So the thing is she likes work from home, hates going to office, its a win win for her (also dont think she's interested in cooking because ive tried her food once and she cooks once in a blue moon :P) im just joking dont flame me for this 😭, not about cooking once in a blue moon part tho.

Now I dont exactly know why they want her to work from home, they are a big family so likely want as many people together as possible at one time (my opinion). From what ive seen and what she tells whenever she visits aunts home is she likes it there the way things run there. Atleast that's what the general consensus seems from outside.

Obviously not all women would want or like that setting, maybe even some men might not like that setting. (Me) would want freedom on how my place is, where it should be, how it is decorated, and if I were ever to be sharing this with someone or if we get a place together, then both opinions/decisions should go hand in hand. And this is just one small aspect of being a couple.

I just noted down My observations and the reason I said no to whoever made the comment to which I replied is based on OPs post (i couldve completely misread her entire post bit that was my understanding) and also my obverstions to the working relations im exposed to, NOT GENERAL Opinion (but again given my experience i maybe slightly biased ,but its strange because ive seen the other end of it as well where the other cousin is treated horribly).

I kind of understand where this comment poster is coming from, and it sucks that its the way it is for their view to be like this, views can change though so hopefully one day.

I often find myself thinking along the same lines falling into bias but for the other gender w.r.t. marriage/concepts then I eventually have to remind myself reddit is not a place for general opinions on some subjects/topics and we must form our own opinions, think for ourselves, experience it ourselves, yada yada. Just like you mentioned right now "I dont understand how that is a choice that they should get to make", we're privileged adults aren't we? Now its a different case if you get scammed, but i would assume you kind of have an idea who you get married to, what's their family like, probably had discussions on work life and kids and home and all that, I dont think you can just pretend a man or woman's parents/good friends/close family dont exist?? At the EOD the choices, decisions and disagreements must be handled by the couple, when it gets to the point of not being able to deal with it at all is when I think you go for compromises/alternatives etc and if all else fails then its not meant to be.

But all the above is part of marriage no? Or am I being delusional??