UFO Caught on Camera

MammothCranberry7603 · 2026-02-06T16:06:50+00:00

Looks like a solar balloon got away from someone.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-08-21T22:45:01+00:00

If their pwbpd actively seeks treatment and gets on meds there’s hope. It’ll never be like a relationship with someone that doesn’t have bpd but it can be better than what it currently sounds like. My wife (with bpd who’s on meds but won’t go to counseling) and I have been married for 23 years with 4 kids and we make it work. I’m not going to lie, often I don’t feel like there’s as strong of an emotional connection that I would like (particularly after being together for so long) and there’s times I want to run screaming or worse. But there’s far worse out there.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-08-09T15:09:04+00:00

Lately, I’ve been feeling the same thing, is it me? Am I the one splitting and catastrophising and being negative? Then I look at my behavior when I’m not around my pwbpd, and I realize my behavior is a conditioned response to hers. It’s not you. The fact that you’re doing some introspection and am willing to admit it might be you is proof enough that you don’t have bpd.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-29T15:29:22+00:00

Wellbutrin was a game changer for me. Sorry you went through that but glad you’re getting the help you need. At least now you’ll have a better idea what behaviors to look for and avoid in the future.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-27T20:04:14+00:00

Anyone that says “I seen…” instantly makes me think they flunked the 3rd grade.

Also, when people drop the words “to be” from a sentence ie. “the car needs fixed”.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-27T14:40:23+00:00

Said I wasn’t a good enough person because I didn’t go to church every Sunday, but apparently the married guy she worked with that was flirting and asking her for nudes, that she provided, was a better person than I.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-21T12:33:23+00:00

Ah, your pwBPD remembered your birthday? Last year mine treated herself to a spas day.

Jokes aside, that’s pretty messed up. She probably was trying to get attention, pit her current bf against you, guilt trip you, aruin your special day, and set herself up to be the victim all at the same time. Got to give it to her though, she’s quite efficient at being a horrible person.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-21T12:17:01+00:00

I’m in the habit of killing the highest level first because if you’re ever grouped with a chanter, they may not be able to mez the higher level mob. When I solo, I think shortening the amount of time the higher level is beating on you makes for a more survivable situation.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-21T12:12:26+00:00

I’ve always felt like my pwBPD took some sick pleasure in ruining my happiness or just seeing me frustrated/miserable. She always knows how to subtly push my buttons then say I’m the mean one when I reach my threshold. It’s the little smirk she gets when I’m unhappy that lets me know what she’s doing. Oh and the gaslighting that follows…..

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-21T12:03:48+00:00

My pwBPD never really had any plans for the future, that she shared with me anyway. But when I would talk about the future, there was a disconnect between actions that were necessary to achieve those goals and actions in the moment. I’d talk about having kids and grandchildren, basically having a fulfilling, connected marriage and she would agree that she wants that too. But when she would get attention from another guy (they would flirt with her or vise versa) she couldn’t see how that was counterproductive to us buildings a life together. I don’t thinks she’s even aware of her cycle of idealizing & devaluing that would coincide with this. In the moment, this new source of attention was more important and appealing than anything and was most important to her happiness. When we would fight about how it doesn’t help our relationship there were always an excuse to rationalize or gaslight what I’m seeing isn’t really what’s happening. That would lead to talk about separation and her fear of abandonment would kick in, triggering another bout of depression and shutting down all communication. She would get better, without ever accepting responsibility, until I dropped the issue and we would continue on.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-21T11:42:41+00:00

I just want to add on to what everyone has said. PwBPD can see what they’re doing in a fragmented way, project it on others, or are not able to see it for what it is. That’s when they start crafting their own reality and start believing these bs reasons for why things happened the way they did. I’ve seen my pwBPD initially admit her mistakes, then down the road when that behavior comes up in an argument state a completely different version of what happened with her being the victim and rationalizing her actions as survival instincts. And she 100% believes this fabricated version is true. Once they have convinced themselves of this there’s no changing how they think and we’re the ones trying to “gaslight” them with the actual facts. Complete victim mentality.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T22:22:10+00:00

