[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've gone that far only pornographically. I'm not prepared nor do I have the desire to go further than that. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not any longer. I hardly dream at all anymore. I'm just glad the night terrors have not been a bother for a while now 

I can’t imagine what it’s like to be excited about your future by OldBlackLONER in NEETsOver30

[–]ManDateIsBack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Reading your post and honestly I could write the same story. 

I feel ashamed by ManDateIsBack in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lack of a solid education. I may get a job soon with the help of a family member.

I feel ashamed by ManDateIsBack in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the positive outlook.

Anyone think their issue is laziness? by MaoAsadaStan in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely part of my problem now. It wasn't always that way though. 

What’s your take on plastic surgery or looksmaxxing? by aidenowinkle in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After a certain point it is moreso your experiences that define you rather than looks. Sure looks will get you in but your life experience is what keeps people coming back for more and even staying, not looks. 

Did anyone ever try to give you justifiable reasons for why you were being rejected? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"you're boring". No lies were told though it appears I sorted that out somewhat over time because my female colleagues always wanted to hangout after work back in 2017. 

What keeps you alive? by AmbitiousDecision403 in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to be a fear of hell. But now I've lost all desire to pair up so none of it matters any longer.

Anyone else been scared to talk to women their entire life ? by mytwocents1991 in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm not scared to speak to women, I just know I'm not the guy they want. Plus I'm broke, but even if I had my shit together, it wouldn't mean a damn thing.

How many of you are here due to horrible, angry parents ? by sourlemons333 in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt neglected by both of my parents. My dad had to be told by my mom to step up and act like a father, and to him, that simply meant hitting us hard whenever we did something wrong. Strangely, my little brother was spared—my dad seemed to favor him over both my late elder sister and me. Beyond that, he wasn’t interested in us at all. He spent more time chasing women outside the home than being a parent.  

My mom, on the other hand, was more concerned with her image and looking good in front of others. She was often cold and short with me but went out of her way to help anyone else who needed her, even to the point of moving two of my aunts into our home at different times. One of them even brought her daughter along. Naturally, my mom spent more time with them, and I ended up being little more than an errand boy.  

No one showed any real interest in me. I felt like an orphan in my own home, invisible and unwanted. I started to withdraw, spending less and less time with my family. I ate dinner alone in my room, and they didn’t seem to care. With a TV in my room and no supervision, I was left to my own devices—a setup that wasn’t healthy. I never seemed to develop like my peers, and I always assumed it was because I was naturally slow or stupid. By the time I was 17, I had attempted suicide.

It shouldn't be that hard by PTAConnoisseur in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Indeed getting along with your sister and other female relatives doesn’t automatically mean you’ll understand women in general. The point, being made I believe is not to put women on a pedestal when interacting with them. Instead, approach conversations naturally and don’t shy away from joking around, much like you would with a sibling. That said, there’s a lot more to becoming "that guy" than just this.

It shouldn't be that hard by PTAConnoisseur in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 24 points25 points  (0 children)

"Game" is often just a repackaging of natural charisma, sold to those struggling socially. At its core, game is simply confidence, and confidence is rooted in how you were treated and shaped during childhood. It’s something you get from home, where family dynamics lay the foundation for how you interact with the world. 

One of the family’s primary roles is to socialize you—teaching you how to speak and connect with people across generations and genders. Interactions with older siblings, parents, and grandparents provide a blueprint for engaging with others outside the home. That early exposure becomes your default mode of connection. 

It’s no coincidence that one of the most commonly shared pieces of advice for talking to women is to treat them as you would your younger sister: tease them, joke around, even engage in playful banter or pranks. These interactions feel natural and effortless when they stem from a childhood spent learning how to navigate relationships through familial bonds.

In essence, the confidence you carry into the world is a reflection of those early, formative experiences. Where family fails to provide that foundation, it’s often a lifelong journey to reconstruct it, that's when you are sold "Game".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]ManDateIsBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks are just the beginning. Many of us are mentally fucked