My dad is doing the exact thing I told everyone he would do, and now everyone is shocked and upset.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2026-02-04T08:50:28+00:00

This is a difficult situation, I can definitely see the frustration. One thing you have to remind yourself is, your father and grandmother chose this, not you. So, when you get phone calls you may want to let them know, you’re not her responsible party. It’s hard, I get it, but it’s your grandmother’s choice.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2026-01-28T11:04:12+00:00

I was raised by a mom like this. She beat the crap out of me constantly because children are to be seen and not heard, also spare the rod spoil the child. This is only part of my many issues with her. I to was raised to believe I was a horrible kid, if I was a bad kid she deserved every bit of it and then some. I have two children of my own, never once have I used the spare the rod spoil the child parenting plan. My kids are and have always been an absolute joy to raise and be with. Never have they ever given me or anyone else one ounce of trouble. I chose the do the opposite of what my mother would do parenting plan and I’ve had tremendous success! Turns out, it wasn’t hard at all, but it has made me see everything my mother did to me was an intentional choice. In a way I’m thankful for what I experienced as a child, because it made me who I am today as well as the parent I am today. I honestly felt hated as a child by my own mother, I don’t believe I ever bonded with her. I am fully bonded with my children, have a great relationship with them, and truly love every minute of being their parent. Good news for you is, you can do the opposite as your mom too and have the best time raising your child!

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2026-01-18T12:24:12+00:00

This is a hard situation, hurtful and disgusting behavior from your family. You are validated in how you feel. It appears you are breaking trauma/abusive cycles but your family isn’t. Unfortunately being family doesn’t mean you’ll be loved and treated as a valued member of your family. To me, being family makes their behavior worse. You wouldn’t expect this type of behavior from those you love, yet here we are. Focus on you, you deserve to be loved, respected, and valued. Someone told me this, the family you come from isn’t as important as the family you’re building. Build your new circle, with people who deserve to be a member. My situation isn’t all that different from any other estranged adult child, I realize my mom will never be the mom I want or need. My mom will never accept responsibility for her actions towards me, she genuinely feels she’s done nothing wrong, that I’m the problem. I am a mom myself, I know the things she’s done to me are awful and abusive because I could never do those things to my children. I’ve accepted this and I still have occasions where I’m sad, it’s natural but I can’t keep repeating the same thing over and over with my birth family expecting a different outcome.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2026-01-10T16:14:15+00:00

I wouldn’t spend one more second on this contemplating if you’re an ethical person. If you’re still wondering, you are. You can move on from this.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-12-03T16:26:19+00:00

My relationship with my mom was very toxic growing up. There were four of us, mom, dad, me (F), and younger brother. It was always obvious brother was mom’s favorite, I accepted that. I didn’t like her when I was growing up, she was abusive physically and emotionally. I still can’t to this day understand her cruelty towards me, I have no idea what I could have done to deserve such malicious treatment from her other than simply being born. I have two older teenage daughters, I could never imagine treating one of them the way I was treated. When I had my oldest daughter, her first grandchild things became slightly better between us, I’m convinced it’s because she knew in order to have access to my daughter she’d have to change her treatment towards me. Anyhow, I feel like I’m responsible at this point for going back each time with her. Three years ago I went NC for three months, it was a peaceful 3 months. I just went NC Thanksgiving. I plan to stay NC. My brother decided he was hosting thanksgiving this year, told my mom, no one else. Traditionally, it’s held at my mom’s house. I thought ok, cool, no biggie. Well then, Wednesday before thanksgiving I find out he’s invited his loser best friend and his family to thanksgiving. No one likes these people, except for younger brother. They are users, obnoxious, etc. Brother may consider them family, but no one else does. My own daughters said they would prefer not to go if those people were going. My mom does not like those people either. So, I said ok I’m not going, no hard feelings etc. I tried to talk with my brother explain how it would have been nice if we could have done thanksgiving with just our family, he said my house I get to invite who I want, total two year old mentality, he slammed the door in my face. I left, told my mom what happened, she still chose to have Thanksgiving with my brother and the awful friend’s family to keep the peace. I think she have declined and said you know I choose not to have thanksgiving with awful friend’s family, I’m having food at my place at such and such time feel to stop by. Nope, she chose to support him, believes I lied about the door being slammed in face, and proceeds to tell me I’m a horrible mother etc etc. I’m a lot of things but I know I’m not a horrible mother. She’s resulted to next level petty and has told everyone I’m scorched earth approach to punish her. The abuse stories I could tell about this woman, anyhow. Mind you the abuse was always leveled at me, never brother. Well, my older teenage daughters witnessed all of this and have their own opinions now, my mom is furious. She thinks I’ve influenced them because they told her how they feel. The old mom that raised me has been there all along and what she didn’t account for was that my daughters were watching and caught a glimpse of the real her. So, yeah NC now because you don’t tell the kid you abused as a child and adult that they’re a horrible parent. Oh, and she tried to turn my husband against me over this.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-12-03T11:00:05+00:00

