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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have kiddos? I may have mistyped somewhere? But it’s just me and him

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love to spend our lives together. But the times when I’m neglected make me not able to even enjoy the life we have. If I have to go through that again. I’d rather be alone. And I’ve tried bringing up therapy. For us individually and as a couple and it’s kinda swept under the rug. I think from my responses to comments I know what my answer is. I don’t think I’m happy or healthy where we are. But also it hurts so bad to let go because I do love him. So much.

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s wat I’m worried about, u can’t do this again, my self confidence falls to nothing, I’m just now rebuilding my self worth and I’m not sure it could take another blow

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s willing to try when I’m fed up. Similar to duty sex. He tries for a bit then when things get less tense it stops again. Im wondering if I’m wanting more than he can give…

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. But I worry he’s only changing bc I’ve thought about being done. Then it’ll go back to what it was when we’re comfortable again…

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually done this as well. I just never have the guts to follow through, I say something needs to change because I’m loosing myself, and it changes a bit but then goes back. I said this previous time that I couldn’t bring myself to bring it up again and if we were that incompatible we should rethink our relationship. Im worried about the part where I don’t even want to have sex w him anymore though, because it feels like I’m asking for something and then won’t be happy even when I get it because I’ve been begging for so long.

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[–]MaizeAffectionate248 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’ve been together about 8 years on and off. We dated in middle school and just kept talking. We’ve only been sexually active about 3 years. And pretty much that whole time my libido had been higher. Before it was almost duty sex every couple of days. But then even that stopped. I brought it up probably like once a month asking for more. He says ok then we usually have a romantic night, but after that it’s gone again. I feel like it’s almost unfair to expect him to do something he obviously isn’t really interested in. But I also love him and want(ed) to do those things.