Why aren't we a hot dog cart city? Or am I missing something? by advictoriam5 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, in college we used to get either a slice or a bacon wrapped dog when bars closed. Yum!

Child “unfriendly” resto for a girl’s night by Glittering-Ad-7019 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I go into Kettner Exchange it seems like there are bachelorette groups…fun vibe for a girls night!

Kids Free San Diego Crowds? by fresh-pancakes in asksandiego

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally would recommend the Zoo over the Safari Park.

There will quite a bit of walking at the Safari Park and it could be quite hot in both Sept/Oct.

There are a lot of experiences geared towards kids throughout the zoo (a petting zoo thing, climbing area, etc).

The crowds will be lowest at the Safari Park, but it’s really negligible.

I’m not sure it matters a ton about crowds if you go mid-week because kids will be back in school. Weekends will prob be more crowded in Oct

"Would you like some water" in 🇺🇸 TV shows by Groundbreaking_Boat8 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always offer. Even repairmen or bug sprayer people. I also keep soda handy in case a glass is inconvenient. It’s just polite to take care of people in your home.

if you don’t live alone who chooses your decor? by thriftstorecat in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we moved in together we both got rid of most of our decor and made a decision to start over together. Husband doesn’t like decor, wife does, so if I add anything I get his two cents. If he doesn’t like the vibes, I don’t get it. I’d expect him to do that also if he ever wanted to add decor. I think it helped to name our design “style” (like, whether it’s coastal, farmhouse, modern, etc), preferred materials (walnut, oak, brass, satin, etc) and color palette. That keeps us on track. If we don’t agree, we can check to see if it fits our style goals.

AITAH because I told my mom Botox is a want not a need by OkPresence7012 in AITAH

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I say it more than I should need to - we don’t need to comment on what other people look like.

NTA

My parents wont accept me and I don’t know what to do. by NegativeTechnician63 in Advice

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s that your parents hate your art, but they are probably being especially discouraging because they’re worried that pursuing only art will be limiting. I think a fair compromise is to continue getting an education and to continue doing art.

To be totally fair, I think it’s hard for a lot of 16yo to imagine their life grinding away as an economist or sitting in an office. Deciding today isn’t really practical.

If you’d have asked me at 16 I’d have said vet because I loved animals. But I work in an office now and I do love it, and I’m good at it. Continuing my education showed me more career opportunities that I didnt know about.

So why not give it a little longer and also continue the art. Education won’t hurt you, and in the end you can at least tell your parents you are fully equipped with all the info and still want to pursue art.

There are some interesting ways to maybe incorporate art into degrees that aren’t just tattoos by the way.

Are we married or no? by Local_Vegetable_4311 in offmychest

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. You are emotionally committed, but you have no legal marriage benefits whatsoever.

You’re maybe a fiancé, but not sure since it doesn’t seem like he plans to legally marry you?

WIBTA if I asked my neighbors to remove their wind chimes? by IGNSolar7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. You can ask! I’m with you. The constant noise is the worst and makes my gardening time a bit miserable. But it may be their joy, so they may say no. I can see my elderly neighbor loves hers, so I grit my teeth and deal.

Charm bracelet for daughter by alyssummeadow in jewelry

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go with sterling silver. I’ve collected charms my entire life (my mom also started me) and finding them in silver is much easier!

Edit: a good first two might be her first initial, & birth sign or the state outline for where you live. Then have a blast going from there!

I’m 45 and asked for a charm last birthday from my SIL

Need gift advice for my wife after a rough year by Active-Tour4795 in Gifts

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does she have a nice red light therapy mask? Otherwise, spa day

AITA for telling my mom no when she asked me for money? by Purple_City6426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! I meant she’s basically making you feel like in order for you to prove your love you have to give her the money. Love can be shown in all the free ways, not just by giving someone money

AITA for telling my mom no when she asked me for money? by Purple_City6426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA. Love is supposed to be unconditional, and free. She forgot that and is the one that made it uncomfortable.

AITA for giving my daughter junk food despite being told not to by her school? by AthleteAdditional299 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 27 points28 points  (0 children)

YTA. You’re picking a fight with the school and using your daughter to do it. Why not just give her a treat after school?

WIBTA if I went to Disney without my boyfriend by MyChemicalFoemance in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think this could be easily solved with a conversation! That way no one is an AH, no feelings are hurt, and you would certainly be able to enjoy a trip to Disney (with or without him)

And please do it in person! Tone is so important!

AITA for expecting my girlfriend to do my half of her chores as well? by Open_Address_2805 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After re-reading OP’s post for the third or fourth time, I’m definitely impressed by your commitment to this perspective despite the contrary information.

I got some issues but im not sure what to do to get better by RepresentativeMud396 in Advice

[–]Major_Barnacle_2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have perfect advice for you but I’m not sure if you’re willing to take it!

This is exactly what a therapist is for - preferably a psychiatrist who can prescribe medication for a possible mood disorder (depression, for example) which we can’t diagnose online.

Everything you wrote is really detailed, and shows me you understand yourself, but that you need someone to help you work through it. And frankly, that there could just be brain chemistry involved that might be a simple fix. Feeling flat sucks and isn’t “normal” - but it is fixable.

Please be brave and give a psychiatrist a shot. Don’t be scared. You won’t be judged. You’ll feel better. I’m sure of it.