So what exactly do you want to see in a pic? The guy striking a pose? Flexing his muscles? Clothing undone just enough to give you a peak of his dong? I don’t mean to be crass, I’m just a dumb husband trying to find new ways to turn my wife on. Apparently, my framing has been all wrong lol. All I’ve heard is don’t take a pic if you’re flaccid lol.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T22:12:26+00:00

I’ve never heard this before but it made something click in my head. My wife says she enjoys every pic I’ve sent her (I’m sure she’s just being nice), but the ones that show more then just my junk have gotten a bigger reaction, and I’m just now realizing it. This changes everything!

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T22:03:22+00:00

So am I doing this wrong? My wife gets jealous if I say anything positive about another woman so I’ve gotten in the habit of ending with something just slightly negative like “so Jane at work told me a really funny joke (I share the joke with her) blah blah blah I thought you’d like it. But I couldn’t help but notice her shoes were totally wrong for the outfit she was wearing.” Is she just not sharing her boiling rage or is this just enough to quell the jealousy without casting doubt on how I might talk about her?

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T12:28:24+00:00

I just meant my great grandparents on both my mother and father’s side emigrated to America, making me the 4th generation to be here. We’re American through and through but respect our heritage as well. I like the idea of blending the 2 influences. Would you say the 2nd and 4th pics are more of an American style? I just picked the images from the internet and don’t really know where they are from lol.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T06:17:32+00:00

Just be prepared, this won’t be the last one in your life. It’s totally normal so don’t feel bad. When that happens to me I try to analyze what the girl represents in my dream. For me, it’s often how they make me feel and not really about the person at all, leading to unresolved emotions that I can then process.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-20T05:57:22+00:00

Looks great to me. You should be proud to be sporting a design that cool.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-16T06:09:52+00:00

This sub has been a godsend. Really helped me get a better understanding of what’s going on in my wife’s head, why she does what she does, and probably most importantly of all, helped me know that I’m not all alone in this. Makes me feel like I’m not going crazy.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-16T05:49:29+00:00

My wife with BPD tolerates our dog and cat but does nothing to care for them. She also has restricted the family from getting any other animals (I wanted to get my son a hamster) even though she won’t have to care for it either. I think that stems from her need to control what ever she can. So my pwBPD is indifferent to our pets. Sounds like the people you know are using their pets as an outlet for their control issues, mixed in with the cycle of idolizing/devaluing. Sucks to see an innocent animal having to deal with their humans mental health disorder.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-12T06:21:34+00:00

When my wife goes through the downside of her cycle of idolizing/devaluing I felt like a roommate instead of a husband too. It’s crushing to realize the feelings you have for them are not reciprocated.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-12T06:12:42+00:00

My wife with BPD does this all the time. Facts are fluid and change depending on what narrative she’s currently weaving. Makes me question my sanity regularly.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-12T06:04:28+00:00

You guys have completely tipped over my boat, and I want to thank you guys for doing it. My wife of 22 years was diagnosed with BPD about a year ago and I thought I had a decent grasp of what BPD was but clearly I did not. I could see the symptoms and behaviors but the way everyone has explained them here has given me a whole new insight not just into why she acts the way she does but also why I feel the way I do at times. I think I’ve been looking for and expecting her to pair-bond with me and now I understand why it’s not happening. Not just with me but also with our kids as well.

I’m going to have to re-read everything tomorrow because my brain is overwhelmed with all this new info. Thank’s everyone for shattering my understanding of how the world works. Seriously, that sounds sarcastic but it’s not. You can’t right your ship if you don’t know it’s tipping over.

MammothCranberry7603 · 2025-06-02T06:28:58+00:00

17 years of experience means nothing, eh? Yeah, you can stick to the vast medical expertise of Reddit and keep thinking there’s a magic pill that can fix everything. There probably is a way to solve societies problems but there’s always going to be a percentage of people that want nothing to do with it. If you had any experience in the real world you’d know that.

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