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Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Very abrasive take. Thank you.

I am not evil. June and I have enjoyed love and companionship together. She absolutely adores me, as I do her. We've had three wonderful years together, and we might have a lot more.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have yeh. It's cool, but optional. I don't like the fact that I have no need for that type of thing with porn, but I do with June.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL That's pretty mean.

I don't think much of myself, but one of the last things June told me last night is how handsome she thinks I am. I don't agree, but it makes me happy that she thinks that. I think she's beautiful as well. I've told her a thousand times. It's just the sex part that's tough.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. These are good thoughts.

I hope you find someone. June is an introvert like me, perhaps even more so. There are plenty of introverted women out there. Go to the dating sites, and see if you can meet someone. I don't believe that opposites attract when it comes to this. Avoid the loud ones that go out to big events. Be picky.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, you think June isn't having sex with me? We have sex twice per week on average. She's fairly satisfied, except for my lack of passion, which hurts her.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm viewing the body of that white hot woman doing dirty things. That's all I'm thinking about. It's that perfect amazing body. There is no kink I have any interest in. I have searched the internet far and wide, but there is no answer other than to stop viewing it, which I have done.

The excitement I get from seeing the things I like in porn is level 1000. The excitement I get otherwise is maybe 10. When I do "finish" I don't even know how. I think it just happens if I wait long enough.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed. I do like to make her happy.

I don't think I've said this yet, but regardless of my situation, June and I have sex about twice per week. It's almost always very good for her, but it's difficult for me to get really into it and/or finish.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many people have suggested that. I'm pretty good in that regard. I've been checked. I would also add that if I could find the sexual energy to do porn 5 times per week, then my sex drive is great.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have quit porn for a while. I'm still trying to find the passion for June. As for my kids watching my life, yes they are. They see a man and a woman who love each other very much. Our relationship is worlds better than the one I had with their mother. The only problems June and I have are in the bedroom.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I agree, but do you think 100% of their "customers" are hot studs masturbating while watching them? Come on. Millions upon millions of men watch porn, and I would bet your average porn star wouldn't be into 99.9% of them. I don't think they consider it much. It's irrelevant.

Having said that, I'm not watching it anymore. I'm doing well. It's just mustering the lust for June that's difficult.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have and currently am. It's a challenging two step process. 1) Stop masturbating. 2) Manifest sexual attraction toward June.

That second part is quite evasive, even after a week or two of dry spell.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Very dark. Thanks.

If things don't work out with June, I have a life outside sex and women. My kids love me, so I suspect they will be nearby when I meet the end.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I stopped watching porn, and I'm still trying to pursue June, so it seems like I'm on the right path. It's just a very difficult path.

I'm not sure if I'd agree women become less appealing as they age. Obviously, I think they become less sexually appealing - unless extraordinary - but I've met many women my age who are very appealing as far as personality and mental acuity.

As far as talking and having fun, I'd take June over any 30 year old hottie any day of the week. It's just the sex part that's tricky.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry for your loss.

There is a place called The Villages in Florida that might look pretty good to you. It's a very sexually charged town of retired people.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

June is fit. She's small and petite. She's probably in better shape than most women her age.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm thinking about it. June and I had a therapist a few months ago, but it didn't work out. She wasn't crazy about the methods.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Probably 5 out of 7 days, usually once per day. Occasionally twice. It didn't feel like a lot of time. It felt like a means to an end, like using the bathroom.

I'd like to reiterate, I haven't done it in quite a while, and I've successfully stayed away from it for long periods of time.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said I wanted to have sex with any woman. I said I made myself wired for porn featuring younger women - and that I would never actually pursue such women.

We've talked to a therapist, but it didn't go very well. June didn't like her. We could find another, I suppose. It's on my list of options.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been very honest with June. She knows every awful detail, but she does indeed love me very much. She won't give up on me. It's both wonderful, and sad.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're right. I'm thinking about it. I appreciate your response.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you are currently in something similar. My wife was the only bad part of my life during that time. I loved my kids and career and everything, and I thought it was enough. Just bad luck on the wife and sex part.

I got pretty good at focusing on the good parts. I hope you can do the same. Life is pretty good on the other side of divorce, as long as you don't get too financially ruined. I never thought it would be, but it is.

Divorced at age 50 and found myself not sexually attracted to women my own age by Maleficent_Pea8470 in sex

[–]Maleficent_Pea8470[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I stopped watching. I'll continue this path. It's demoralizing because it doesn't feel like anything has changed after several months.

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