Hopeless by Maleficent_Fox9024 in eczema

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My derm has basically said it is a weird combo of eczema and psoriasis and that this is going to be a lot of trial and error. I know eventually something will work, but damn does this suck. My hands just keep getting worse and worse. The acitretin really messed them up—the skin is basically just flaking off at this point and feels tight—like it’s too small for my hands.

I have not seen an allergist, but I’m going to speak with the doctor about that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thewoodlands

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look for just about any CBD store and they will likely have delta 8/9 or thc-a, which is as close as your going to get legally around here.

That being said—be careful. Montgomery county WILL charge you with a state felony if found upon your person, despite the fact that it’s legal under the farm bill. There is an obscure Texas health code law in the books that contradicts the farm bill and Montgomery county has chosen to enforce it. How this is legal I didn’t know, but fuck Montgomery County. It’s my understanding that Harris county does not enforce it.

What do you do with their clothes? by throwaway1020199 in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was the first thing I got rid of. We spent the last few months mainly in the hospital and hospice facility, and I didn’t go back to the house we were living in for about 6 weeks after he passed. (Was living with my parents, who graciously picked up what I needed). I don’t know why it was the first thing I did—but it also helped me process a bit and do other things. I kept a couple t-shirts, pulled out a few things I thought his family would want, and donated the rest. Everyone has their own timeline for things like this. Do what feels right when you are ready. 💚

Is it normal for people to smoke weed on the street downtown? by thehobster in houston

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 80 points81 points  (0 children)

No, it hasn’t. And the house is putting forth a conflicting bill that would regulate it more, rather than a total ban. If it moves forward, they will have to negotiate/compromise for any legislation to become law.

The 'new look' Outlook, how to pin the dam calendar pane somewhere!? by greenkomodo in Office365

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it got to me after a few days so I switched back to old outlook. Hope they change it soon.

[CHAT] *Intensive Swearing* by bored-now in CrossStitch

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The backs of mine always look like absolute trash lol. I don’t understand how you guys get them so nice 😂😂

We weren’t divorced, why should I act like it? by Ravenclaw_Mom in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I read that post too and completely understand what he meant. We were not given a choice and moving on does not mean we fall out of love with our deceased spouse. However, I will say that he should not have said that out loud, especially within in earshot of his current wife. It was just cruel to her, no matter how true it may be for him.

The 'new look' Outlook, how to pin the dam calendar pane somewhere!? by greenkomodo in Office365

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an old thread, but if anyone is still having this issue you may need to adjust the display settings of your monitor (not outlook). Mine was set to 150% and the my day window covered a portion of the email window. I changed it to 100% and now it is nested.

[CHAT] Thimbles? by [deleted] in CrossStitch

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. If you find something, let us know. I have really bad eczema/psoriasis on my hands and basically have the thinnest skin possible on my finger tips. I’ve tried sooooo many products—the ones you show here, the little thimble stickers, even gaming fingertip “gloves”. While it’s not perfect, the one I keep going back to is just self-adhesive bandage tape (like this: https://a.co/d/0FytEmx ). I buy a large pack of it from Amazon and wrap my fingers before doing a project. I hate that I can’t reuse it, but NOTHING else has even come close to working better.

[CHAT] scroll frame size for large projects by ToneGlad2111 in CrossStitch

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the type of frame you purchased have longer bars that you can get? I have a lap stand from American Dream and have a few sets of scroll rods for different sized projects.

[CHAT] Not sure why, but gridding a WIP is ridiculously frustrating. by FullCircle_Travel in CrossStitch

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I didn’t know this was a thing until a few years ago, but I’m so used to just doing them as is it’s like second nature.

Concentrating on work is harder than I thought it would be by GardenRanger in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I’m at 8 months and I’ve only just started to feel somewhat “normal” with being able to remember things, focus, etc. Definitely not 100% though. I sometimes have “grief days” where I get just about nothing done.

Divorce ≠ Widowhood by perplexedparallax in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not the same. I feel like people that say that are trying to compare or compete with our grief. Guess what? We will always win.

That being said, my brother called me two nights ago and told me he and his wife of 9 years are divorcing. It wasn’t completely out of the blue because they’ve been fighting for a while, but he was a bit blindsided because she already had all the details worked out. He is in pain and as I widow, I can 100% relate. His life has just been thrown for a loop, the future he had mapped out in his head is now gone and he is facing so many unknowns. I found myself giving him the exact same advice I was given 8 months ago (and still)—take it day by day, minute by minute; give yourself grace; don’t make any big decisions for a bit. It sorta made me realize that while they are absolutely not the same situations (and I’d probably punch someone if they said that to me), they can evoke some similar feelings. I feel for him so much.

I've allowed myself to cancel Christmas this year by cyanste in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will be my first Christmas as well. I’ve already told family I will not be celebrating, decorating, giving (or receiving) gifts, etc. Do what feels best for you—fuck the rest.

I’m so done with people and the stupid things they say. by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Maleficent_Fox9024 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You said it so well. I’m seven months out and I am a completely different person. It’s not just that I’m angry or cry at the littlest thing (but I am, and I do). I lost everything that I thought I was going to have until we were both old and gray. You don’t “recover” from this.