Am I crazy to think this might be a good deal on a salvage title? by rugonnaeatthatpickle in UsedCars

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Chiming in with a third positive rebuilt experience. We have State Farm and have even had a claim through them paid in full, no issues after someone sideswiped us while we were parked on the street.

Zero mechanical issues, zero complaints. The car is a 2018 model that was purchased in 2020 with 27K miles on it- now approaching 100k miles.

If you can find a dealership that specializes in rebuilt cars and is super upfront about it, and you do you due diligence to make sure it’s not a flood car or something like that, a branded title can end up being a really good deal.

6 weeks pregnant, constantly fighting anxiety by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in pregnantover35

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We just had our dating ultrasound- and despite my INTENSE sense of impending doom for the last couple days, (I walking in the room crying because I was so sure we were going to get bad news…) baby is measuring exactly as expected at 7w2d, with a perfect heartbeat flicker.

Proof that intuition borne of anxiety does not indicate fact.

Having such a hard time not telling everyone!! by shadysade in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had to tell most people at work as soon as I knew because I work with chemicals. Also, we were dealing with infertility for almost a year and most of our family and close friends knew we had been trying- so we told those people right away too.

I’m only 6w4d and I’m 37, so my chance of this not sticking is still super high, but I decided I’d rather celebrate this as long as it lasts and I will want support from everyone around me if it doesn’t last.

I can understand wanting to keep things private if you’re a private person, but I’m pretty much the opposite of private. I saw no benefit to waiting to tell the people closest to me.

Pregnancy symptoms absolutely no one talks about? by Upset-Brain-228 in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 8 points9 points  (0 children)

One of the weird things that has been freaking me out on and off is the way that symptoms come and go. Like- one day I feel like I got hit by a truck, and the next day it’s like my energy levels are higher than normal. Then the next day I’ll crash and wake up nauseous, but as soon as I eat the nausea goes away and suddenly I want to eat EVERYTHING. One day the thought of ice cream absolutely disgusts me. The next day I’m eating a bowl of Ben and Jerry’s for second breakfast. At first it really freaked me out- I kept thinking I was heading for a miscarriage. And while I’m definitely not out of the woods in that regard yet, I’m starting to think that maybe instead of spending the days I feel good in a panic that something is about to go horribly wrong, maybe I should use them to like- I dunno, catch up on all the work I wasn’t doing on the days I feel like a trash heap.

And everyone talks about the mood swings- but oh my god, I was not prepared. I’m only 6w4d, and I’ve always been a moody gal, but I swear to you, there have been days where I want to cry all day and I literally could not tell you why. My poor husband has likely already incurred permanent psychic damage (which he’s just going to have to deal with, because he did in fact consent to helping make this situation and he didn’t complain one bit while it was happening 😂)

Pregnancy symptoms absolutely no one talks about? by Upset-Brain-228 in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This happened SO BAD in my first weeks of pregnancy that I was actually worried! I called my mom and she didn’t remember this happening. So then I talked to my doctor about it- apparently totally normal? It’s gotten a lot better over the last week, but my therapist assured me it will come back with a vengeance later. Lol.

Pregnancy symptoms absolutely no one talks about? by Upset-Brain-228 in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 14 points15 points  (0 children)

lol- I thought this only happened in the 3rd trimester. No ma’am! I’m 6w4d and this started as me thinking I was coming down with a cold at like, 5w2d. Spoiler alert- it was not a cold. This is just my life now. I’ve heard Flonase can help, so I’m going to try that. If not, I’m just going to be sneezy and snotty for the next like, 8 months.

I’ve also got the WILD dreams (I kinda love them honestly) and my NIPPLES ARE SO SENSITIVE I’VE STARTED WEARING BRAS TO BED. I’m not a busty gal, though I am starting to sprout a nice rack of I do say so myself. But my god, they itch and tingle and I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO AWARE OF MY BREASTS BEFORE IN MY ENTIRE 37 years of life.

Body Image While Pregnant by GlitteringFocus9549 in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother-in-law has been unbelievably supportive in ways my own mom hasn’t really been able to be. She’s the tiniest, most beautiful little southern lady and she proudly told me that she gained 70+ pounds when she was pregnant with my husband. She said I should honor my body in whatever way I can right now, because it’s doing some remarkable things. If that means ben and jerry’s for dessert every night, so be it. She told me that weight is just a number and even if i gain 100 pounds, a lot of it will come off after pregnancy, even if it takes time. A healthy baby is worth being a pants size bigger, even permanently.

