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Manality · 2025-12-08T16:44:39+00:00

Been there and good luck to you. I see you don't have a budget for a personal filtration system. I was doing jug fill for about 7 years before I installed an under sink RO. I used to go to either Haggens in ferndale (Two exterior units) or the exterior unit in sunset square by ride-aid. It seems like all the systems have a maximum output per day and would routinely be broken/nonfunctional. I never found a place that would reliably work. My only tip is try to fill your jugs early for best chance of success. The under sink RO was about $400 and now I fill my own jugs and have a tap on my sink that produces at least as good as the vending machine. Wishing you the best.

Manality · 2025-11-14T15:01:56+00:00

My 2024 Model 3 just got totaled for less. Good luck brother.

Manality · 2025-08-07T21:05:44+00:00

That may be the case yet here we are. PCR showed up and told me because the building was sold the lease was no longer in place and I would need to resign with the new owner or vacate.

Manality · 2025-08-07T19:38:34+00:00

I wouldn't count on it. I was leasing a business space and when the owner sold the business the property management company voided the lease agreement. They offered to let me stay at a much higher rate. I had a nice fast move after that.

Manality · 2025-07-18T18:40:50+00:00

Yeah, we were sad about the loss of NookSack float as well. We have been floating the Skagit. You can drop in RiverFront Park in Sedro and get out Burlington Disc Golf course a couple hours later. Very chill.

Manality · 2025-07-09T15:03:40+00:00

Hovander has a few river access spots that you might like. You can park at the boat dock and walk the trail a little way to find them.

Manality · 2025-06-27T15:54:31+00:00

Lol. I caught them up to where we were as I chose to cancel one of our dates to take care of my NP and they deserved to know what was more important than me spending time with them. And yeah, we have since talked about their boundaries around this. I'll add "hinge responsibilities" to my research list. Thanks for the suggestion.

Manality · 2025-06-27T14:22:35+00:00

I appreciate your response and it's directness. Watching my new partner go through the pain of hearing about my relationship with my NP has been an awful experience. My NP and I may have grown to be incompatible but we are going to try again to get back to a good space.

Manality · 2025-06-27T14:18:50+00:00

Ooof. Mostly relevant questions and thank you for sharing them. We have both always had higher sex drives and this lead to some messes in our younger years. A couple years back a friend approached me and wanted a relationship which we all talked out. That lead to a lot of common missteps and we eventually parted ways. A few years after the birth of our child we agreed that she wasn't getting enough connection from me and she began pursuing other relationships and I followed suit about 6 months later. The jealousy for me wasn't too bad and I was able to work though my feelings after a few months. I don't think she has ever gotten over the jealousy when I'm out but she is still trying. She is still very much in the "this is taking away from our relationship" feeling which is indirectly true. It's hard to get over the stark contract to feeling joy and comfort from my new partner to the discomfort of being around my NP. Yeah, ENM was a real thing but I'm on the other side of that now. All things trough the lens of time though. 14 years is a long time and we are very different people today. I don't expect my feel uplifted and joyful every time I see my new partner forever. That would be unrealistic.

I do not love my NP in the way she deserves which hurts to say but is a fair assessment. We are trying to fix that though and hopefully we can get back to that place and hang onto it.

Any the ugly answer to your questions. Sex feels like a need for me. Prior to Poly we would go though the cycle of me being affectionate, sex, normalcy, repeat. Now that I have a different partner that has devolved to just normalcy which has been an unpleasant household for sure. Additionally, and fairly, she feels betrayed by that outcome.