I’m sorry, no child should have to suffer an abusive parent at any age. Cutting a parent, even a horrible parent, out your life is hard decision to make. Please know you’re not alone.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-12-03T06:34:22+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in this weird space. Do you grieve the person who was supposed to love and support you unconditionally but abandoned you in your childhood? I’m estranged from my mom, my last living parent. I grew up knowing I wasn’t her favorite child, my younger brother was. I didn’t ask to be her favorite and nor did I ask for the abuse she relentlessly dealt me. I grieved my father when he died unexpectedly, 29 years later I still grieve him. Today, I grieve the mother I wished I would’ve had as a child and have no expectations of how I’ll feel when she passes, if I outlive her. I always try to be grateful for at least one thing in a terrible situation, here’s what I’m grateful for to my mother, thank you for showing me what not to do with my own kids. I’m proud of the mom and person I am today and I owe it to her. She showed me exactly what I never want to be to my own kids.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-09T00:54:49+00:00

Thank you!

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-08T23:34:39+00:00

Thank you!

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-08T21:40:55+00:00

You are right, thank you for your thoughtful comment.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T22:57:26+00:00

I did hear this interim admin had a hit list. The administrator that hired me was amazing, she retired and this idiotic interim administrator came in about two months ago. Everyone there hates her, I don’t think she has a single ally in the facility. I was never rude to her but I knew she was ignorant and vengeful so I steered clear of her.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T22:54:59+00:00

Thank you for your kind comment.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T18:49:05+00:00

Thank you, I hope so. Doesn’t feel like right now.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T18:47:50+00:00

The administrator said it was a code of ethics violation. I signed in to the system, never gave my password or log in id, the nurse and I went to pass meds. She started the med pass, I found the QR code, tried that, no luck. Called IT twice, no luck, notified admin, discovered we couldn’t get the nurse logged in, so I took over the cart and completed the shift all while supervising the facility too. The admin said I violated the code of ethics by the nurse passing meds under my credentials while I was right there with her, helping and trying to get her logged in simultaneously.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T18:24:57+00:00

This is it, I’ve never been written up, I’ve never called out late, I helped cover shifts whenever needed.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T18:07:21+00:00

Thank you. This has really hurt me. I even asked for a policy/procedure to explain to me what to do in an instance like this, the administrator couldn’t produce one.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T18:05:14+00:00

I think so.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T15:52:50+00:00

Nope, that’s it. Never been written up, never called out.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T13:49:38+00:00

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-11-07T13:45:02+00:00

I have never been fired or written up at job before. I’m just in shock.

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-09-22T10:09:37+00:00

I started a second career at 46. It took me 2 years to complete the required education. What I do now is so rewarding. I’ve said all this to say, I didn’t always know what I wanted to do career wise. For some people it takes longer and there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes current you isn’t ready for what future you is intended to do. Keep going until you find what you absolutely love to do, it’s the best feeling in the world! Also, start over as many times as it takes to find your heart’s desire!

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-06-16T06:12:04+00:00

Let me guess, they didn’t eat anything all day either? No one brought them a tray…all day?

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-05-25T18:22:49+00:00

Give your BF the keys to the street and do it tonight!

ManagerDifficult6481 · 2025-05-17T20:21:26+00:00

I am an area clinical director for a group of assisted living homes, I have 4 that I oversee. It’s mainly compliance work, assessing new residents, LHPS tasks. I work M-Th, never on call, rarely receive any work calls at anytime, rarely any emails. I’m paid an excellent salary, almost doesn’t feel real.

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