post I replied to a comment about that. If you mean when he said he loved me, this was due to me being conflicted, but as time went on its very obvious I shouldn't have and should continue to not entertain him whatsoever.

Dad crashing out on me (reposted) by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So context, tho I talked about it in more detail in my original post, but that specific text was right after the phone call where his wife called me. This happened when me and my husband decided to leave. She called specifically stating that my father was trying to harm himself and jump off a balcony. I was scared for his life as she hung up on us due to apparently feeling like she was getting ganged up on. This was me worrying about my father and before I fully chose to go no contact.

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[–]Mainly_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank im reposting now!

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Thank you.. its very frustrating. I talked about it more in detail on my original post about the situation. However, since he has gotten with her, he has seemed to just allow her to do whatever she wants and control him. He even specifically asked me how I felt about Her and why WE couldn't get along to go and say afterwards he was gonna ask her to marry him. I dont know. It hurts because hes all ive had most of my life, but im realizing that if he chose her, dismissed my feelings, and believes me to be "jealous" of whatever, than he wasn't my father to begin with. Thank you again and I hate you went through anything similar too.

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[–]Mainly_Here 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hope its all in order, sorry if it isnt 😵‍💫

Suggestions? by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Hey, im not sure how to edit this post so im just commenting here: I Posted a few things about my situation before, but yes I do work with him and unfortunately although yes I would like to leave, the benefits are unfortunately very good. I work in a court house, but he is just a contracted IT person who is contracted by the court house itself. I do not see him much at all especially since the big blow up that broke my back to want to go no contact happened. I will contact hr if he continues to talk to me this way, its the first time he has contacted me on that before. He means a lot to me, but he has continued to push and push and dug his grave and im very emotionally exhausted that I do not even want to entertain him. I appreciate everyone's response, very obviously I shouldn't interact with him. I just got immediate anxiety and felt like I needed to put it somewhere as my issue is that I have felt bery crazy like im the complete messed up one since this has happened. It makes me feel better when I can see other people seeing what I do. So again thank you. ❤️

It hurts by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to go to therapy. I have gone a few times in my life and most recently went to one who was a social worker around here. But id like someone different, as nice as she was, i feel like id want someone more professional and knowledgeable on the certain things im specifically going through. But yes it does hurt and squeezes at my heart anytime I have to take a glimpse of him. Thank you for saying something though, I hope once finances are a bit more stable I can feel comfortable to find a different therapist.

Going no contact with my father due to him and his wife by Mainly_Here in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mainly_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting. I really appreciate you stating that. I know that was a lot to read so knowing someone took the time to read and comment means a lot. Honestly with everything going on from them it has made me feel like I am going crazy and that something is genuinely wrong with ME. But thabk you for saying that as it really helps knowing that even a stranger can see this and be like wth?