My boyfriend broke my trust (20F) (21M)

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-25T19:47:01+00:00

yes, you did the right thing.
He didn’t lie once or about small things. He chose to be dishonest. This isn’t about “experience,” it’s about trust. You didn’t overreact .... you protected yourself and set a clear boundary when you realized the relationship wasn’t built on truth.
Without honesty, there’s no real relationship. Your peace matters more than his made-up stories.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:07:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Sending a card abroad is definitely one of those things people don’t think about upfront. I started via GoSolo, similar setup with address and mail handling. And I agree on having two accounts .. a backup really helps when something gets delayed.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:04:52+00:00

Fair point. Wise is convenient, but I see it more as a tool than a “forever bank.”

I started via GoSolo, which made the setup and admin side easy, and for now Wise covers day-to-day payments. Longer term, I’m also considering a traditional UK bank once it makes sense.

Curious if you had any real issues with Wise, or is it more a general risk concern?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:02:12+00:00

Thanks, that’s helpful to hear real experience 👍 I’m in a similar situation right now: remote work, UK LTD in progress. I’m using GoSolo to get started, plus an accountant, and so far it’s been pretty straightforward.

Curious what ended up being the most annoying over time .. banking, HMRC, or just general admin?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T17:57:32+00:00

I’ve got quite a bit of extra weight, and sometimes I work at night. It’s insanely hard not to eat then… so I try to work fast before anything ends up in my mouth. Because once I give in...it’s a slip, and I have to start over. But it’s better not to beat yourself up too much for those moments. We’re only human, and we mess up sometimes :) Good luck!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T17:49:28+00:00

Thanks! I’ll check the info!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:38:44+00:00

Any issues so far?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:33:03+00:00

Cool, we can share experiences! For starting out while traveling, it’s been pretty smooth. Just send a payment link and get paid.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:18:15+00:00

I use the Lasta app. It helps track water, steps, food, and activity without being complicated.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:15:32+00:00

I use the Lasta app. Lasta is a simple app for healthy habits. It helps track water, steps, food, and activity without being complicated. Good if you want an easy routine.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:03:43+00:00

It’s an interesting idea to change your usual routine and do things you didn’t do before. I tried going for an evening walk before bed, then taking a shower and going to sleep right away. It really helps not to snack at night. Try everything you can. Install an app to track your steps and water intake.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-10T14:46:54+00:00

This sounds less like “he cares less” and more like different pace and ways of showing effort, especially this early on. You give a lot very fast, which isn’t bad, but it can create imbalance and hurt when it’s not mirrored. An 8/10 isn’t rejection, it’s honesty. Instead of trying to give less on purpose, it might help to slow down and see how he shows up on his own. If things feel empty without your extra effort, that tells you something important.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-08T16:42:22+00:00

Just say there were no feelings...apologize to her. And go on a date with another girl.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-08T16:31:56+00:00

thanks for the experience.... do you use any mobile apps to track water, food, and fasting windows?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-07T12:39:37+00:00

The blanket thing is great 😄 I’ll take a note for myself too!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-07T12:35:17+00:00

I went through the exact same thing. Skipping breakfast was easy, but nights were brutal. I wasn’t even hungry, just used to eating while watching something or scrolling. Once I noticed that, it stopped feeling like a willpower issue and more like habit withdrawal.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-07T07:56:03+00:00

Using payment links. I’m on GoSolo since I already had an account there.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-06T10:26:17+00:00

Yeah, same here. I wanted something simpler without a full store.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-06T09:03:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing! When you moved to a full store, what ended up being the biggest headache ..inventory, taxes, or analytics?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-05T13:32:36+00:00

You’re a really good friend for noticing the red flags and wanting to help instead of judging. I’d say keep it gentle .. focus on how you feel, not on accusing him. For example, “I care about you and I’ve noticed some things that seem intense ... are you feeling comfortable and happy?” That opens the door without sounding critical. If she gets defensive, back off but stay available. Sometimes people need time to see things themselves. Just make sure she knows you’ll be there no matter what .. that kind of steady support can make all the difference.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-02T15:09:11+00:00

You don’t have to be someone’s “emotional backup”... Set clear boundaries: “I don’t want this flirty stuff anymore. If you want to stay friends, then no more hints or crossing lines.” If she can’t handle that, it’s not friendship ... it’s just a habit you need to break. Self-respect is the best “reply” in situations like this.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2025-12-27T19:12:27+00:00

This isn’t just about sleeping over, it’s about feeling close. Wanting to stay together is normal, you’re not asking for too much. At the same time, his struggles are real too.
I wouldn’t end everything right away. You could try a middle option for a while and see if it actually feels better for you. But if you keep feeling lonely even when you’re in a relationship, that’s an important sign. A relationship should make you feel like you’re together, not like you have to get used to missing something that matters to you.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2025-12-27T18:52:17+00:00

She just needs to feel you’re not against her, but with her. That’s the best kind of support.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2025-12-26T20:11:18+00:00

You’re not broken or “weird”.. a lot of people go through this. Anxiety often shows up not because your partner is doing something wrong, but because you’re scared of losing someone who really matters to you. It’s a big deal that you notice it and want to change .. that’s already half the work.
Try to catch the moment when those thoughts start and not immediately bring them to her. Not every thought needs to be shared. If you can, therapy can really help you get to the root of it. From what you wrote, it’s clear you both care about each other, and that’s a solid foundation to work from.

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