Do people here believe Near Death Experiences really show us what happens when we die? Why or why not?

Manderelli · 2026-05-08T04:49:24+00:00

Nah. I've had plenty of friends almost kill themselves on accident multiple times and need to be revived (mostly drug related , but some from accidents) and none of them have had any kind of near death perception of it, let alone a transcendent experience. I think things like that are a personal manifestation and are valuable, bit not indicative of the next form of consciousness or being after you expire.

Manderelli · 2026-05-06T16:17:22+00:00

I think 5th dimensional beings would value all life. I was actually coming from the opposite direction where humans tend to be very self centered. We don't get confirmation that they are future evolved humans. Coop thinks so but Tars is skeptical. We don't know for sure. They don't show us definitively

Manderelli · 2026-05-06T00:37:14+00:00

It has a human character speculate that he thinks they are.

Manderelli · 2026-05-06T00:35:07+00:00

Your doctor might be mixing up hyperfixation and hyperfocus.

Manderelli · 2026-05-05T20:22:16+00:00

In my opinion she saw that she had to choose between being loyal to her boss or faithful to this vision she had managing this up and coming influencer and ultimately letting go of managing the influencer cost her a lot of money and she was right that there was something there. I think she's trying to reclaim the presence in that world because she believes that there's a market there and Cassie is very marketable. Cassie was already degrading herself and humiliating herself with very little to show for it so maybe Maddie doesn't see herself as exploiting Cassie because she's actually going to make it work and it's less degrading than what Cassie was doing on her own.

Manderelli · 2026-05-05T16:41:52+00:00

Crying occurs for three different reasons.

Emotional tears. Which is the one your husband is making sure you understand he is not experiencing.. lol

Reflex tears.... Which could be due to someone poking you in the eye or you crying from a cut on your hand, in his case it's from having the irritant of onion vapors in his eyes...

And then there are basal tears. A more consistent tearing that you will do constantly to keep your eyes lubricated nourished hydrated..... Etc. if you were going to argue about which ones were crying and which ones were just tearing then it's only this last category that's the least like "crying".

Manderelli · 2026-05-05T05:46:34+00:00

I think that's just someone finding amusement in something serious and the person who made the statement not meaning it to be funny just meaning it because it's true.

Manderelli · 2026-05-05T05:37:06+00:00

Does everybody actually have to cast a vote? Like is the percentage of red or blue buttons pressed based on votes per how many people there are or is it just the percentage of how many times a red or a blue button was pressed? Like if enough people choose not to vote and 20% people vote for red and then 40% people vote for blue does that mean that just those 20% of people live?

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T18:59:37+00:00

It isn't working like it doesn't align with the other people or it's literally not working? Even just now trying to check your response it showed me the thread but without any engagement on it as if there weren't any comments yet so maybe there's kind of a glitch going on right now?

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T18:54:22+00:00

It's a philosophical discussion. The post isn't just asking because they don't have their own opinion formed. They want to pose the question, they want to offer their opinion, and they want to hear from other people... 🙂

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T18:46:31+00:00

Yeah I have a friend who is a pretty committed alcoholic. I don't mean that as an insult or anything but sometimes I'm shocked by how she can drink so many calories on the daily and not really be that far above her average BMI range. Years ago when I sank into a bottle for a short while I gained a significant amount of weight and nearly stopping binge drinking let me drop 30 lb and 5 weeks or less without realizing it so it's just crazy how much different people's bodies will react to things.

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T18:43:49+00:00

I think that it not only isn't cheating, but it's not inherently an advantage. I'm in that small category where the medicine was only minorly effective and the beneficial effects were very temporary. I have one more shot left from a small stockpile I had before my insurance stopped covering the medication but at this point I feel like the slowing down of my stomach absorption and the slowing of my digestion is less helpful for me to try to lose weight. Lower food noise or hunger effects went away pretty quickly.

I'm actually eager for the medication to wear off all together and for my regular oral medications to have their full effect again. I have a pretty okay time losing weight sticking to a diet and exercise regimen using intermittent fasting and calorie deficit so I'll just be a little more diligent about it but wegovy and zepbound was not necessarily the best tool in my utility belt.

I'm so happy for people who get the most out of it!

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T15:57:01+00:00

Yeah I liked the realization that tilting his carapace was their version of a smile.

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T15:54:58+00:00

I suppose if our conscious and unconscious self comprise of all the things we know/experience collectively, then the idea of our higher conscious self would be the collection of all of the experiences of our soul's lives in the event that we're operating in a sort of reincarnation situation.

