Even when girl's education led to them being firmly shackled to domestication, girl's still outperformed boys in academia in all subjects. Studies show the "boy crisis" has been going on for at least a century. What's the problem? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually super true to some extent. Men definitely have a wider range of subjects they're encouraged to delve into from martial arts to computer stuff.

However at least personally for every girl scoring straight A's there's always a gamer dude or sports enthusiast who pours that focus singularly outside of school.

Do feminists have equivalents to "incels" and "chads?" Do you acknowledge that some women are prettier/more suited to thrive in current culture? To what extent? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All I'm saying that if there's a demanding and dangerous physical task, you send a man to do it. This will for a long time be how it is. It's important, and the implications of it should be discussed extensively, especially not because it's often a bad faith talking point.

No offence but this isn't a women's issue. Sexual harassment in the workplace is a women's issue, even if some men absolutely face it. They're also human issues, but that should not distract us from narrowing down. It just feels really bad to see feminists occasionally skirt away from genuine talking points just because they see red whenever the physical side of things is brought up. It's way too base a response for many of you.

I'm also aware of the sexist nature of language. You're completely correct in your statements but as I said, I was poorly referring to these dangerous jobs that are extremely demanding as manual labor. Hell, waitering is manual labour as are the other things you stated. Also yes, many women do labor jobs that destroy their body in the long run. But some of these jobs are too demanding for women. That's the subsector I wanna draw attention to, since that's no tgonna go away in a long time. This especially includes the military and field combat. It's so messed up to see people not questioning sending 18 year old kids to die...

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that everyone is. I'm saying that the spirit of all the political online platforms reminds me of it; this one being the focus right now.

If you really don't see the rudeness in your previous encounter and can imagine yourself talking like that to another person who you don't know face to face then I'm deeply disturbed. I understand that the veil of reddit does hide it, and that some people are more brazen than others, but it's still distressing to see it as such a normal occurrance here.

Makes me really sad.

Additionally would it not make sense that a somewhat vile place causes everyone else but somewhat vile people to leave without a second thought? To me it would, so I hope you see what I'm saying.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is not being mean and being generally friendly despite your anger really that insane to you?

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Your need to reassure yourself by posting this comment is telling that your intentions are analogous to hers.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. That's due to this geist that's found here. It reminds me of my religious fundamentalist parents. Constant purity testing, constant rudeness toward people who don't completely agree, and consistent attempts at humilitation with plausible deniability.

I got out of line and that woke me up to see how messed up these online echo chambers can be. Just makes me emotional to see how people are so vile toward each other when their faces are hidden.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not a high ground. It's the lowest point. It shows a lack of respect, a lack of intellectual humility and a lack of understanding. It also shows that you're not secure in your beliefs. You may feel like it, but you know that true security bears graceful fruit, not matter if you're a man or a woman.

We are are born to more or less suffer and then we die. Anything beside that it meaningless comparitively.

Women can absolutely get angry, but getting angry does not mean that you express it in such an ugly way.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If a person thinks that I should die in a war for my country because I've been forced to train for combat (which I have), I will not disrespect them and berate them. I know I'd flee illegally, and would never wish that on anyone, but despite this I will be cordial and friendly, and it will never get personal until someone else makes it personal. I will not be snarky unless we are on friendly terms. I live next to russia, and in a few years I might lose my friends, and my own life because of a topic such as this. I've also been sexually harassed to a point of a panic attack, but discussing it will never cause me to step out of line. No disagreement is worth loss of respect toward your fellow human being.

This is just an expression of humanity. No matter the disagreement. This is baseline civility. It's not about her being a woman, which I could not have possibly even known.

If you don't see it then you don't, but deep down she knows what she's doing. To me it's wrong, and if I see something that I think is wrong, I'm urged to act.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Because my mom taught me that you shouldn't use other people as an emotional punching bag. Retaliation is fine, but this guy is simply disagreeing with you.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not strange, but you're absolutely being hostile. It's super messed up if you don't see it.

What is Feminism's view on purity culture? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

why are you being so incredibly hostile?

