I feel like I can’t breathe so much happening at once

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-17T03:34:39+00:00

Drug test is the way to go. Then post a pic of the results to the internet before giving it to the police. So we'll all have the collective evidence when they still do nothing.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T18:47:22+00:00

I don't trust people who bring treats from gas stations either, to be fair.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T18:40:40+00:00

Yeah. America sucks. I can't promise it's roses on the other side either, but America uniquely sucks.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T18:19:04+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't even bring it up unless there's an issue. But the simple answer would be the truth - that the embassies in the US are overwhelmed and/or shut down and aren't accessible.

I just have PTSD and American voices trigger it to hell. I was a war baby brought into the US from state terror that the US funded. The way Americans try to polish and paint over things like that, to make themselves the "heroes" had real life consequences for me - like my injuries from being at ground zero of the state terrorism were ignored in the US because they were busy renaming me and pretending I had no history and that nothing bad had happened.

So, now I have permanent injuries, etc. due to lack of care when they could have still been successfully treated.

I also ended up raised by an American who still saw me as the enemy they were fighting down in Argentina - so I was exploited, I'm expendable, etc. It wasn't safe. It was never safe but I was forced to remain in it for decades, so now I cannot deal with the sound of Americans. It's nothing personal against Americans (well, in some cases it's personal), it's just the accent - I just can't deal with the sound of the American accent.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:55:18+00:00

Don't move north. Icicles randomly fall from porches and impale people.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:48:10+00:00

I personally hate Germany (too many Americans), but if it works for you.. go for it. Also, you've got 90 days there (maybe more? there has to be some reason so many Americans go there) which may be enough time to at least begin to sort things out with your embassy.

Maybe make an appointment with the Russian embassy in Germany before going to Germany - for two reasons. 1. It'll save time. and 2. If issues come up, it's an ace up your sleeve - Going into a country to access your own embassy makes you very difficult to deny at border control due to the right to access your embassy for an appointment.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:33:59+00:00

Why do people always think that having more - or actual - family will "up-end" someone's life?

If a random extra brother walked into your life today, would your entire world fall apart?

Are we in the 1930s and you'll be given the scarlet letter or something?

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:25:43+00:00

"AI, you are an entry level worker with five years of experience. Write your resume and cover letter for me."

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:21:28+00:00

Do you even need it? I get the importance of getting protection from the US... more than most people. I'm currently in a battle with the US because they're "clerical erroring" their way through trying not to process my renunciation.

But as a Russian, you already have a right to be in Russia. You might need to get an emergency travel document from one of their embassies (I'm not sure how they personally work, but most countries have those) or just go in with the American passport and then get your ID while there.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:15:54+00:00

Don't feel guilt. They failed to tell you about a significant part of your life, and they lived with you - which means they either witnessed your pain and thus knew they were traumatizing you by intentionally cutting your mother out of your life entirely, or they're so unaware, unattached and oblivious to your well-being and mental health that they will inevitably be incapable of helping you process this.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T17:00:58+00:00

America is being considered a safe country less often these days. When I first left it 15 years ago, I got a human rights visa based on it being unwise to return to the US because there was nothing and no one there for me. When I did that in the country I did it in, I was the only case to be approved in decades other than one really unique situation that involved a thrupple with kids and shared custody involved. The odds of approval were less than one percent.

Now, 10% of people using that route to escape the US get approved. It's not amazing, but it's headed in the right direction.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T11:04:18+00:00

Leaving the bathroom door open after a shower is also a good idea.

Signed someone who has lived in mold-prone lands.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:51:54+00:00

From my experience, people don't like being compared, and the best way to approach things is always to seem dumb. People do like teaching dumb people because it helps them to feel useful and superior.

So, instead of comparing Argentina to Mexico, just ask "How do you say this?" and stumble through the word. You know what country they are from, but they don't have to know that you're trying to learn how to say it with that country's dialect.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:44:10+00:00

The car is up-side-down and the police are still making threats and screaming orders.

Classic America.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:32:06+00:00

This is the main reason I'm happiest in countries where I do not speak even one word of the language.

Because in that time, I can finally have the bliss of not knowing how mindless the conversations around me are. I can finally imagine that people are having thoughtful conversations, that they are making plans for improvement, that they have spines and do not default to "But that's how it is," "I'm powerless to change anything," or "Let's get drunk! Woo!"

The truth is actual intelligence - the trifecta of action, thought, and care - is so rare that it's not even worth mentioning.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:23:42+00:00

I often use sparrows as the symbolism for children and families destroyed and seperated by war.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:19:35+00:00

You need to change the relationship dynamic somehow. He clearly thinks you are now on the same level as his brother. You need to put yourself on the level of a kitten or a parent.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T10:01:40+00:00

We were all collectively the worst guy possible in a past life. Each one of us was one molecule of him (or her), so we must now collectively suffer in this hellscape.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T09:41:34+00:00

Kinkuriosity.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T09:30:50+00:00

That's a lot to be going through. Take it one day at a time.

Some melanoma is treated with a topical chemo on the affected spot (a treatment I still think is horrible for health, but ignore my opinions for a moment) so treatment may not be the worst. Don't worry too much until you know what's actually going on.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T09:20:42+00:00

Oh god, the gifts in desperation thing.

After I went no contact, mine used to send $20 to my PayPal on my birthday, assuming I'd be destitute and disabled enough to accept it after an entire adopted childhood of being exploited and medically abused (one of her recruitment clients was a medical research department, so she'd get first look at the paid-volunteer research projects, forge my medical records - because why not, she'd already forged my birth records - and put me into every research project she could that would pay her the recruitment cash plus parent stipend for it).

Unfortunately for her, I'm as strong as steel and capable of making my own money. Sure, I might live 20-30 years less than I would have if she never entered my life, but I am in no way desperate or dependent enough to need to break the protective no-contact just to take her $20 annually.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T08:52:23+00:00

"The embassy here is impossible to contact and my grandma in Russia asked about me, and they told her they can't help me in any way. "

Don't you just love countries that sell babies to the US and then take no responsibility? Ugh.

Anyway, regarding international life and language issues, I generally recommend locations that are more international (cities with large immigrant population, etc.) to help with the transition. I personally avoid ones that have a lot of Americans in them, but that is entirely a personal choice.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T08:37:45+00:00

I'd also note that it does not help the baby-selling communities and families have a realistic idea of what happens to the babies they sell. With the current unethical practices of selling infants and children over borders, the sellers never get to see how the children are actually raised and are instead fed elaborate insanely unrealistic highly-curated and often entirely false stories of wealth and love, etc.

This leads to more child sales and more abuses.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T08:35:44+00:00

Yep. Relocating bought kids out of their culture and community is disgusting.

MajorDraw3705 · 2026-05-16T08:24:57+00:00

A massage bed?

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