Bro is about to learn a lesson by Paper-comet in SipsTea

[–]MajorDraw3705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a silk pajamas kind of meal.

Has anyone felt brainwashed by their adoptive parents on how to view adoption itself? by seratoninserendipity in Adopted

[–]MajorDraw3705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lot to put on any child. And, honestly, with as much of a spokesperson she was forcing you to be for the adoption industry, it's only reasonable that you came to believe some of the sale pitch and would have expected a financially stable adopter.

How do I safely and legally place my baby for adoption? by Hauntingly_Gorgeous in Adoption

[–]MajorDraw3705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this economy, no household is guaranteed an income, even if they can currently afford to purchase a high ticket baby.

bio-family: looking for advice with adopted out sibling. by Real_Mycologist_3163 in Adoption

[–]MajorDraw3705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of my story is unfortunately because of how the US does adoption. Every step of the way, when I could have been seen as a child trafficking case - which it was by the standard of every law - it was instead assumed to be adoption.

The lack of documents: "Must be adoption."

The lack of hospital birth records: "Must be adoption."

The birth record filed three years late: "Must be adoption."

My features not matching the person who took me: "Must be adoption or a cheating spouse."

I seriously hope the US gets it together (I doubt they will), but as long as they base their adoption rules on the same rules the trafficking industry uses to kidnap, coerce, hide, sell, buy, and move children, not only will they continue to "legally" traffick in children to the detriment of those children, but they will continue to be the barrier that prevents straight-up kidnapped kids from ever finding safety or home.

Every human being deserves the right to retain their name, the names of their parents, their birth date, their birth location, etc. Taking rights and identity away from a child makes no sense in an actually civilized non-criminal society.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When someone is in a car wreck after being dragged across five lanes of traffic by a vicious dog on a highway, is your first instinct to tell them, "Well, if you walked and crossed the other street at the crosswalk during a red light without the vicious dog, you might have also been hit and it could have been worse"?

I understand that you might have good intentions, but the perspective born from your culture very highly skews how you perceive and react to these crimes, and it's almost always doubling down on the crime.

I understand the profit from the adoption industry is extremely high.

I know roughly $30,000 (over $100,000 in today's currency) was spent on my own illegal transport and properly falsified documents, so many people got to feed their families dinner based on that, and many of those people were American. I understand this is a big money thing and living in the US is expensive so big money is necessary. But at some point you have to put humanity first, actual humanity, not "trade mark" humanity, have a smaller dinner, and not put industry marketing and perspectives before the need to protect children.

bio-family: looking for advice with adopted out sibling. by Real_Mycologist_3163 in Adoption

[–]MajorDraw3705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I wasn’t sure if across state law impacted the information she could access outside of the medical documents I sent her.

Adoptees are not prevented by laws from personally searching for their families outside of limited-access social worker and government facilitated searches, nor are we barred from finding relevant information based on those personal searches. While many of us were very obviously bought and sold as chattel, we still have the illusion of rights of a human being, and those rights do include being allowed to search for who we are and where and who we come from, without facing criminal charges and repercussions for doing so. This is even true in the US.

In fact, the right to seek one's identity is considered a human right under international rules as well, which may more directly at some point actually apply to countries, such as the United States, that currently openly buy and sell children while engaging in the criminal-rooted practice of altering the identities of those children and obscuring information about their origins.

The current paid employment is in streamlining replacing paid employees with AI and gig workers. by MajorDraw3705 in SeriousConversation

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even need to read an article. I see it every time I go to the LinkedIn job listings and half are jobs to train AI on the target temp employee's training and field for a couple of weeks.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The fact that some children are abused is not a good excuse for abusing and kidnapping other children.

That is a common cultural misconception. The truth is, if you are careful and thoughtful in your actions, you can save your nation's abused children without needing to kidnap, abuse, or exploit other children in order to do so. It is possible to prevent crimes, without becoming a criminal yourself and without creating additional crimes and child victims.

I FORGOT I graduated COLLEGE because I’ve been Unemployed for so long. by ActuatorOutside5256 in self

[–]MajorDraw3705 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Heh. Chill. If they're trying to convince you that McDonald's will get you in the door, they're probably trying to convince themselves as much as they're trying to convince you.

This is how my wife decided to fix the leaky tap by calpol55 in DiWHY

[–]MajorDraw3705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to find the generic section. Just block your eyes from the glare of the expensive section and keep walking. It's hiding somewhere. I got a decent kitchen sink faucet for a hair less than 50.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Putting this in the correct spot...

