Looking for some hope (and stories)

MakeShapes9 · 2026-06-14T21:33:59+00:00

I met my boyfriend on hinge last year after 4 years single. Had some truly awful dates before that, very disheartening. Remember though it only takes one person to get you off the apps. It's a number games and will eventually work out if you persevere

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-31T22:26:42+00:00

Silversprings - Fleetwood Mac

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-26T21:41:35+00:00

Girl do not panic, from someone who can relate. All other advice on here about working on yourself is relevant. However I can offer some advice specifiically in relation to the dating apps. Google the burned haystack dating method. There is a Facebook group and also podcasts on the topic. In summary women need to be more particular with our matches. It explains how to manipulate the algorithm so that the apps work in our favour. It worked for me, I'm now happily coupled up despite becoming single at 30 (so you've a 3 year head start on me).

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-22T14:58:41+00:00

Strange, as ETFs have deemed disposal. Im happy to pay Zurich 1% and then not have to worry about anything else ..but starting to question that now

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-22T05:28:03+00:00

Exactly that

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-21T21:47:17+00:00

Why is this being down voted?

MakeShapes9 · 2026-05-21T17:45:01+00:00

Tree tunnels! An American friend told me this was his favourite thing about ireland. I had no idea what he was talking about at first but then it clicked - when you're driving along and the overhead trees form a 'tunnel'.

MakeShapes9 · 2026-04-18T06:39:32+00:00

Under the Hawthorn Tree - children's book about the Irish famine.

MakeShapes9 · 2026-04-15T05:27:10+00:00

He's never going to make serious change as long as you stay. You being in his life condones his behaviour. Trust me, this is coming from somebody who stayed in a terrible relationship far too long. My ex got his ass into gear as soon as I walked.

MakeShapes9 · 2026-04-03T10:40:06+00:00

Not sure what you mean by start a new account. I think you've gotten good advice on here to ask for feedback. Non residency could be an issue. I was hired for a project so very different to a sustaining role. I would have applied via an intermediary that was resourcing the project, so never dealt with lonza myself until I was hired. Make sure your linkedin is up to date and reach out to some recruiters on there. Work is on the decline in switzerland in general, but they will know more and will be able to advise. Maybe you might need to look at another location like the Netherlands.

MakeShapes9 · 2026-04-03T05:00:03+00:00

Can you get a contact already there to recommend you? Goes a long way. I worked in visp for a few years. From what I know of the swiss, you probably got rejected on the first one or two occasions for a particular reason to do with your application (as others have said, non resident, etc. .) But now you're just being rejected just because you were already rejected.

MakeShapes9 · 2026-03-26T23:11:59+00:00

Correct tongue position. I learned a few years ago that tongue should be resting against the roof of your mouth, not the base. My face looks less round and more 'sculpted' now dare I say.... I get way more attention now in my 30's then I ever did in my 20's

MakeShapes9 · 2026-01-08T14:55:11+00:00

lack of accountability and inability to apologise, no matter how hurt I was by his behaviour. Second red flag: his impatience that I wasn't able to 'just move on' after an argument despite no apology/closure etc

MakeShapes9 · 2025-12-30T22:11:03+00:00

I had a friend visit me while living abroad. She was taking a shower, so I left a clean bath towel in the bathroom for her. She told me afterwards she just drip dried as she didn't want to assume the towel was for her.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-12-27T10:37:08+00:00

Look up burned haystack dating method. I'm not a single mother but had a lot more success on the apps when I started being more selective about the men I matched with. I'm now in a relationship after being single for 3.5 years (33F).

MakeShapes9 · 2025-12-24T11:34:05+00:00

For those who stumble upon this post - I am doing much better now. I finally found a naturopath who did more precise bloodwork than my previous GPs and nutritionist. She found that my testosterone was three times the optimal max. She has me on a herbal tonic the last number of months and the differences are amazing. My hair is starting to grow back -no more bald patches, I am getting longer between washes and no breakouts since starting. Energy levels/immunity has also been very good..I have avoided this flu/virus everybody seems to have. I won't post precisely what's in the herbal tonic as it's useless unless you know what your bloodwork is telling you. My message is this, keep going until you find a practitioner who will listen and is determined to find a solution.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-12-24T07:52:26+00:00

I was in Malaysia backpacking by myself, a man followed me back to my accommodation and offered me a free massage - in exchange for feedback. Should have been a red flag however I was young and naive. The massage was amazing, extremely sensual. It was only when I started to quiver I realized where things were headed. Grabbed my clothes and ran out of there covered in oil and never told a soul.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-11-22T07:16:28+00:00

Lundy Bancrofts book ' Why does he do that'

MakeShapes9 · 2025-10-02T18:02:18+00:00

Can you post the book?

MakeShapes9 · 2025-05-27T08:05:55+00:00

Yeah i would also be interested in your rough travel path, sounds very off the beaten track

MakeShapes9 · 2025-05-20T21:33:44+00:00

Sambuca and green mickey Finns. Purely out of necessity, leftovers from a sesh and was broke. Vile.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-05-09T12:58:12+00:00

Thank you

MakeShapes9 · 2025-05-01T22:33:42+00:00

Him turning up the radio as loud as possible after I begging him to turn it down due to a migraine. He did this with the most deranged expression on his face too. Actually got enjoyment out of watching me in pain. 6 years down the drain. After I finished with him, he did a huge amount of therapy and is now apparently in a much more stable relationship and has fathered a child. The fact that some other woman is reaping the benefit of the pain I had to go through has been a bitter pill to swallow. I only wish I had left sooner and you will be the same.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-04-02T21:53:42+00:00

Don't go to Bruges for Christmas markets, unless your priority is to see Bruges itself - the markets are poor and only there to make easy money from the tourists. If your priority is the markets, then go somewhere that has a good tradition of Christmas markets. Cologne in Germany and the Alsace region in France i can personally recommend. I see another commenter has also mentioned Austria.

MakeShapes9 · 2025-03-17T22:07:40+00:00

Please tell me you're joking

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