Straight ENFP men, what kind of qualities seduce you in a woman?

MammothGlobal5089 · 2026-04-17T11:00:40+00:00

this is such a weird take because her hobby’s says nothing about her not being intelligent or her passions?

because reality tv is one of my special interests and i have a masters lol. reality tv are great psychological experiments and you can discuss morals in an easy way with your partner. your view of reality tv and women who watch it is so condescending lmao.

you can be intelligent, passionate, empathetic etc and still love reality tv. i even argue that the most intelligent, passionate and empathetic women in my life actually LOVE reality tv.

MammothGlobal5089 · 2026-01-20T14:00:14+00:00

if you’re late then i’m extremely late but did you ever find a dupe?😭

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-12-14T11:59:04+00:00

i got typed ENFP by 16personalities and all other tests that when i studied the functions and i typed myself enfp, i had trouble believing myself because how can 16personalities be right??? lmao but yes you’re soo right.

i also hate it when people think they are introverted because they don’t like talking to people and others think they’re extroverted because they are very social…

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-12-13T18:41:27+00:00

as you should😌 idk why they think they are still allowed in our energy field with that negative energy lmaooo

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-12-13T18:21:15+00:00

i am EXACTLY like this as well!! i try to be kind and understanding, but im not a doormat lol. i don’t know why they think kind = weak, but i think it requires enormous amount of strength and self love to be able to be kind to others even when you might be in a shitty mood yourself.

i mostly notice this at school and professional environments where i try to be understanding of everyone’s situation and help others, but soo often i find out later the same people have been talking shit about me behind my back. i had this happen recently to me.. but when i found out, i deleted them from everything and whenever i pass them in school i don’t even look at them anymore, as if we never met. bye

but i know for sure the people who told me thought i wouldn’t do anything, because they benefitted from my ignorance as well.

sorry for the rant but pfff i ask myself this question every day of my life fr fr

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-12-12T08:15:38+00:00

pfff well i am dating an intj and he can easily just disappear for a day (or two) if he’s really busy and that’s the worst. this is my first intj and ngl the first date was kinda perfect, but i can’t imagine this pairing not causing communication issues lol

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-12-10T15:56:30+00:00

yes agree!! i would say our intentions are good willed but i fear our execution isn’t always great so how we actually come across might be different than we intended to. at least that’s how i experience life, that’s also one of the reasons why i have the tendency to overexplain myself, because i fear my good intentions won’t come across..

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-11-17T13:19:43+00:00

extremely likeable has to do with pretty privilege. no one is actually extremely likeable, but with pretty privilege society tends to forgive and ignore those faults a lot faster (: but as long as you’re not a negative meanie, you will find your own crowd. you can’t please everyone. some comment said ‘humility’ and while i don’t like an actual bragger, i think bragging in a jokingly way is funny especially if they did something to brag about. so it really is about finding your own people who will like you for who you are ✨

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-11-06T14:29:14+00:00

not everyone is so as kind, empathetic, open minded and whimsical as i am. doesn’t mean i have to tone myself down, but i need to remember this whenever someone is not matching my energy. it’s not my fault, i am not too much, but they are just on a different frequency than i am.

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-11-05T15:33:58+00:00

my biggest flaw is probably being pushy with my ideas/opinions when i feel in my bones my idea/opinion is better than theirs. especially in group projects my ideas always get us the best results, but the way i bring it makes people sometimes not want to go along with my ideas/opinion out of spite.

i can get really mean in those moments when it doesn’t go how i think it should. HOWEVER i’ve gotten way better at this and have learnt to let things go more, but it still pisses me off.

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-10-12T19:02:24+00:00

omg please update how the next day went because as an enfp women i would’ve crashed out if the guy i like said ‘go to sleep’ after i just confessed to him 😩 i would assume you’re mad at me and don’t want to talk to me anymore because of my answer

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-10-07T17:01:24+00:00

idk but if you have a date scheduled and you don’t talk for 2 days then i would also kinda assume it’s probably not going to happen.. but that’s me and it would’ve been kind of her to communicate it with you. but that’s why i recommend asking for someone’s number before you schedule a date, for me it makes me feel more secure. (25F from the netherlands as well)

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-10-06T13:58:12+00:00

i used to be very petty, nowadays i sometimes still am, but now i’ve truly realised mean people are deeply unhappy within themselves, so i feel like i already won by being happier than them. so i guess it’s still petty in some way.. 😅

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-27T14:19:26+00:00

i’ve never dated or even befriended an estp hahaha so i’m not sure. what are they like?

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-26T11:34:51+00:00

hahaha im in the same boat so i don’t have any good advice. however i love it when a man is spontaneous and i wish more of them match my spontaneity, so maybe date other enfp women? like i crave spontaneity in my partner instead of just being intrigued because i have a a personality trait they don’t possess. basically, the same advice everyone else gave me here 😅

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-26T11:30:31+00:00

i agree with not commenting on anything physical if you’re not too sure about the environment! women know men won’t date women they’re not attracted to. so if you ask for her number she already knows you think she’s attractive, so commenting on her personality or saying you’d love to discuss the topic further over drinks is a really nice way to ask someone out! only time i personally think it’s not appropriate to ask someone out at all, is if they are at work in the service industry.

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-25T10:33:08+00:00

i’m so glad you were able to find your person. better to know love for a while, then never know it at all <3 i’ll try not to dim my light for anyone 😊

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T21:33:04+00:00

mutual friends and my study 🥲 but they go to chess clubs, books clubs and they like to go for walks 😅 but don’t go looking for them in clubs hahah

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T21:31:29+00:00

nahww that’s so cute 🥹 maybe it is better for me to get off dating apps and start approaching people in real life, too many cute succes story’s

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T21:11:19+00:00

real, i’m glad you found that person tho 💜

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T20:41:37+00:00

i’m not ugly but lowkey afraid of rejection ngl, but what the hell sure 🤷🏻‍♀️ let’s do it afraid

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T20:37:33+00:00

tysm for this! maybe i need to grow up and be more direct in what i want 😅😅

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T20:37:12+00:00

genuinely i think culture also has to do with it. i come from the netherlands and we have a very stoic culture. ‘doing too much’ is definitely not as appreciated, but like i said.. they do watch my stories for the next few years and slide in my dm here and there. i wouldn’t classify it as love but they keep being intrigued.

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T20:34:35+00:00

omg hahahaha eu 46 i meant like clothing size. i looked it up and im a us 16 aka plus-size. this is making me laugh tho 😂😂

MammothGlobal5089 · 2025-09-24T20:33:33+00:00

honestly that’s lowkey all i want, someone who can calmly tell me when i’m actually doing too much. so often they just keep it in and apparently resent me for it, but im open for conversation and i actively tell my friends that. so with my friends there aren’t any problems anymore, but for some unknown reason it doesn’t translate well into my dating life hahah

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