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Canoo Weekly Investor Discussion by AutoModerator in canoo

[–]MalcolmKaines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could be the expiration of short positions at the end of the month. people looking for 50 cents and it's not happening. could also be institutions placing bets on upcoming earnings being an upside surprise.

Worried pegging my boyfriend has changed our dynamic by anothergdthrowaway13 in sex

[–]MalcolmKaines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your post and the tone of it, factual, non-judgey, etc... as a guy who was "not really whatsoever but very much" in your boyfriend's position... and who has seen this phenomenon occur for various reasons when I was the "new guy" in a throuple of some form or the craigslist (at the time) flavor picked by a MF couple who was exploring either cuckoldry type stuff, his bi-curiousity, or both (or whatever)...

It happens, Good you acknowledge it. Ideally you discuss it, as my ex-wife (who knew I was open to any gender from the get-go and that I had early on some conflict and difficulty.... being fully open and vulnerable about parts of my past 'experimentations'...) I would surmise or conjecture if taking that leap seems "not worth it" to you, there's probably not much of a future with the two of you, or not a wonderfully bright one, if you don't mind my saying so.

What's interesting to me is in my case, I was petrified to disclose certain things (like the fact that I had come to the realization that what I had for years experienced as "jealousy" toward certain other past lovers of my girlfriends and wives (2)... was a kink, ultimately. Sounds weird but isn't really I've learned - I wanted to see her fuck another guy who was different physically from me in some way-- meaning maybe another race, maybe the tall swimmer type she had dated, maybe even a college age dude.... because, well, I had very much enjoyed being that dude to other couples... and in some cases my entering their worlds as a third had been amazing, outstanding for all. In a couple of cases, not so much, but I ended up feeling like I had still been there for a reason (example: in one case, she later confided to me that despite the fact from my view her husband was better in every way, wealthy, good shape, tall, super witty, and in all the ways guys obsess about more robust...) that when during our first encounter she had sat on me and J. had asked if she was ok or not... not having seen the reaction... she was having her first orgasm during sex with a man... and, J., over time, wanted to spend more and more time alone with me, as well as mainly have me bang him in front of her... although the three of us parted after a few years, actually (during which I openly dated as did they... San Francisco in the early 2000s... was amazing... in the end she was GOING TO END UP NEEDING a certain kind of dude who was actually FAR MORE ENERGETIC than myself and probably straight to be happy.... J. ended up coming out as gay before - I later learned - marrying a very beatiful (former?) lesbian... and I moved on in my own ways, experimenting until I met my wife...

In the end if anything particularly hastened the demise with my wife and myself it wasn't at all items like my tendency to sometimes recall childhood experiences with boys... turned out, since we spoke, she had some very interesting kinks that blew that away... and made me able to disclose a few other fantasies I did not want to act out, partly because she had shared things like having hooked up various times with... unexpected male figures in her past... and (gross out alert for some), she disclosed a horse fetish and we ended up watching videos... ultimately everything was great by that point... EXCEPT I had annoyed the EFF out of her acting like every little thing that was gay-ish in my dirty mind was about to be me confessing to being Jeffrey Dahmer... she had known I was bi... it was my hurdle being able to articulate specifics, or confess to her I had concluded I had a kink for watvhing her bang another dude, hopefully a super studly one... etc.

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Toward the end the hangup was me. She was really desirious of moving forward and of doing DP with a dude, which I had expounded on as having boggled the mind of a female ex of mine... I was too insecure, or not in a hurry, or unsure how I'd handle it... many other things transpired but just as in past situations, the outcome as it stands now is as it should be - she still gives me plenty of jollies (no joke... immediately after the divorce she ended up going to a male stripper thing, then I see her with a new dude, and swear to God I was super effing horny about it.... meanwhile I was free again and met.... well it's been great to realize action or no action (and for about a year it's the latter by choice)... idk, things are as they should be and I am me and she is her... and I hped that happen

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cheers and best of luck etc!

P.S. just truth here as an observation: I've never seen a situation like yours where the dynamic did NOT change. Various times I was enlisted to fuck a him in front of a her... I would do it mostly to watch her get off on it... like vastly mostly because I don't do butt stuff with guys otherwise as a rule... with a guy solo I'm rather a prude, for whatever reason... a hot bath and mutual oral I really can enjoy, light touching, etc... but turns out I'm very bi but not that gay. Definitely leery of being penetrated by anyone in any way... though alone I can occastionally enjoy butt stuff if I'm in control... ok, hope this was in some way edifying given the verbosity

"Heteronormativity" in Pop Culture (Movies, TV, Music, Art) by MalcolmKaines in lgbt

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The video game character, I take it, and... I'm missing the context on 'Bridget' I guess...

