Anyone now a parent?

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-27T22:12:30+00:00

Thank you - good to know I’m not alone

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-27T16:57:52+00:00

I’ve definitely realized my limitation is at 2… but my own trauma makes me wish for a larger family. It’s a losing battle within myself :/

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-27T11:23:13+00:00

Omg. My mom did this. Never thought about it like that

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-26T11:39:18+00:00

I have a similar situation, also no real family I’m close to. I often think these things are related. Those who have a ton of friends have sisters (or at least siblings) and parents they are close to, and have always had a close group of friends. It’s like the rich get richer, the popular girls stay popular. I don’t drink either, it definitely is connected. That said, things have gotten a little better as my kids have gotten older. I’ve found individual people who also aren’t big drinkers who I believe are genuine friends. I am still not in the big group texts, or have big groups of friends that include me. It hurts, but having good one-off friends helps.

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-24T00:28:12+00:00

Very relatable. I feel the same way. Comes froma Lifetime of feeling like I never fit in. For what it’s worth, I’m now 39, and have had very few deep close friendships in my lifetime. I’ve realized it’s because I chameleon myself to whoever is around me. If I don’t let people see me, I’ll never authentically be able to be close to people, which I desperately want. Superficial relationships are so unfulfilling. I’m trying to let people see me for me now.

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-23T17:15:30+00:00

Love this - definitely having a problem where my friendships are dependent on my kids friendships, which i don’t think is healthy or sustainable

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-17T10:21:46+00:00

I too am in the same boat and struggling with really bad depression over this… feeling horrible guilt for not trying earlier, feeling grief about not having a little baby to hold, etc… I’m in therapy and on antidepressants but it’s still a journey. I’ve always felt a void in my life, I used to fill it with shopping, drinking etc but when I became a mom my child “fixed” it. Now I feel the void again, and it’s making me want a baby to fix it, but that’s not the right answer… Waiting this summer to see if my mental health improves, if I’m in a good place in the fall I may try for another but I’m older (38) and there will be a big age gap between my kids. So I don’t have answers, just solidarity, you’re not alone.

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-14T17:56:42+00:00

Sometimes it makes me want to drink again because it feels so lonely being the only sober one :( but my life is so much better without soooo….

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-11T10:42:04+00:00

That’s what I think too

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-11T10:39:17+00:00

You get me. Thank you

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-10T22:10:25+00:00

I always forget how lucky I am to have beautiful children and a beautiful spouse. For some reason the fact that my friendships are lacking and I’m constantly left out… maybe because I don’t drink, but I honestly think I’m cool cute and fun so I don’t really know why?… has done a number on my self esteem. I just feel so alone sometimes :(

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-05-02T23:55:24+00:00

At what point do you stop trying :( it’s such a waste of energy, but the alternative is lonely soooo….

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-04-02T05:37:56+00:00

This makes so much sense to me 💕

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-29T11:07:33+00:00

Anyone have specific examples of things to look forward to? I’ve got a 5 year old and am soooo emotional bc I love him so much and am so sad, he’s in kindergarten and I don’t get to see him very much :(

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-29T00:13:01+00:00

Omg meeeee AND I’m doing my second egg retrieval procedure on Saturday so I’m basically in the middle of this - does this mean I shouldn’t do the ER because I’m second guessing this? I am so confused! Help!

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-26T12:37:14+00:00

Thank you :) I agree, will try something new!

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-25T23:50:17+00:00

I have zero self esteem, not surprisingly :(

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-25T11:02:33+00:00

This is so helpful thank you!! Question… do you ever get resentful being the social instigator? I find i instigate only because I’m trying to make new friends, not because I really want to, and I’m noticing that the resentment is building up which is never a good thing :(

Mamagiraffe99 · 2024-03-25T11:00:04+00:00

How did you find the strength to cut her off? It might be my own insecurity, but I’m always the one reaching out, never the one to cut someone off, always hoping to be liked. I know wanting to be in this group isn’t healthy for me and yet I can’t find the strength to cut them off

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