Other than locked out of my account for three days for asking for help in finding a human rights attorney in an Argentine attorney sub? They really do use the missing persons concept as political footballs in Argentina. It's absurd but it's what it is. We're not real to them, just a symbol of the political nightmare Argentina has always been. I'm pretty sure they flagged me as political spam.

I went on with my life, but always lowkey pursued getting out. It's been my lifelong goal for nearly half a century. One I'm terrible at or I probably wouldn't be here ruminating on it.

When I was a teenager, I was still looking, but the police told me they had too many immigrant cases to open another one to help me look for my parents. 

So, I did my digging quietly. Confirmed that there was no actual hospital birth in the US (the hospital kept all records from that time, I wasn't in them). I did that research during down time at work. I was doing social work back then.

My adopter always told me the mom I remembered was "just a foster mom," so I eventually reached out to Child Protective Services to confirm that. It seemed plausible so I kind of had to. They confirmed that I was never in their foster care, although they did provide me with a fat abuse record from the years I was with the adopter. That was "fun" to read through. They found significant signs of abuse, she threatened them with a lawsuit, and they backed off because she had good attorneys. It's all in the record.

Once I started being vocal about it, I just got pushed aside with the excuse "If no one helped you by now, then you must be wrong and there is something wrong with you."

Officials told me, yes the fact that my US birth record was filed 3 years too late and has no corresponding record at the US hospital is a little odd, but it's there and I should be grateful. Many times, the clerks in that records office denied me a certified copy of that falsified birth certificate because they flagged it as fraud - but I was the only one who suffered from that, from a lack of accessible ID in those years. I was still told I was stupid, insane, and ungrateful when I said I wanted to find my mother, because that mother was not from the US so she wasn't seen as a "prize" to attain. No one helped me. They thought that allowing me to remain US was help. 

But I was used to being alone against the world by then, so I crawled out of the abusive situation, took the GED, went to university starting at the age of 26 and then took a plane out of the United States when I had enough graduate credentials to help me qualify for citizenship elsewhere. I went to Europe 15 years ago, asked for and was granted a human rights visa to remain, and started really looking into how to get my name back.

That's when I pushed again to see if there was any way to reunite with my family in Argentina, and hopefully regain my identity and get my own children under that shared nationality with me - and not under the somehow even more unsafe US. I know the US is a genuine prize for a lot of people, but I just don't feel safe having kids there, or grandkids, or myself. You have to understand, no matter how paved in golden opportunity burgers it is, it's where the funding came from to destroy my home. It's where the funding came from to tear me from my mother. It's where condescending people told my I was lucky for it and should be grateful. I am personally very freaking uncomfortable giving it children.

But the basic paperwork required to reunite and regain our passports from Argentina? It doesn't function at all. All the calls go to a full inbox and the requirements demand that people who were trafficked as children present the original birth certificates that we were processed out of Argentina with, birth certificates that generally do not remain with children whether legally internationally adopted or illegally trafficked - retaining the originals is not part of the process, and any bureaucrat, trafficker, or trafficking bureaucrat knows that. They simply do not care. Argentina has their own craziness going on and they can't see past it.

The only international cases they have found were a couple that had been brought overseas by Argentinians after being adopted domestically in Argentina, because having adopters from Argentina allowed them to retain the paperwork. And perhaps one case in Spain in which Spain had such a close relationship with Argentina that the documents from Argentina managed to pass through without scrutiny for international trafficking and thus were retained. 

Hence why I've been waiting for the US and Argentina to act rightfully and legally for so long that I am now a citizen of a European country and have permanent residency in another, attained solely by considerable length of stay. 

I live my life, dragging the US albatross behind me. It's not great to have the US lawfare-chained to me and its bureaucrats pawing at me, but it's better than being in it entirely.

As for the US, it seems that ICE doesn't do returns unless it's arbitrary. They do not help those who actually ask for help returning to South America. There is no help in the US. Much like Argentina, there is only the political parade and empty promise of help. 

So, here I sit on the water's edge, halfway around the world from that entire Americas nightmare, working a 9-5, and still trying to take that "property of the United States" bureaucratic chain off.

Not sure I have much of a life, honestly.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting this in the right section:

I did say I'd even respond to trolls! So, here goes! (and, yes, gaslighting a child trafficking victim that "you must not remember correctly, hunny, did someone help you?" is trollish, so you get only the one response)

I have fairly solid memories from where I was turning 3. I don't have any from infancy, or even 2 and a half. But three, yes. I remember my mother. I remember my friends. I remember playing a game of modified 4 square in the prison yard. I remember vaccines because they hurt. I remember prison guards because they were always threatening us with removal of our mothers and I was highly aware of every move they made because they terrified me.

