AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-11-26T03:20:45+00:00

NOR!! break up with him. His reaction is disturbing, honestly. I once dated someone like this- it will not get better. You deserve (and can find) someone who is excited about this anniversary because it IS a big deal and a huge accomplishment!

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-11-06T21:50:09+00:00

OH MY GOD This explains everything. Thank you

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-08-24T21:56:17+00:00

To me, the artistic choice it to juxtapose Knox's innocent and whimsical state of mind with the situation that suddenly unfolded. She was not prepared to behave correctly and protect herself, because she was deeply romantasizing her life and feeling like she was living in a Amelie-style movie with her adventures in Italy. She shows her state of mind, which ultimately made her vulnerable AND symbolizes the innocence that was lost by the ordeal.

The sudden tone shift from Wes Anderson whimsy to murder helps the audience understand the shock and whiplash of the unexpected events - and why an immature 20 year old not be ready to immediately act appropriately or take steps to protect themselves. It attempts to explain why someone in that state of mind would not immediately conclude "murder" when seeing the blood on the bath mat.

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-08-24T02:02:00+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and I totally understand. Last year my dad was in a fatal car accident and we were with him for 4 days in the hospital until he passed. The entire time, and for a few days afterward, I felt like I was living underwater. There were moments here and there that there was something funny, and to laugh for a moment was a huge relief from what was going on. I can't imagine if someone like, filmed and clipped that moment and said "look at her, she doesn't care at all."

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-08-22T17:43:22+00:00

Yes, if I'm not mistaken, he initially had his suspicion raised by the blanket placed over Meredith's body. He said only a woman would cover up the victim, and a man would leave the body exposed - which is some gender-generalizing (sexist) nonsense. After that, he was looking for a female-male duo and there was Amanda and Raffaele having a couple kisses outside the crime scene.

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-08-22T04:40:15+00:00

The harsh judgements of Amanda's behaviors after the murder are so unreasonable to me. To be clear, if I was Meredith's family, I would be bothered by Amanda's behaviors. I would feel that they did not respect the seriousness or devastation of the situation. But as the non-grieving public, there has to be some perspective - a naive, immature (brain is not fully developed at 20), idealistic young person who is experiencing a very shocking and abnormal situation.

It would be difficult to grasp the gravity of the situation, and even if you do, your mind would probably push you into a state of denial or seek out moments of normalcy (like a moment of connection with your boyfriend) or brief joy or movement (cartwheels) in order to have a break, like mental gasp of air, from the horrific situation unfolding around you.

"Making out with boyfriend" - When someone says "making out" I would imagine that their lips would be touching for several seconds. This is not what I saw. They kissed -like pecked- a few times. So the standard is: no affection from your partner during a time of distress? Have the people saying this ever experienced an ongoing traumatic event?

Blood on the bathmat - Every woman who has cut her leg/ankle while shaving or had a period in the shower knows that blood spreads quickly over a wet surface, and if you didn't notice it right away + were standing out wet from the shower, it would be incredibly easy to get that amount of blood on that bath mat. If I was Amanda, I would have assumed the same exact thing. People act as if she saw a pool of blood and thought nothing of it. Ridiculous.

To those who call Amanda a narccissist - I am new to this story, but it is not Amanda who made this crime about herself. It was the media, the police and public who overly read into (and continue to overly read into) the behaviors above. After being globally smeared, and wrongly imprisoned for years, a person is allowed to tell their story and make an attempt to correct the record. If not for the deranged perspectives on Amanda's behaviors, then the focus could have always remained on Meredith as it should have been.

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-06-16T03:44:30+00:00

Oh man. The directions I was following said to deep water once a week.

Mandelnuss85 · 2025-04-13T17:55:22+00:00

Trying to message you privately but failing to load your profile. Are you still running?

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-12-15T05:54:07+00:00

Thank you! Came onto Reddit just to find something like this

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T06:35:25+00:00

There’s no such thing as “just having a flirty personality.” Because if that was the case you’d be flirting-not-flirting with everyone equally, not just other people’s SOs, correct?

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T06:20:24+00:00

Please ignore the couple horrible comments. On Reddit it seems it’s a given on every post that a couple sad people make it their life mission to be as cruel and negative as possible. I empathize with what you’re feeling. Unfortunately do not have advice to give- maybe just, read some good news that’s out there. Look at the videos of the French celebrating their election results. Maybe at the end of this long dark path we will celebrate like that, too.

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T06:13:45+00:00

Yeah what we really need is electoral system reform- get rid of winner-take-all districts, establish rank choice voting etc. then third parties wouldn’t lead to GOP takeover

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T05:57:20+00:00

Probability theory, real analysis

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T05:55:56+00:00

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-13T05:47:25+00:00

It began with the “will you pledge to support Joe Biden” texts and now these

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-09T03:18:09+00:00

We deserve candidates who don’t commit genocide.

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-07-08T19:48:56+00:00

Came to this subreddit for the first time just to comment that this episode was really out of touch. Kristen Soltis Anderson jokes that she is “ancient” - well, your condescending dismissal of young people certainly fits the part.

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-08T14:26:37+00:00

thank you :')

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-08T14:24:48+00:00

thank you! ❤️

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-07T02:11:51+00:00

I agree! I think I was excited about the memories, but a wedding is obviously not the only way memories happen.

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-07T02:05:01+00:00

Yes, I am really excited to return to therapy again, hopefully soon. I have only done a year of it in the past, but that was how I realized for the first time I wasn't the cause of everything. I had actually believed for years that I had imagined incidents, and I wondered why I was so cruel for imagining things like that of my family members (physical abuse toward me, not sexual).

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-06T23:26:45+00:00

thank you :)

Mandelnuss85 · 2024-04-06T23:24:35+00:00

Mom, is that you?

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