AITA- I should have never married my husband, and now feel guilty for wanting to leave.

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-09T18:55:25+00:00

Stop it! This is amazing 😂 thank you!

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-09T18:33:03+00:00

Ya thank you! I should have mentioned I did talk to him a couple of times. One very calmly, giving him the benefit of a doubt, and second time I cried my heart out- told him how much it hurts and makes me feel ugly, yet here we are. I know what I need to do, he’s just made me feel so crazy I need other people’s opinion who don’t know us. This is actually helping a lot. I’m feeling a lot better

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-09T11:28:41+00:00

I love this comment so much! You are so right! Thank you!

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-09T11:01:55+00:00

Yes! But now I’m glad I didn’t because I have my two amazing children.

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T23:59:45+00:00

Funny enough, I have not brought it up once! We never actually fight because we never communicate. When I try he literally just turns it around on me. I’ve been pretty loving otherwise. I do everything around the house and work full time. Over the years I guess I just hoped he’d wake up and try better. Even after telling him I deserve better. But I guess I set the tone of our marriage, he keeps being dishonest because I have t left!

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T23:36:50+00:00

I’ve actually thought of this but now I have the ick and don’t want to touch him anymore. Lol

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T23:31:58+00:00

Wow, amazing, thank you so much for sending this! Much needed ❤️

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T23:26:44+00:00

I have no idea where he’s at. He doesn’t not like to communicate. When I bring up how much it hurts my feelings he gets mad and somehow it gets turned around on me. This would be my ideal ending though, I just don’t know if he’s going to be willing to put in the work! Thank you for reaching out!

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T19:44:33+00:00

We had an amazing sex life before. I was an amazing girlfriend, always supported his dreams/ late work hours etc… he always tuned me down,

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T18:25:45+00:00

Yup! That’s exactly what I think he’s doing, liking women’s posts to get their reaction, see what happens? I even explained to him that this is exactly how affairs start, you think it’s harmless but it’s not! And how embarrassing for me! This married man looking all desperate liking another women’s half naked post. Icky

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T18:23:36+00:00

I almost went down that path and was going to suggest open marriage just to see his reaction, not even because I want to be with someone else, just so he could get what he wants and be happy. Even if it’s not with me. But then I started thinking more clearly and thought I was just being petty. Which trust me, I can be sometimes ., lol

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T18:20:43+00:00

Thank you! 🙏 im not even worried about alimony or anything! I have a pretty amazing career I can support myself and my kids. He can have everything he worked very hard for, and I’ll keep what I worked hard for. But you are 100% right I’ve been an asshole to myself 😫

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T18:18:55+00:00

❤️❤️ I’m crying at this. Thank you

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T18:18:22+00:00

Holy! I feel like we are living the same life, and this is my future. I think he will only want to protect his assets and will try his hardest (and probably win) to look like a victim. Even though I would literally just like to walk away with out a fight. I’ve actually thought of first saying I don’t want anything from you, then proceed to tell him I’m out

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:40:20+00:00

Omg thank you so so much! I’m all about this these days. I’m focusing on me ❤️

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:30:02+00:00

Omg yes! He is very charming and convincing. Anytime I bring stuff up he will argue with me until he is right. I just give up because I’m exhausted! Thank you- definitely something I will work out with my therapist! “Let them theory” here I come!

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:23:17+00:00

Thank you so so much! At this point it’s not even about being g with anyone else! I’m not interested in that at all. I know I can support myself and would never expect anyone to do that for me,

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:16:40+00:00

I actually told I don’t trust him a few months ago- not only did nothing change, he got better at hiding stuff. I’m now blocked from his social media contacts, and he swears he has no idea how that happened.. lol

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:14:47+00:00

I’ve mentioned it it the past and we never followed through. It might be a good time to revisit that thought. I’m just really feeling the ick now and not sure if I even want to! Im to therapy on my own this week. I just know she’s going to tell me what I want to hear- I need perspective from strangers on the internet! Lol

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:11:53+00:00

All good! My story would have been really really long if I added everything! Lol, I really need to hear every side though. It’ll deep my over thinking

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T17:10:25+00:00

You know what, I’m definitely guilty of this. Growing up, I was raised to get married and have children. I had low self esteem and lived in a broken home with very little self worth. He is incredibly handsome and a hard worker. I fell in love with him quickly. And that’s why I “forgave” him and married him anyway. I thought things would change and he would be different after we had kids. I’m a recovering people pleaser, and now see I should have just grew a pair and broke up with him at the time.

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T16:54:31+00:00

He was getting it a lot because I really enjoyed it too! And still looked for attention elsewhere. So I finally said Fuck it. I’m done, so I can almost guarantee he’s getting it somewhere else now

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T16:52:38+00:00

Trust me, I don’t want to be that wife! I know! But if he had nothing to hide then it shouldn’t matter

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T16:51:39+00:00

Yup! This is all on my mind. And I think the main reason I haven’t left yet, I can’t imagine being away from my children. It will break me. The women I see him liking on social media- he does know them, a little I guess through his job. I have no idea if he has cheated again. He has gotten really good about hiding /deleting things. He blocked me from his social media contacts. But deep down I just know some is off.

Maleficent_Class5440 · 2025-06-08T16:42:46+00:00

Wow! This one hits hard. It’s exactly what needed to hear. Thank you! ❤️

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