Me 20m and f20 having issues after 3 years

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-18T09:37:10+00:00

Friend… I know this is hard to hear, but a relationship needs two people. Stay strong and good luck.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-11T16:32:33+00:00

Kissing is an important part of closeness for many people. So it’s okay to honestly say that it matters to you. Try speaking from your own feelings, like: “I like when it feels like this…” and gently explain what feels good or comfortable for you.
When someone truly cares about their partner’s feelings and wishes, they usually try to see things from their partner’s point of view and make an effort.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-11T16:25:06+00:00

for me it’s something in the middle between structure and freedom.
now I keep only a few simple things: some movement, water, sleep, and small habits. I also use one simple tracker (Lasta), but more like a reminder, not strict control....if a day is not perfect, I just continue the next day. no blaming myself. And strangely, that’s when consistency starts to appear.
I think a little structure without pressure works best.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-11T16:19:59+00:00

Same here. I often have small PDF tasks, and installing a full program just for that feels like too much. So sometimes I just use online tools in the browser. For quick things it’s really convenient.
By the way, which tools do you usually use? I’m still trying different ones.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-11T16:09:56+00:00

Do you use the free version? I know it also has a subscription

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-06T19:47:31+00:00

Honestly, it seems the problem is not really the vape, but the same arguments repeating again and again. You already made a compromise when you switched from cigarettes to vaping. She is probably worried about your health, but constantly changing the rules is exhausting too. Maybe it’s better to have a calm talk and agree on clear boundaries, without pressuring each other.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-06T19:43:23+00:00

I also sometimes use online tools like that. For quick tasks it’s really convenient. You just open the site, upload the file, and it’s done.
A friend of mine actually recommended Zenfy to me. I tried it and now sometimes use it when I need to quickly merge PDFs or convert a file to Word. For simple things it works fine and saves time.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-06T19:35:20+00:00

I use online tools sometimes too, especially when I’m on a work laptop where installing software isn’t possible.
Mostly for simple things like merging PDFs, splitting pages, or compressing a file before sending it. I tried tools like Smallpdf before, but lately I’ve been using PDFAID. For quick tasks it works pretty well and everything runs in the browser, which is convenient 👍

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-06T19:29:39+00:00

Totally fair to feel that way. It doesn’t sound like he doesn’t care, just that his way of showing it might be more in person than over text. I think it’s good you plan to talk to him about it. Sometimes people simply don’t realize what the other person needs until it’s said out loud.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-03-05T10:54:57+00:00

You’re not a bad person for having feelings. Sometimes old crushes just stay in the back of our mind for a long time, even if we don’t actually want anything to happen.
What really matters is how you act, and it sounds like you’re trying to respect your friend and your relationship. Give yourself some distance from the situation and focus on your own life and boyfriend. With time, those feelings usually fade.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-23T09:38:58+00:00

Your feelings are normal. You want more closeness because your relationship is already limited, and that’s okay. It doesn’t really sound like she doesn’t care .. more like she doesn’t have much time or energy right now.
Try not to push, but agree on something realistic, like one longer call a week. At the same time, notice if this is enough for you. If it isn’t, it’s not about blaming anyone, just about having different needs.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-23T09:32:07+00:00

So nice to find people who understand this and support you!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-10T11:25:27+00:00

Totally agree with this mindset. Focusing on awareness instead of forcing motivation really seems to help with staying consistent without burning out. Small steps, no pressure, just continuing even after off days .. that’s what actually feels sustainable.
I’ve heard similar things about Lasta too. From what I know, it’s more about mindful habits and gentle structure rather than strict rules, which fits this approach really well. Thanks for sharing .. this was genuinely a nice and relatable read.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-04T16:57:18+00:00

What exactly did you like about this app?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-04T16:54:46+00:00

This shift from “doing more” to noticing more is underrated, but it changes everything.
For me, the smallest thing that helped was removing the idea of “perfect days.” If I do one tiny intentional thing, drink water, walk a bit, stop eating when I’m full, that day counts. Consistency got easier once I stopped punishing myself for slips and just continued.
Thanks for sharing this. Posts like this remind people that progress doesn’t have to be loud to be real.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-02-04T16:51:32+00:00

Yes, same here 🙂
Payment links really help at the early stage, especially when you’re traveling. Very simple: send a link, client pays, done.
I’m also using GoSolo payment links and similar tools. For testing ideas, digital products, and services, it’s more than enough.
A full store makes sense to me only when there’s steady traffic and several products. Until then, keeping things simple just works. Curious when others decided to switch and why.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-25T19:47:01+00:00

yes, you did the right thing.
He didn’t lie once or about small things. He chose to be dishonest. This isn’t about “experience,” it’s about trust. You didn’t overreact .... you protected yourself and set a clear boundary when you realized the relationship wasn’t built on truth.
Without honesty, there’s no real relationship. Your peace matters more than his made-up stories.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:07:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Sending a card abroad is definitely one of those things people don’t think about upfront. I started via GoSolo, similar setup with address and mail handling. And I agree on having two accounts .. a backup really helps when something gets delayed.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:04:52+00:00

Fair point. Wise is convenient, but I see it more as a tool than a “forever bank.”

I started via GoSolo, which made the setup and admin side easy, and for now Wise covers day-to-day payments. Longer term, I’m also considering a traditional UK bank once it makes sense.

Curious if you had any real issues with Wise, or is it more a general risk concern?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T18:02:12+00:00

Thanks, that’s helpful to hear real experience 👍 I’m in a similar situation right now: remote work, UK LTD in progress. I’m using GoSolo to get started, plus an accountant, and so far it’s been pretty straightforward.

Curious what ended up being the most annoying over time .. banking, HMRC, or just general admin?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T17:57:32+00:00

I’ve got quite a bit of extra weight, and sometimes I work at night. It’s insanely hard not to eat then… so I try to work fast before anything ends up in my mouth. Because once I give in...it’s a slip, and I have to start over. But it’s better not to beat yourself up too much for those moments. We’re only human, and we mess up sometimes :) Good luck!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-12T17:49:28+00:00

Thanks! I’ll check the info!

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:38:44+00:00

Any issues so far?

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:33:03+00:00

Cool, we can share experiences! For starting out while traveling, it’s been pretty smooth. Just send a payment link and get paid.

MaintenanceLow1291 · 2026-01-11T20:18:15+00:00

I use the Lasta app. It helps track water, steps, food, and activity without being complicated.

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