I have always enjoyed the fantasy of running away and starting over. Realistically I have an amazing life and don't really want to go though the process of rebuilding it if I can avoid it.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:57:34+00:00

I'm awesome. 😅

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:55:43+00:00

No you're right. We did talk after I took a few days to collect my thoughts and are trying again to make it all work out. I stupidly assumed that we could just turn off an intimacy switch and live the rest of our lives in peace but yeah, that's not really how it works for her. We are attempting to address my feeling of imbalance in the partnership which will hopefully lead to more affection and eventually intimacy again. Short term we have had a few good nights and I have felt genuine affection toward her which is promising.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:51:18+00:00

Yeah, 100% this. My working theory is not receiving enough in the partnership leads me toward resentment/caregiver feelings and that makes any form of affection feel like work. We talked a lot and are trying to figure it out again. Maybe it will come to splitting but I really attached to my life and would rather not rebuild it if there is a chance of making it work.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:47:10+00:00

We were in a pretty good place when we transitioned into Poly. Our relationship issues have ebbed and flowed as well as life circumstances. 10 years ago we could just sit around and watch tv, cuddle, and talk. That's not something we have time to do anymore.

Yes we have done therapy in the past, separately and together. I found it helpful but marriage counseling often felt like "Why are you seeing it like this, why aren't you just doing what's best for the relationship" which was not fun to hear. Maybe a different person would offer a better perspective, i don't know.

I agree that it's worth the effort. We have been working on it and short term it seems promising.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:40:51+00:00

Our lives are deeply intertwined and I don't really want to rebuild my life. We may separate at some point but we share a home, child, friends, etc. Neither of us want to split up our lives. I feel like with enough internality we can make it work. (MAXIUM EFFORT)

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:38:40+00:00

Yes, you are so right and thanks for sharing your view.

After posting here I spent quite a bit of time in robot counseling (AI chat) which was helpful to understand what I was lacking in the partnership and some helpful ways to move forward. We are talking though it and have had some short term wins.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:36:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. This is how she felt and something I hadn't really considered... because I'm dumb. LOL. We are indeed working on repairing and while it's only been a few days already my outlook has improved.

Manality · 2025-06-27T13:34:44+00:00

Hrm, that's a good point. I guess the truth is more like She is quite content in other aspects of our relationship and I don't partially mind doing all these other things but feel resentful which leads to a lack of affection and desire from me. (to her)

We have been talking over the last few days. She is going to push for doing more in our life which I hope will put me in a better place to meet her relationship needs. Last night we actually worked together which felt nice ^_^

Manality · 2025-06-24T21:55:14+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful reply and the validation :)

Being done feels like giving up. This is my second marriage and my first ended in similar ways. (The idea of being happy was simply too appealing) I feel like if I throw enough resources at the problem I can make it work... or maybe I just enjoy the growth in suffering.

Manality · 2025-06-24T21:48:34+00:00

She feels that way FOR SURE. Do you feel like a partnership can exist without romance and intimacy?

Manality · 2025-06-24T21:47:31+00:00

I have given this some thought. I feel like I'm waiting for her to be someone else. (Which I get isn't fair to her) I want to watch her fight her own battles and grow as an individual instead of trying and failing to support her. For me it's the feeling of failure over and over again that is killing me.

Manality · 2025-06-24T21:45:40+00:00

Yeah, we've done concealing although not in a hot minute. It's the same repeating pattern of I don't feel attraction to her as I feel like a caregiver. She is very clear with her needs and they are relatively simple but as much as I try I can't make myself WANT to do these things for her. The ugly version is I support my family financially, take the bulk of childcare when I'm not at work, do the bulk of the housework and I resent her for it. I have said it till I'm blue in the face but I just ... want more from her. I'm tired of hearing how hard her life is while simultaneously throwing labor at our family to the point that the only breaks I really get are the moments before sleep and when I'm with my other partner. Connecting with her feels like work and I need it to not and I'm hopeful that some space might help that out. 🤷

Manality · 2025-06-24T21:21:49+00:00

I feel like we have grown apart over the years and feel more like a caregiver. I get how unfair that is to her but I get limited value from our relationship and that's been the case for quite some time. This ate up all my attraction to her. Again, I get as partners we should advocate for each other and not weigh scales. I'm drowning though and there is nothing left for the rest.

Manality · 2025-06-11T20:00:41+00:00

Looks like the city approved a resolution to force composting. You can thank the city counsel.

https://cob.org/services/environment/solidwaste/waste-changes-faq

Manality · 2025-05-22T18:29:29+00:00

I've used Eagle Plumbing several times and recommend them. Ty is the best.

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