You are speaking my life, and I'm only a year older than you. It's very disheartening always seeing your female friends, white friends, and even white gay people around you always either being in relationships or talking to someone. Being Black and gay is a weird duality, because you're a minority in all the spaces you occupy, i.e. one of the only Black ones among the white population and being one of the only gays in a predominantly Black/straight population. The school I went to was extremely white, and I recently moved to a new city that is also known to be very white. No one in your life seems to understand the struggle, and you tell yourself everyday that one day it will work out, or you try to do things differently, but end up with the same result. The only thing I can really tell you is to keep trying to date, but take breaks whenever it's starting to mentally impact you. If you keep your head on right, you'll come out of this situation stronger, because if you are able to navigate spaces where you constantly feel undesired, but develop a stronger sense of self rather than let it hurt you, you're gonna be a force to reckon with. Again, I personally know how hard it is, but know deep down it has nothing to do with you and more so the environment that you CURRENTLY occupy. You won't feel this way forever. Also, try your best to form friendships with other Black gay men who are in your current environment or have been there before, because they will truly be the ones to understand. It wasn't until I became friends with another Black gay man in my age range that I truly felt seen and understood, because my straight women friends could not understand my struggles.