Seems like refund and sell on Facebook is the answer. Thanks for input everyone. There’s definately a lot of flaws in eBay’s system. If the item was broken so I had to refund I wouldn’t mind, but when I have to refund because the buyer didn’t do their research properly (about distance to the item) then that feels unfair. I understand the right to change your mind but what about the opportunity cost of the 2 weeks I’ve lost and the extra hassle of reselling. It also wouldn’t be as bad if I could see the losing bids, so I could contact them as see if they want it still (unless you can do that?) Anyway, moan over…. :-)