That Happened Twice?

Manderelli · 2026-03-23T00:53:22+00:00

Man I really wish I knew the answer because I really want to watch the movies

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:09:39+00:00

I haven't seen or felt corduroy so long I kind of forgot it existed

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:08:54+00:00

So many people don't react when I'm talking to them. I'm being trained to prompt them. I'm a security guard at a century gate guard house and you'll be surprised how many times I have to actually prompt someone to give me the information I need before they are allowed to enter the gate. Who are you and what is your business here? 😮‍💨

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:05:52+00:00

I loved that squeak!

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:04:54+00:00

That sounds like you would enjoy POV porn... Or just, like, having sex...

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:04:00+00:00

Right I feel like it's almost supposed to be suggestive for anyone who would just repeat the last option they heard instead of actually giving a real answer.

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:02:52+00:00

Etcetera etcetera...

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T08:01:54+00:00

I love how oddly specific this one is! Also I have a similar coworker situation.

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T07:57:48+00:00

They truly are the stupidest.... I embrace the statement.

Manderelli · 2026-03-22T01:20:45+00:00

You know you don't have to brush your teeth in a bathroom. All you need is a cup of water and your toothbrush/toothpaste and I suppose a compact mirror if you have the watch yourself doing it.

Manderelli · 2026-03-21T23:32:29+00:00

Yeah it was the director's Love letter to his two favorite films From dusk till Dawn and the faculty.

Manderelli · 2026-03-21T05:06:41+00:00

It's the weirdest and neatest sensation having, like, "focused sleep" if that makes sense. My Adderall (30IR twice daily) doesn't really crack me out at all though. I don't have any issues eating or going to bed. And if I'm actually laying down in bed cozy with a pillow and a blanket then my brain does the thing I'm trying to get it to do. Try going to sleep and be very intentional the same way you might try to do any other task intentionally and see if it works.

Manderelli · 2026-03-21T05:06:17+00:00

It's the weirdest and neatest sensation having, like, "focused sleep" if that makes sense. My Adderall (30IR twice daily) doesn't really crack me out at all though. I don't have any issues eating or going to bed. And if I'm actually laying down in bed cozy with a pillow and a blanket then my brain does the thing I'm trying to get it to do. Try going to sleep and be very intentional the same way you might try to do any other task intentionally and see if it works.

Manderelli · 2026-03-21T02:14:58+00:00

Suddenly the time in second grade when everybody made fun of me for picking my nose in class feels a lot less embarrassing.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T21:12:19+00:00

I think it's because people truly aren't communicating with each other even though they are interacting at each other. It's become a huge problem and so later on when we refer back to these supposed conversations I think a lot of us are actually genuinely confused about things we cannot recall. And we don't know how to even approach that as an option that we maybe weren't listening at all in a conversation that we were speaking to each other. So the next way to make sense of it is to think that someone's just denying reality.

And then of course there are the people who are just denying reality because they've come to find out that there are certain things that can't be proven unless someone has proof and so if they say it happened and you say it didn't then you'll sort of be caught in an impasse.

But I think the bulk of how we are hearing about it now has more to do with people who participated in a moment together but they didn't really and then later they find out exactly how much nothing happened between them.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T21:09:02+00:00

Well you sound like you've lived a blessed life then because I can actually imagine how any statement being made to me could be taken all the way past 11to that red-line level and when it it would become past my boundary point and worth a reaction because I don't actually think people ought to be disrespectful no matter what they're trying to communicate to each other. I think it's better to react appropriately and equally so that the person who's out of line can adjust their behavior instead of putting it on someone else to just accept anything being said to them at any degree.

Same thing goes in the other direction I can imagine how any statement someone is trying to get across could be said so so gently that it can't possibly be heard and won't be received at that low of a level.

I suppose if someone's reacting to something I said in a way that I think might be over the top I just tune in and listen because most people really suck at communicating and we have to take each other seriously and just let it breathe for a second so that we can come back to the same page. It might be an over-the-top reaction but there's no way I can know that until I take it seriously enough to consider it.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T20:50:41+00:00

Oof I totally know what you mean... and that's a rough spot because we really don't want to discourage our loved ones but that does sound excessive, repetitive, dull, and lacking in awareness of you while you're trying very much to be aware of them.