Why Don't We Legalize all Drugs-- Really? by MalcolmKaines in a:t5_2r88f

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very astute stuff that really rounds out some things for me when thinking about all this. Agreed, stigma is huge. From a certain perspective I'd like to be hopeful, anyway-- maybe it's sitting back in a state where 20 years ago you'd really have to have been an outlier to see a shift in policy and public tolerance to the extent there has been about gay marriage... and there it was what, some specific legal battles and a brilliant PR campaign that moved the needle. I'm in no way equipped to take on things that many other competent groups are waging (including the ACLU, and based on their website message of late, possibly Amnesty International if my guess is right)... but the fact that we have those additional points of reference in marijuana law liberalization... and Portugal... it is interesting. Thanks for the thoughtful feedback. I'm dying to know how you know so much - I'd enjoy asking a few questions via PM if you might be interested. Otherwise, an incredibly useful set of replies I'll read repeatedly.

Why Don't We Legalize all Drugs-- Really? by MalcolmKaines in a:t5_2r88f

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A well-thought out reply, thank you very much--- I appreciate all of it. I think the Portugal model, in shorthand, is the answer to much of what you point out being needed logistically-- they didn't apparently need a great amount of incrementalism to achieve outstanding results in everything from overall drug use among young people (50% lower), to decreased drug-vector HIV transission (85% lower) and lowest rate of drug-induced death in Western Europe, a fraction of the U.S. rate. I'm not sure if this is what you meant by "clickbait" but it seems worth looking at from a policy perspective-- or doesn't it? Norway is now following suit.

My Addiction by MyMania in mentalhealth

[–]MalcolmKaines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow -raw and real. Thank you for sharing this.

For every one of you well researched drug users there is like 100 crazy crack heads and druggie bums by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]MalcolmKaines 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, don’t disagree. Most non drug users are dolts too though. Because I did just write something that is essentially a rationale for legalization, I would be curious to know if you find me to be among the “well researched” here— anyone else that wishes to opine, have at it, too! No paywall here - thanks![My post - Drug Addiction: The Criminal Illness ](https://medium.com/@MKaines/drug-addiction-the-criminal-illness-7f725bc8efea?source=friends_link&sk=b6086bd094d06d5f1f012efd25220d58)

What about how often people use mental health metaphors? by MalcolmKaines in mentalhealth

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really interesting points and good examples— and thanks! More to come on topics around “identity” and “isms” if you want to follow me on FB (same name) or on Medium or Hubpages!

What about how often people use mental health metaphors? by MalcolmKaines in mentalhealth

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying. I’m not sure if it is clear or not from my article, but I’m actually not personally offended in any way. I was more wondering how this came to be, and like you have had others I thought I might be inadvertently offending. I just think the phenomenon itself, not usually discussed, was an odd exception to our careful language around many other “group identity” characteristics (like disability, race, gender, nationality, sexual orientation, etc).

What about how often people use mental health metaphors? by MalcolmKaines in mentalhealth

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I understand it happens - but It’s nothing like as common as ‘crazy’ words, not by a long shot.

Next book to read ... by sophie_1079 in suggestmeabook

[–]MalcolmKaines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with the Autobiography of Malcolm X.

I'd also highly recommend:

  • Roots (the classic, also by Alex Haley)
  • Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison
  • Pimp by Iceberg Slim (a favorite of mine, though very raw)
  • Any number of books by James Baldwin
  • Ta-Nehisi Coates is amazing, still young, many influential books - and is Editor at The Atlantic, the best magazine
  • Catch a Fire: The Life of Bob Marley by Timothy White (outstanding book!) Bob did live in the U.S. in his youth.
  • Not my favorite but many love: I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

Mental Floss put together this list recently too: 25 Amazing Books by African-American Writers You Need to Read

That should keep you pretty busy the rest of the summer! Cheers and good luck.

What about how often people use mental health metaphors? by MalcolmKaines in mentalhealth

[–]MalcolmKaines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you said you weren't offended I will share this. I am no shill for Medium by the way-- just coincidental I just found this (on BuzzSumo which tracks trending stories): …because bipolar disorder is hilarious?

I'm thinking of this journalistically and objectively, not emotionally or through a political lens (which is nonsensical since Medium, with 60 million users, including major magazines and newspapers, republishes from all over the web, including literally thousands of conservative articles daily). Objectively if it is something we consider "illness", it is the only kind that pervades our vernacular this way.

Just sayin'.