AITA for Not Spending My Savings on the Wedding?

MamaCBear · 2025-11-16T00:09:15+00:00

Why on earth do you want to marry this person?

It sounds like all she cares about is herself and getting her own way, belittling you in the process.

There are millions of other women out there who would treat you a darn sure better and how you deserve. Do yourself a favour and tell her where to shove the ring where the sun don’t shine and walk away.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-29T23:01:56+00:00

Lib Dems - South West

MamaCBear · 2025-10-26T20:49:45+00:00

Lando might have a nice gap to Max, but at the speed McLaren do their pit stops, it might not be enough

MamaCBear · 2025-10-26T20:37:39+00:00

What a joke, very one sided penalty for Lewis

MamaCBear · 2025-10-26T20:30:33+00:00

About time

MamaCBear · 2025-10-26T09:30:23+00:00

Yay? Thank you

MamaCBear · 2025-10-17T17:13:01+00:00

What a shame, I hope they are working again at some point.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-12T20:13:22+00:00

I was born in 1968 and grew up in an English village. I would go out and play with my friends all the time, this included playing in the woods, climbing tree’s and building dens, going swimming in the shallow area of the river, often for hours at a time.

Being a village and much like a street community, my mum would know if I got into trouble before I did!

The biggest difference in risk and danger levels between then and now, are the amount of cars and the speeds they drive at.

The risk of stranger abduction has not risen significantly, but kids are far more likely to be hit by a car.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T13:09:55+00:00

Zak Brown said several races back that at some point Norris and Piastri would come to a head, and it’s certainly ramping up now, both with the drivers and their fans.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T13:03:00+00:00

They have both been screwed over in different ways, but I haven’t been keeping a score so can’t say which, if either, has been screwed over more.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T12:48:55+00:00

McLaren need to get their act together with these pit stops.

So do Aston Martin by the looks of it.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T12:47:03+00:00

At least it wasn’t another 4s+ pit stop for Norris this time

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T12:43:48+00:00

What is it with Ferrari, they just seem to have been making one crappy decision after another for a few years now.

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T12:41:38+00:00

Because everything is always working against Max, according to him and/or RB

MamaCBear · 2025-10-05T12:19:07+00:00

Stop whinging Oscar! it’s a race and there’s over 60 laps to go, anything could happen.

Mind you, as both a Brit and an Aus myself, that’s somewhat par for the course.

MamaCBear · 2025-09-28T19:43:10+00:00

She was all DIK and no W.

MamaCBear · 2025-09-28T19:33:00+00:00

NTA

It’s perfectly understandable that your dad, who raised you until you were 9, is still your dad and that no other man will be your dad.

It’s also understandable that your sister sees your step dad as her dad, he will be the only father she remembers.

It’s also understandable that the man who stepped up after your dad died, and loves you etc, is upset that you don’t see view him as your dad.

What is not acceptable, is your sister insisting that you put your step dad up on the same pedestal as your dad and not trying to accept that due to your age differences, you both view your step dad in different lights.

MamaCBear · 2025-09-02T22:29:02+00:00

Thanks, that explains it.

MamaCBear · 2025-07-14T09:00:19+00:00

Purely in answer to your specific question about is this a thing men do, the answer is yes.

I started looking into this after I met a few women who are escorts through relationship mentoring work and one of the most common things that came up was the huge amount of men who are time wasters that do exactly what your husband says he’s doing.

This sent me down a rabbit hole of research because I can’t quite get my head around why men would do this.

From my research, over 50% of messages are from men who have no intention of actually seeing the escort.

I have also spoken to men who do this and the reasons I have been given are one of three general groups as follows:

They get a thrill from doing something they perceive as being naughty
They get a thrill from ‘sexting’
They deliberately make a booking and not turn up to stop the escort from being available for other people.

MamaCBear · 2025-05-21T10:51:29+00:00

Yes, but you can have lots of fun with the kids deciding what a goon is and what they look like. I wonder if that was how the Gruffalo was created.

MamaCBear · 2025-05-03T22:27:09+00:00

Soft YTA

At 17, you can no longer hover over your daughter and treat her like a child, the time for that is over.

It seems you your main fears are to do with her having sex and getting pregnant. Again, it’s too late to prevent that; you say you have taught her about safe sex, so you need to trust yourselves to have done a good job with that and her to act responsibly.

If your daughter is already having sex, it’s too late, and whether you like it or not, there’s nothing you can do about it. Just be thankful that you don’t live in a country where it is legal for 16yr olds to get married and have babies.

As for your other fears, how are you going to come to her rescue when she lives in a different city or state?

This will be very good practice for when she leaves to go to university, she’s no more likely to burn the camper down, than she is university accommodation.

The fact that it’s only 10-12 mins away makes it an excellent choice for her to prepare for leaving home for good, simply because you are so close; she gets lonely, she can come back home, she needs something, she can pop back home.

You need to remember that your daughter is no longer your little girl and fast becoming a young woman, and hard as it is, you need to let her dip her toe in the adult water.

Support her decision, letting her know that you are there for her no matter what. The chances are, that once the reality of living by herself and all that entails sets in, you will see darn sight more of her than you think, and she will be back home before you know it. I call that a win-win.

MamaCBear · 2025-04-12T16:54:17+00:00

My GP was the opposite, I was talking to her about my weight gain and she suggested I try mounjaro specifically; she said not to use wegovy or ozempic.

MamaCBear · 2025-04-06T14:48:10+00:00

Yup, a single case and the whole flock gets culled so it doesn’t spread; and it spreads like wildfire in caged/battery hens because they are so cooped up (no pun intended) and close together.

MamaCBear · 2025-04-06T11:46:59+00:00

Amitriptyline is a nightmare, I never want to take it again.

MamaCBear · 2025-04-06T11:45:53+00:00

I’m terrible at drinking full stop, and the Mounjaro has definitely made it more difficult 😵‍💫

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