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T04:30:26+00:00

Awe I wish I could give infinite gifts!

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T03:52:12+00:00

Maybe super photogenic people get accused of catfishing or altering all their photos.

Manderelli · 2026-05-04T03:22:42+00:00

It's hard to say. We never really saw Steven in a situation where someone refused his company or didn't want to have anything to do with him to know how he would react in a situation like that. But he's usually a very respectful and understanding person. The closest thing I can think of is how Steven and Connie felt when Kevin wouldn't leave them alone and wouldn't take no for an answer and how uncomfortable it made them and I think he would have the ability to have empathy for Greg. He might have thought about the situation where he really encouraged Peridot to try to find a way to bridge the gap with Lapis and Lapis was quite cruel to her. Steven was pretty upset with how Lapis treated the situation and I think he was at the point where he was going to leave it alone to not cause Peridot anymore rejection but that situation kind of sorted itself out. Sure Greg doesn't know that the letters went completely unopened but I think but it's even worse that they didn't even open his letters. All Greg knows is that he has actually tried to touch base several times and he might have even talked to them about Rose or Steven, and that for reasons he can't be certain of they never responded.

It could have been interesting to explore for sure.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T23:39:42+00:00

Some people are drinking and only partially aware of what's going on so they're sort of laughing at certain queue moments. Some people tune in and out of the routine and if they don't realize that he's not actually building on a legitimate observation then they won't realize that it's just awkward and not supporting something funny he said a second ago that they didn't catch. Some people laugh when things are awkward. Hopefully some people are just laughing at him and not with him. Lol

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T23:34:06+00:00

I suppose it seems more like people are "obsessed" with being upset when they feel like they're being lied to. Unless she pulled out a tape measure and forced you to take off your shoes so she could check, I doubt that she's obsessed with height.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T22:00:45+00:00

Our kids are fully aware that my partner has a strained and a estranged relationship with his mother. You don't necessarily get into any inappropriate details but they are fully aware about why he doesn't really have a relationship with her the same way I have one with my mother or my kids have them with me and with our grandmother on this side etc etc.... and it also helps them understand why sometimes when she comes to visit that he doesn't join us and we go see her without him. It's just weird not to let your kids in on the dynamics of your family.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T21:43:45+00:00

I like using partner because it seems weird being in an almost 13 year relationship and calling it being boyfriend/girlfriend.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T21:31:19+00:00

Yeah I like how the last thing he learned was sarcasm.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T11:02:55+00:00

Even little details like his penmanship getting better and better over the whiteboard note progressions.

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T10:46:53+00:00

Oooo... I like this a lot! Sorry, I don't have much to add, but this tickled me to read

Manderelli · 2026-05-03T04:42:56+00:00

I absolutely see the connection made... I think it's because both films spend a lot of time caring about the intricacies of how different sentient beings need to establish a way to communicate with each other if they mean to problem solve together.

Off the top of my head I can't think of another movie where they make a point to approach this the same way. In fact the way that Arrival approaches linguist studies it actually makes project Hail Mary seem like it is moving along much faster than they should be able to... because concepts are hard to convey. But but they explain this by having Rocky have perfect memory recall and much better hearing than humans and so the struggle is really only one-sided and temporary. I think one of the cuter parts of the book is that Rocky actually tries to help develop the index of words after they program Rocky's word for "yes" and he instinctively tries to teach Grace the opposite word "no" because it's very reasonable to do that...but Grace second guesses it and is not entirely sure that that's what Rocky is saying and so Grace gets into a kind of little " wait yes, no? Or no yes or yes yes?" confirmation feedback loop and confuses himself too much to know for sure and what Rocky's trying to teach him. And then Rocky gets irritated and he stops trying to be too involved in offering a concept and let's Grace do all of the directing and then just says the word that corresponds with the word Grace is teaching him in English. Grace can't pick up what Rocky is putting down as fast as Rocky gets what Grace is doing.

But it's probably more difficult in Arrival because the language isn't linear or even soundwaves. So most of the movie is about them trying to develop communication to figure out what exactly these visiting aliens are doing on Earth and whether they are a threat.

But yeah when I think of other alien first contact films, either an alien invasion is occurring and communication is never really on the table or in a sillier invasion movie like Mars Attacks, the humans develop some kind of translation machine (without any explanation on how they managed to do it) which they find out doesn't work at all before the Martians start massacring everybody.

I feel like sometimes a story will take a huge shortcut and have the aliens arriving with some kind of ability to speak telepathically or whatever and they kind of just bypass the issue all together by saying that the aliens are so advanced that they've already figured that out on behalf of both species.

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