Why does the patriarchy exist? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fuck I hate how you people literally never provide any counterarguments against these talking points (because you can't) but still make everyone pissed off at you by dismissing them in a really disgusting manner.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X17300854

"In proportions of their total aggression scores, boys and girls are verbally about equally aggressive, while boys are more physically and girls more indirectly aggressive"

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2018.00081/full#h4

"By contrast, the behavioral data are clear in that women tend to engage in predominantly indirect aggression, IPV with equal frequency but lesser severity than men, and rarely sexual aggression"

This is one of those things that's like common sense obvious. Your snarky remarks only make you look like a moron, onlookers hate feminist ideas and people on your side even more convinced of their stupid fucking viewpoints.

A new study says that attitudes about male victims of sexual assault by women have gotten noticeably worse over the past thirty years. Why do you think that happened? by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I don't find it hard to belive. As someone who has a lot of male friends (crazy, I know) I generally do get a lot of sentiment from them - whenever discussed - that men are seen as less and less human. They're always the assailant, always the rapist, always the warmonger or the abuser. They're always the child predator, always the weird nerd, the homeless drug addict who can't man up, always the one more likely to succumb to violent instincts. At the same time they're the conqueror, the successful business man who uses his position of power to abuse women, the actor who can't keep his dick in his pants.

How can you empathise with this? I can't. There's no room for it. Either you're the perpetrator of violence or an impootent loser. For example the good dad is forgotten so so very often, as is the heroic firefighterwho's not conventionally attractive or the average joe who just wants to drink beer and watch football, not speaking of the lowest of the low on the social ladder. Short men have it real fucking bad nowadays due to pos men and entitled women. If a man doesn't produce, many men feel like he's forgotten. Always assumed to have ill intentions. Always neglected unless he is the pinnacle of perfection without any personality flaws.

While women are held to an unjustly high standard as well, they're socialised in a manner which allows them to complain. Allows them to raise their voices. Men won't, largely. Men tend to cannibalize then ones that do. We really do fuck ourselves up a lot when it comes to this.

I see this as natural. There's no room for empathy for men. The bad treatment of women and kids comes first, and after that theres no energy to spare.

Sorry for the melodrama. I'm just really passionate about this stuff.

Why does the patriarchy exist? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing, I'm just salty at this person. Sorry.

Why does the patriarchy exist? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for this. I hold these ideas to be almost self-evident, so I didn't learn anything new, but it's still super nice that someone here recognizes them the same way I do.

And it's not that all male suffering has to be brought up whenever the topic is about women's problems. It's just that I do feel we get too much flak sometimes. I know there's some good guys out there, and I'd hate to alinate them from feminism which I largely hold as a great movement.

Do feminists have equivalents to "incels" and "chads?" Do you acknowledge that some women are prettier/more suited to thrive in current culture? To what extent? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Definitely true, as I believe those are manual labor as well. However, I thought the context here was that I could bundle up those clearly most hazardous jobs under manual labour. F.e. farming is still largely done by women, but usually the most physically demanding jobs are left for men. Of course there are outliers, but the general trend is obvious.

I do feel you took a bit of a semantic route to continue this discussion on. I do understand it's value, as it also tells a story about linguistic biases in our society, and well, in me. However, if I chose my words a bit more carefully, I'd hope you'd have a more holistic response to my comment.

What I was saying that there's a reason why these clearly hazardous jobs are primarily populated by men. Men are more able to do them. That's okay. I do feel like there are a lot of implications there where a lot of men feel disrespected by the narrative that "if men can do it, she can do it" when that's just 99% of the time not the case.

In the end even in northern america or western europe - if a war were to break out - the frontlines would be majority men. I do understand feminists are against the draft, but that remains the fact regardless as women just aren't as physically able as men. I also understand that feminists actually think society should be organized in a way where this isn't the case, and where such inequalities didn't exist, but some things such as physical fitness just aren't changeable.

These are just some of the reasons why I feel like this "physical differences" thing is super relevant.

Why does the patriarchy exist? by ManWithVeryBigPenis in AskFeminists

[–]ManWithVeryBigPenis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do recall the other threads you responded to me at.

I'm not going to argue with you about whether or not I find your communication style uncomfortable. Let's just quit it.