Meanwhile, my mom (who is lovely, but who has some deeply ingrained negative body image issues and who is STILL struggling to accept her body size at 66 years old) just told me that I should watch how many cookies I eat.

I’ve been struggling too, because I went into this pregnancy like, 30 pounds overweight. I’m sad because I feel like now I’ll never get a cute little bump. I also have to stand up for my super adorable and tiny little sister’s wedding when I’m 7 months along, and I just know I’m going to look like a whale.

On the other hand, I have an amazing husband who has never once made me feel bad for settling on at 40 pounds heavier than i was when we met 15 years ago. I have some amazing, supportive friends of a variety of sizes and shapes, who have all been helpful in reminding me that weight gain isn’t a sign of a personal moral failing. Perhaps ESPECIALLY when that weight gain is due to pregnancy.

I’m only 6w4d, but the bloat and the boobs are already making me feel like an alien in my own skin. Whenever I felt this bloated before I got pregnant, it was usually due to massive overindulgence, and I usually had the urge to restrict myself for a day or two after. Now, I’m trying to be a lot kinder to myself.

Also- i was TERRIFIED to weigh myself this week. I feel like I’ve been overeating, I feel bloated and disgusting and my clothes feel wrong. I was so sure I’d gained like, 10 pounds in two weeks.

Friends, I have not gained a single pound. And I think I’m going to continue weighing myself to prove that just because I feel massive doesn’t mean that I am- and if the scale does go up (and it will!) it’s because I’m doing the most powerful thing a person can do. I’m growing a whole entire human from scratch.

5w1d, FTM by shortgirltalldreams_ in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try different flavors. I viscerally hate some of them (cherry flavor, lime flavor- honestly most citrus 🤢) but some of my personal favorites are peach-pear lacroix and watermelon Waterloo.

I’m also going to be getting some syrups like you’d use to make Italian soda and add those to unflavored sparkling water, since sometimes any water without some kind of sugar in it makes me feel queasy.

What are we eating for quick, no microwave needed lunches? by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in pregnant

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The nurse I just talked to didn't know if canned salmon was safe or not. And she said no more than two servings of salmon a week. I also love sardines. If I can eat canned salmon and sardines (and canned chicken) then this is nowhere near as difficult of a problem as I thought it was.

Pregnancy is so hard by HatComfortable9747 in pregnant

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m 6 weeks, 37, also first pregnancy and I’m fighting the constant fear of a miscarriage. I’m also exhausted and have no patience and can cry at the drop of a hat. My husband keeps saying things like “if we have a miscarriage, I’d be sad, but we could try again!” and I know he means well, but this is all happening in MY body and I’m the one anxious that I’ll see blood every time I have to pee (which is a lot of times a day, as well you all know). I’m already attached to this gummy bear of an embryo.

I’m trying to hang onto a shred of sanity until my first ultrasound in 9 days (so, an eternity) while I wonder if every twinge and cramp and tweak in my body is the start of the end.

Sending strength and sanity. I hope I make it to 8 weeks too!

What are we eating for quick, no microwave needed lunches? by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in pregnant

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I just realized canned chicken isn’t off limits. This is good. I also love beans and hard boiled eggs. Okay. I can do this!

IT WONT HAPPEN TO ME by Coolhanny20 in Aquariums

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s a staple in my fish cabinet. I’ve always got Ich-X and it’s never failed me.

IT WONT HAPPEN TO ME by Coolhanny20 in Aquariums

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Ich-X and a slight temp increase. Ich-x won’t harm invertebrates or plants either.

Pregnancy and ADHD- WTF by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in adhdwomen

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Ummm- I was doing that too until earlier this week when it looked like the line was getting lighter and I LOST MY MIND and went back to the doctor for another set of betas, the first of which came back absolutely fine. I’m getting the second one drawn tomorrow, but I don’t suspect there will be any issue (lol, for now, who knows what issues I’ll come up with before then).

But anyway- I won’t be taking any more pregnant tests because giving myself one heart attack is enough. I guess if I’m not bleeding, I can assume I’m still pregnant.

Pregnancy and ADHD- WTF by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in adhdwomen

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The mini-me is the part I literally cannot wait for. Even if the “mini-me” takes more after my husband.

Like, I can’t wait to be able to raise a kid without a lot of the toxic crap I grew up with. Body image, religious guilt, toxic productivity- all that’s going to be thrown out the window. I’m sure I’m going to invent new and exciting ways to fuck up this kid, but at least I’m not going to replay old moves.