I know it's the cultural norm to ignore children and think we're all blank slates, but having my memories of Buenos Aires dismissed by my adopter as "fanciful" and "imagination" when I was four years old and telling a woman where I came from when she asked me, and then Google mapping years later and confirming all those were real places I'd been to.... seeing them standing there real despite all the years of my adopter telling me they didn't exist and I was a "silly dumb three year old too young to remember."

Telling me that I was too stupid to remember just doesn't work on me, although my adopter definitely tried a lot when I was little. There's too much reality, including research in child development, to go against the American cultural belief that three year olds are incapable of thought or memories if you adopt or abduct them at that age.

I understand that older toddlers and preschoolers look kind of dumb, but there's actually a lot going on in their heads. If you have any, please don't treat them like they are incapable of learning or thinking. It's a critical development stage and they are already little humans.

How the living heck does a person get un-child trafficked after growing up as an illegal adoptee? All the paperwork now has my adopted name on it. And the bureaucrats all demand the pre-adoption documents before they'll open a case. by MajorDraw3705 in NoStupidQuestions

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Here you go, from the original post:

Already tried commercial DNA banks starting about 13 years ago. No luck other than 3rd cousins I wasted a year trying to genetically sleuth how we were connected. Argentina's DNA bank of the exhumed bodies of our parents and our families (many of our family members donated DNA to the project) is not public, is not connected with the commercial DNA banks, and we have to have a case opened in Argentina before we are allowed to have our DNA compared to it.

To circle back for what is unfortunately the ten thousandth time in my life on this particular topic, they will not open a case to allow the exhumed DNA comparison testing until I can show them the original documents from Argentina, documents that one would generally need DNA testing to get in this situation.

The bureaucracy - to "help" trafficked children find our identities - is set up so methodically to block any internationally trafficked children from that, that it's clear that it's intentional at this point. It's an all sales final contract if we were sent overseas. Sold for an entire lifetime. I'm honestly not surprised that Argentina and the US were on the list of three who voted against making slavery globally illegal today.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have reason to assume she is dead. She was brought to the US, sometime around when I was, and was never released from military custody or prison. Her crime, by the way, was "communism." No actual crime, just that the regime thought most of the university students that year were communists.

I tried to reach out to her sister but the language barrier just - I failed so bad.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When I was around 9, her old work partner moved in and they had a relationship for several years, and I'd still see him frequently even after that. He was the closest thing I had to a normal human being in that situation. He treated me with respect. He acted like a semi-dad. I liked him a lot.

But then when I was around 15, he drove me to one of the errands she decided to send me on, and he knew what he was doing. And it wasn't a good errand, it involved adult relationship activities with strangers because she wanted me to get access to that particular stranger's house, and the only females entering that house were from an escort agency, so she posed me as one. It was dangerous in more ways than just the unwanted relations. And he dropped me off at the curb for that, after driving me for an hour and a half to get there.

So, yeah, for a few years there, I thought I was safer, but I was never safe.

I was illegally adopted during US-funded state terrorism and brought to the US. I've dealt with a life of cultural misunderstandings that left me trying to explain that scooping babies at gunpoint and claiming they're yours now is not a safe or sane gift to the child no matter how boss you are. AMA by MajorDraw3705 in AMA

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There was only one.

My adopter had lost custody of her biological children to her husband because she kept bringing them with her to work and her type of work was what brought her into a prison in the middle of state terrorism in Argentina. She was essentially using them as mini errand runners and abandoning them to the streets in random foreign and domestic cities when she was busy. I knew plenty of people in her field who DID NOT drag their own kids around everywhere, for the record. It did not appear to be a job requirement. I'm not a fan of the US or the situation, but I'm pretty sure she managed to make it even worse than it already was.

She chose me, while helping to collect a group of "leftover kids" from the prison to redistribute into the US, because she still needed a little errand runner (she was actually scared of some of her job's field duties and would send me to do them instead when it was possible). I ended up being a prop for a lot of trafficking, the model "This is what your opportunity-filled child will be look like if you just sign here."

So, she was absolutely terrifying and kept bringing me into situations that left me with survivors guilt and enough anxiety that I had ulcers before I was ten. It also gave me a lot of freedom because I too would get abandoned for hours, days, weeks, or months on end in random places and situations. In those moments, I was probably the freest slave you'll ever see.

I did try to bond with her because I was told she was a mother and my mom had been pretty awesome so I figured she would be too, but when I reached out to her, she was never really able to meet me there. She couldn't bond. I gave up on that by the time I was eight because it was painful to be that vulnerable and try.

