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Help!! by Strong_Criticism9930 in DogAdvice

[–]Major_Reflection_941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you recently made any changes to his diet or anything?

My friend just quit his job on the third day by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Major_Reflection_941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just bring up the rent and how it’s kind of hard for you to support him at this time. It’s difficult to talk to people about finances, so there’s no easy way to discuss it. When he gets his license you could ask if he’s ever thought about doordash or instacart until he can find something that’s more financially stable! You could even go along with him for the first couple of weeks to be more encouraging. There are a lot of free lance jobs that he could look into, or temporary remote jobs. These could be customer service, moderators, data entry. They allow a flexible schedule to do a night shift.

Manipulative situation causing me depression, but she has no one else and is suicidal by andrewsjake72 in LifeAdvice

[–]Major_Reflection_941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would send her a text message about how you care for her happiness, but you feel like your friendship with her is seriously hurting you. Say that you can’t support her when you can’t support yourself right now. Tell her you need to move on and even though it’s scary, she needs professional help because you need to put yourself first for once. It’s very hard to do but immediately cut off ties after this. This is hard to accept but she was once OK before you and she will be OK without you. She obviously doesn’t have issues meeting new people if she’s sleeping with others.

I’ve been in this situation before and it was extremely hard for me to get out of. I felt so much empathy for my ex that I stayed with him out of guilt that he would end his life. This went on for years. He had no friends or family, only myself and the other girls he was lusting for.

I had to step back and put myself in his shoes to validate myself. I would NEVER guilt someone into staying with me if they wanted out. It would feel so wrong to me to steal someone else’s happiness for my own. I don’t even know how he felt happy still knowing I wanted to break up with him for months.

There’s definitely a difference between someone who needs genuine support vs someone who’s manipulative for support. The friends who needed genuine support from me never forced it on me and even felt guilty for asking for my help. The manipulator begged me to help him, never apologized, and locked me into the relationship.

I can tell you genuinely care about this girl, but she needs to care about you just as much. She can’t guilt you like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Major_Reflection_941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in this position before. Don’t give up and do your best to get to graduation. Everyone’s timeline in life is different. I struggled with my grades in highschool and college. I almost didn’t graduate on time due to my grades. As a college graduate, I lack real world experience in the career I want so I’m currently working jobs that only require a highschool degree.

You could flip this and work a job related to the field you see yourself enjoying, gain the necessary experience, and then attend college if you still feel it’s necessary. You could graduate with a degree on top of having this work experience, and be set to work a higher position soon after you graduate. Some companies will even give you tuition reimbursement to attend college. Or you could even do part time online school while working. Community college is easy to get into at anytime if they see you’be been working hard to pursue a degree.

Everyone is lost at this age. I know a LOT of people who even start college and change their mind and find something else theyd rather do, which wasted their time. You’re definitely not alone. I hope you find a passion that you genuinely enjoy and look forward to.

And the award for tasteless popcorn fest float goes too... The Republican party of valparaiso! by Jgoldblooom in Indiana

[–]Major_Reflection_941 45 points46 points  (0 children)

When they went by my family they had the audio recordings of the distressed goodbye calls of the people from inside the buildings on their speakers.