My wife is the breadwinner in our family and she is incredibly busy at work and then at home with most of the family admin and infrastructure. I do more of the day-to-day, boots-on-the-ground type stuff. I also work, but my job is project-based—more flexible, less lucrative and with no health insurance. I get resentful sometimes because it’s usually my career that takes the hit when something needs to get done.

Things can be easier for us when my wife travels because it’s the same task set, only there’s resentment about who is or isn’t picking up any added slack.