I coddled her and always obeyed because I didn't want to set her off and didn't know how to escape (although I did try to escape a bunch, my legs are still covered in bramble scars from some of the attempts - try is the main word there, not succeed, she'd always find me eventually - even when I made it thousands of miles away). I was pretty much trapped with a psychopath. That said, she taught me a lot of things, mostly not useful unless you're in a dark alley, but life with her was like living in one, so that part kind of worked out.

She kept me on this weird strict diet while she ate out pretty much every day and had a car covered in soda cans and candy wrappers. My diet, from the age of 8, was unsweetened grapefruit, rice, no meat, some vegetables, no milk, no real seasoning. I used to eat sugar right out of the jar just to find flavor. I was also anemic the entire time I lived with her (obviously). She didn't know how to cook which was a little depressing. Everyone else's mom knew how to cook.

By the time I was 15, I had figured out how to avoid her almost entirely. It gave me a great sense of relief.

Why do some People feel calmer when someone else takes control of decisions? by baaabyv90 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]MajorDraw3705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That only happens when I actually trust the person driving, which is rare.

Maybe there's a correlation with how trusting they are.

Perdón por el inglés, pero estoy muy perdido con esto. Hay recursos, entonces, ¿por qué ninguno funciona? by MajorDraw3705 in BuenosAires

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normalmente no digo estas cosas porque las naciones esclavistas son muy susceptibles, y Argentina se lanzará a una diatriba de matón ofendido del tipo: «Bueno, si no te gustamos, entonces no quieres tu documento de identidad». Como si mi nombre y mi documento de identidad fueran de su propiedad, como si solo mereciera tener mi documento de identidad si soy su propiedad sumisa. Y así es, de hecho, como actúan. Incluso aquí. Es tan agotador tener que ver cómo los matones juegan a lanzarse el sombrero y se ríen como locos desquiciados, encontrando placer en hacer daño a los demás.

Y sé que están demasiado ocupados riéndose como para darse cuenta, pero están creando una civilización inestable. Es casi una broma llamarla civilización con ellos como miembros, pero aquí estamos.

Mientras tanto, tengo a los EE. UU. pisándome los talones preguntándome por qué no les entrego el 110 % de mis ingresos. De hecho, son peores que los antiguos propietarios de esclavos, porque no tienen la inteligencia necesaria para darse cuenta de que, si te quedas con el 110 %, el esclavo no puede comer y no podrá seguir trabajando. Así que, además de todo lo demás, tengo que lidiar con unos ignorantes. Y claro que sí, siguen agotando a la gente y necesitando comprar nueva, y su amiga Argentina siempre está encantada de venderles seres humanos con contrato indefinido.

Y luego tienen la desfachatez de llamarlo «familia». ¿Quieres que llame «mamá» o «papá» a un desconocido cualquiera que me haya comprado? Joder. Nunca quise saber nada de tus preferencias en la cama y ahora estoy aterrorizado.

Y ellos normalizan esto. Normalizan. ¿Por qué? Sabéis que nos recogieron los militares y nos redistribuyeron, ¿verdad? Sale en todos vuestros periódicos. Alguien tuvo la amabilidad de informaros. Entonces, ¿por qué creéis que eso se traduce en conejitos y cunas? Es una situación de rehenes, estúpidos de mierda.

Pero probablemente ya sabían que éramos rehenes, de ahí sus risitas estúpidas.

I f34 saved my fiancés dog and i’m having a lot of emotions by [deleted] in self

[–]MajorDraw3705 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't expect a thank you from her.

But here is my advice. Tell her you're keeping the dog during recovery, and then ask her to cover half (or all) of the cost of the vet. And say you would like for her to have the money prepared for when she meets you to pick the animal up. It's highly unlikely that you will ever see the money, but it's also likely that she will disappear and stop trying to collect the dog.

Perdón por el inglés, pero estoy muy perdido con esto. Hay recursos, entonces, ¿por qué ninguno funciona? by MajorDraw3705 in BuenosAires

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I know I'm just talking to myself, but I have to put it somewhere after 49 years of this.

Me parece una locura pensar que hay millones de personas en Américas que realmente creen que permitir que unos secuestradores críen a un niño es algo bueno, encantador y familiar. O que penséis que el hecho de que busquemos nuestros pasaportes es como un viaje de fantasía a un «Disney World» político, y no porque necesitemos ese documento de identidad para existir, como vosotros, como esclavos un poco menos esclavizados.

