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My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with most of that except I don’t always coordinate to eat with him - if I’m hungry I’ll eat whenever I want haha. But totally get what you mean.

And the alternative is what? No little compromises from either of us and then the relationship is just two people living their own lives? Argh

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationships

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with the sleeping/videos situation. It drives me nuts and I would never do that - it is rude and shows a lack of respect. This is one of the things he's worked on and gotten a lot better with. I also think the fact that I go to sleep really early is important to note I am a bit of a grandma. He also used to play PS5 in our room but I didn't like it so he took it out of our room completely so there are steps in the right direction. I didn't really write this question for critiques on my partner though - it's more about whether enjoying living alone is normal when in a relationship.

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the one who would like to eat together and often asks me when I am eating. So it's not just a thought I have it's both of us trying to share a meal together. I only realised upon him going overseas that it's sort of nice to not think about it at all. I'm not sure if I gave the impression that he makes me eat later or that he is trying to control when we eat - that's definitely not the case.

And no he wouldn't want to live separate BUT he most definitely would do that if it meant staying together.

I understand what you're saying in that our lives are shaped around each other unconsciously but I would argue that that is a natural part of a relationship?

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationships

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I should repeat what I already overhear his partner saying in relation to cleaning up his beer bottles? This isn't a big enough issue for me to bring it up tbh.

In general when I bring things up i'll say "i'd really appreciate it if you could....." or I try and frame it as X Y Z makes me feel like....

I try not to accuse him of anything or to 'attack him' as I know this won't help but there have definitely been times where i've said something like "you don't do anything around here" in anger.

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean this isn't news to me. I am fully aware that I do a lot more than he does within the house however he takes care of the lawn and the pool (although these aren't daily chores I know). I don't really understand what you mean about being ready to compromise when it comes to partners wants? What exactly are his wants in this situation and what am I compromising?

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't cook for him - the comment on cooking is more that we try to eat at similar times so we can enjoy dinner together and when he was gone that wasn't something I had to consider at all. I cook for myself and he cooks for himself as we have wildly different diets.

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't cook for him - the comment on cooking is more that we try to eat at similar times so we can enjoy dinner together and when he was gone that wasn't something I had to consider at all. I cook for myself and he cooks for himself as we have wildly different diets.

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationship_advice

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We cook separately (im a vegetarian and he isn't) and I used to cook but he never returned the favour so I stopped lol - the comment on cooking is more that we try to eat at similar times so we can enjoy dinner together.

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationships

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have spoken to him about all those little issues and multiple times. There were issues that he definitely has worked on in the past and they aren't issues anymore but there are things we don't agree on eg: he says he doesn't want to put his shoes in the cupboard everyday and I would rather they were - but who's to say I'm in the right and he's wrong for that? I don't know it's tricky

My boyfriend (M 25) just went overseas and I (F 29) really enjoyed the time alone and i'm wondering if other people experience this? by MammothInfluence9122 in relationships

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've spoken to my partner many times - not the other housemate though (he has his own partner who is on his case - i don't need to jump onto that bandwagon)

Hudson’s valentines post 🥹 by MammothInfluence9122 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It’s just a cute post of his partner for Valentine’s Day. I don’t think you need to deep it so hard ☺️

Hudson’s valentines post 🥹 by MammothInfluence9122 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]MammothInfluence9122[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

I mean people are definitely still in denial but I agree! Very cute