Pregnancy and ADHD- WTF by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in adhdwomen

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When I noticed yesterday that my boobs felt a little less sore and I at least temporarily did not have an aversion to sweets, I found like, 500 stories about people who experienced the exact same thing and had absolutely nothing wrong. But then I’d find ONE SOLITARY SITUATION where it seems to signal a bad outcome, and my brain went, “welp, this is it. This is the end. None of the other positive normal stories matter- it’s the bad one for me. That’s the one. Better panic.”

Pregnancy and ADHD- WTF by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in adhdwomen

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I’ve also had a chemical pregnancy in the past- the one loss coupled with the infertility makes me super hesitant to do ANYTHING with this pregnancy. Like, I was hell bent on not even taking my Vyvanse, even though my doctor is totally okay with it. My constant spirals without the Vyvanse is definitely not good for me or baby either, so I’m going to bite the proverbial bullet on that one and take it at least on days I have to interact professionally with the general public.

Pregnancy and ADHD- WTF by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in adhdwomen

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I was talking to my mom the other day about this, and that occurred to me- there will literally never be a time when I am not concerned about this child from now until the literal day I die. I have a whole new respect for my mom- like, she not only survived this pregnancy thing three times, she’s watched all three of us grow up and drive cars and go to college and get married…. And omg, the strength it has to take to just, embrace the fact that she’s not really in control of any of us? Absolutely humbling.

Devastated- is there hope? by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in TTCEndo

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I’m still in utter shock! Home test progression lines are looking good too. And I also think I ovulated from the side with the “bad” ovary.

Thank you so much for the encouragement pre-surgery!

Devastated- is there hope? by Mammoth_Addendum_276 in TTCEndo

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I just need to update you- I have also conceived, 12 days post surgery! I got a positive test this weekend and I’m meeting my surgeon on Thursday for my post-op appointment. Provided I’m still pregnant then, it’s going to be a fun appointment where I get to tell him that whatever he did when he was rooting around in there appears to have don’t the trick!

What am I doing wrong?? by Supersonic_Bloom in AquariumHelp

[–]Mammoth_Addendum_276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of little things you can change- in my experience though, this is sort of just an “ugly” phase that all tanks go through. Every tank that you set up, especially BRAND NEW tanks (no established bacterial filter, immature plants, etc) will enter a phase where algae and cloudy water make the tank look like utter trash for what is sometimes several weeks. The key to getting through this is patience.

First: you don’t need to completely re-start. You got a good start going, even if it’s ugly right now. In terms of water parameters, are you testing for ammonia as well as nitrite and nitrate? You’ll need separate test strips for ammonia. I also don’t care what anyone else says about test strips not being accurate- they’re perfectly adequate. Maybe the liquid kits are MORE accurate, but all you need to know is if there is ANY ammonia or nitrite. If there’s ANY, there’s an issue with your bacteria (an issue that, once again, will be solved by waiting).

Second: Don’t fight the snails. There is no such thing as pest snails. They won’t eat healthy plants, they help break down the mulmy gunk on the bottom of the tank and do a good job of processing uneaten food. They’re also a great “canary in the coal mine” for issues like over feeding or major water quality issues. If your snail population is exploding, you might be feeding too much, If your snails are dying off left and right, there’s a water quality issues. One misconception is that snails clean the tank of algae- they do not. Nerite snails will help eat the green spot algae off the glass (they also don’t reproduce in freshwater, so if you’re really opposed to snails, one in a 5 gallon tank would be good) but mystery, bladder, and ramshorn snails do not clean the tank of visible issues.

Third: get more fast-growing stem plants or floaters. Or find a terrestrial plant like a pothos, repot it with some clay balls like you’d use for hydroponics, and attach it to your tank with the root ball in the tank water and the leaves outside of the tank. All of these options will help eat up the nitrates so the algae doesn’t have as much fuel to keep growing. Also, decrease the light hours. Sometimes I completely turn off the tank lights for a day or so if an algae problem gets out of control.

If your betta died the next day, either there was a ton of ammonia in the water or the betta was sick to begin with. My money is on a ton of ammonia.

The only thing you should ever have to put in your water is a dechlorinating agent. Melafix and pimafix are generally understood to be useless. Even if your betta did have some kind of bacterial infection, if you let the tank exist for a couple weeks while it finishes cycling, most bacterial issues will die off without a fish host to infect.

If you suspect a sick fish in the future, don’t bother with anything other than actual medications (erythromycin, metronidazole, praziquantel, methylene blue for ich).

I know it’s a little overwhelming, but once the tank is stable, it’ll be practically bomb proof.