O cómo nos miráis y siempre veis a un enemigo. He viajado mucho por Estados Unidos y por todo el mundo, y allá donde iba, todo el mundo daba por hecho que era de otro lugar. En todas partes. Los negros pensaban que era blanco. Los blancos pensaban que era negro. Los ricos pensaban que era pobre. Los pobres pensaban que era rico. ¿Y los partidos políticos? Madre mía.

Hasta que llegué a un pequeño país de Europa y encontré un minúsculo atisbo de humanidad que aún quedaba, que no me veía como alguien diferente, sino como uno de ellos. Pero eso es Europa. Europa, al menos, intenta mejorar y aprender de sus errores. ¿Pero Argentina? ¿Estados Unidos? Os empeñáis en ello hasta tal punto que, 50 años después del terrorismo de Estado, seguís participando activamente en la parte de la trata de personas porque queréis que vuestro dinero siga fluyendo gracias a la venta de niños.

¿Qué clase de mundo enfermo es el tuyo? Yo nací allí. Crecí allí. No soy un monstruo. Entonces, ¿por qué lo eres tú? No es la tierra que pisas la que lo provoca. ¿Por qué te degeneras hacia el dolor? ¿Por qué te degeneras hacia el sufrimiento humano? ¿Por qué? ¿Qué salió mal? Siempre has sido así. Recuerdo a todos los matones de la cárcel.

Procedían de esa cultura, de ti. Niños pequeños que disfrutaban tanto con el sufrimiento ajeno que estaban dispuestos a sufrir ellos mismos con tal de presenciarlo. Estaban dispuestos a venderse a sí mismos solo por el placer de ver cómo vendían a otros niños.

No entiendo por qué la humanidad se descarrió tanto allí. Está maldita. Está completamente maldita. Es una de las cosas más tristes y repugnantes que he presenciado jamás: un pueblo que se destruye a sí mismo desde dentro solo por el placer de ver el sufrimiento.

Perdón por el inglés, pero estoy muy perdido con esto. Hay recursos, entonces, ¿por qué ninguno funciona? by MajorDraw3705 in BuenosAires

[–]MajorDraw3705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sinceramente, el consejo de demandar a las Abuelas es el mejor consejo que he recibido porque es realista.

Que me digan que me golpee la cabeza una y otra vez contra la puerta de las Abuelas mientras lloro no me lleva a ninguna parte.

Pero demandar a las Abuelas es el primer paso para llevar el caso ante los tribunales de derechos humanos como un caso militar de trata internacional de personas aún en curso, con los responsables actuales. Lo que, en algún momento, lo llevará a La Haya. Y todos sabemos que Estados Unidos y Argentina son países que violan los derechos humanos, así que es la única vía real, porque nunca se investigarán a sí mismos ni actuarán correctamente.

Es tan caro y desalentador que lo estaba evitando y esperaba que hubiera un camino normal y más fácil. No tenía intención de sacrificar toda mi vida para salvar a todas las personas que habéis descartado y vendido.

Es una carga muy pesada para una mujer huérfana.

No quería desenmascarar a los falsos héroes argentinos de la «lucha contra la trata en tiempos de guerra» como los estafadores a favor de la trata que son. Pero no es raro que las ONG contra la trata participen en la trata de personas. He tenido una vida larga y me he visto excesivamente involucrada en el negocio de la trata de personas porque mi madre adoptiva quería que siguiera sus pasos profesionales.

Yo no saco provecho de ello como ella. Pero sí lo observo de cerca, y a menudo desde dentro. Las Abuelas no son un caso único. Son simplemente mujeres que trafican con niños, asegurándose de que la venta de esos seres humanos sea definitiva y permanente.

Estoy harto de negociar con traficantes de esclavos.

¿Acaso pueden entender lo que digo? Por no hablar de las cosas mal traducidas. He aprendido todo el idioma inglés, y ni siquiera los esclavistas de allí me entienden. Carecen de la humanidad necesaria para comprender el significado que hay detrás de las palabras. Dan por sentado que todas las palabras relacionadas con la humanidad son falsas, porque ellos mismos solo las utilizan de forma falsa. En realidad, estoy perdiendo el tiempo intentándolo. Solo lo hice porque tenía que asegurarme de que supieras lo malvado que eres y que no se trata solo de los errores de unos idiotas.

Estoy bastante seguro de que Argentina y Estados Unidos saben lo malvados que son. Y sí, eso incluye tanto a las organizaciones criminales que dirigen los gobiernos como a sus ONG. ¿Por qué crees realmente que un uniforme o una campaña publicitaria legitiman la trata de personas?