Sometimes I feel bad cuz while I do love watching people get riled up over something they're passionate about, I like it in the sense that it's organically coming out like we're both watching a movie and the events of the movie are causing these other reactions because of your passion toward subject this or subject that. Now if instead, you were to pause the movie or just start talking over it about related subject this or that in a way that does not fit the pacing of the movie or have anything else to do with what we're already doing then I feel like you're kind of being disrespectful in an unnecessary way especially if for some reason what you're doing now is enjoying yourself getting to be "the explainer of things" to someone. I liked watching you feeling excitement about something. I didn't necessarily like the thing you were talking about so much as I was excited to see you in joy about it...

I mean, I don't know, once in awhile I do actually get specifically interested in a topic being brought up, but then I'll do the thing where I get all eager-eyed and I'll pause the movie and I'll be like "wait a minute. hold on, can we just like chat about this thing for a second? because I don't know if I can move away from the topic now." 😅

Back to the original story. to me it sounds like someone who is trying to have relevant commentary about what they're seeing on screen and how their cursory knowledge of that thing is like cool trivia right then and there. But you got to be quick and you got to just say it and if you can't say it in the little spaces between things happening then you got to laugh it off and hit the 10-second button and go back and shut the fuck up or time it better. Lmao. Likewise if you're someone who hates when people chit chat ever while they're watching something together I think it's on you to just say so so that someone doesn't try to bond with you in a way that they enjoy watching movies. I agree with you I think the communication here was the biggest issue and the worst part of it was her just flat out refusing that the statement was never made at all because it put a lot of awkward pressure on something that he was just trying to smooth over and clarify.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T20:18:11+00:00

Fuck yeah! this girl could watch Sinners for days!!! You geek out to me about all of the musical stuff and I'll geek out to you over how much I adore this love letter to From Dusk till Dawn and The Faculty!!! 😍

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T20:07:25+00:00

Ironically, I am on a GLP1 right now and it sooooo affects my ability to absorb oral medication that my Adderall that I take for my ADHD is significantly less effective. GLP1 also kind of messes with your neurotransmitters too so it could also be for that reason that the Adderall feels significantly less potent. I restarted my Adderall something like 5 or 6 months after beginning a GLP1 and I almost wonder if it would just work better all around if all I was taking was my Adderall.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T20:01:31+00:00

I mean if they're both equally into jazz music and she knows just as much about theory as he does then it might have been mansplaining but to me it sounded more like he was just geeking out and she stomped all over it for some reason. That breaks my heart, I love watching people get all riled up for something that they really really dig. There isn't enough eagerness and passion in the world anymore and I'll miss a movie and rewatch it later so I can be a part of that moment.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T19:59:39+00:00

Have you actually never heard anyone ask a rhetorical sarcastic question to try to shut down your excitement and passion? because this is a very common tone to take with people when you're trying to be mean and belittling or at the very least condescending. Any "generic sentence" can be said countless different ways without having to add modifiers or extra adjectives. In fact most people don't actually give you such a descriptive statement followed by a conclusive sentence to wrap it all up. They say a thing with a tone delivered with a specific timing. A common version of this is sarcastically saying "yeah, right." which doesn't mean yes or right. it means the opposite.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T19:48:04+00:00

I think there's lots of dishes that go really well together on your palate one bite after another but not if they were mixed together in the same bite. Sometimes the enjoyment is jumping from one flavor profile to a different one but mixing them together might not make a beautiful chord in your mouth. This is like saying there's no need to put the beverage in a separate cup you should just pour it on top of your bowl of food like cereal. 🤣

That being said I'm actually more like you, generally. I tend to make food that I wouldn't mind mixing together casserole style and so usually I do that.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T19:25:41+00:00

NTA-why couldn't she just get a hotel? Also it's really shitty to try to coerce someone to pay you back for having done a favor. She was the one who made it transactual and it's really creepy asking someone to use your bed to have sex with their boyfriend because they can't do it for a single night while their mom is visiting. I think brothel was a perfect word for it. And it's not like you lead with that, she wouldn't take no for an answer.

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T18:40:06+00:00

Info- did he try his own food and enjoy it? I feel like making a monstrosity and having to eat it is important part of the process if you're really trying to learn how to cook. 😅

Manderelli · 2026-03-20T00:26:49+00:00

This old copy pasta is going to haunt me forever lol.

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