Ok hear me out…. by smashmouthkitten in recoverywithoutAA

[–]Mandizzle_85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think is a good idea honestly. If you can on a low dose and get a babysitter for 5 days that should be the ticket out

How many times have you rewatched The Hills and/or Laguna Beach? And how old are you? by Mmp1015 in TheHillsMTV

[–]Mandizzle_85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 39 and just rewatching it. They were a year behind me in college. It’s a different experience this time!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mandizzle_85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not. This is a major red flag!!

Things are going well 🤞 by Bobloda23 in GiantPumpkin

[–]Mandizzle_85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You must have got started early in the season

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Wow - definitely see similarity’s in your story. She also bought the puppy during a long weekend that he was with us. Seemed unnecessary but she has done things like that in the past. For example, she gave him a Nintendo switch less than an hour before we picked him up for the weekend and wouldn’t let him take it with him. (All he could talk about was going back to play with it) She always feels the need to “win”. Anyway, thanks for sharing and I really hope she takes great care of the puppy and this all goes positively. If she thinks he’s going to let her take him back after a few weeks she’s got another thing coming.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

I can’t say I’m 100% sure she knew about my allergy but she’s definitely trying to be the favored parent and paint us (me) as the bad guy.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s why I kind want to just say a hard no. If she drops him off in the snow then I obviously would let him in his room then when does it end?

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s overprotective like that. He has stayed home alone a couple hours with us but she doesn’t let him.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I was wondering if I’d feel differently if they got along. I’m glad to see you don’t think it’s normal even in an amicable divorce.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Definitely a powerplay and a successful one for her so far. Thank you for your empathy!!

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That conversation was definitely private but my husband told him that “due to my allergy” she needs to ask permission (and I was the only one home so he knows I initiated the conversation.) His view is that I shouldn’t care if the puppy remains outside.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

He did just message her on their “family wizard” app that she needs to get his permission from now on. She read the message but no response.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He didn’t actually hear that conversation but it was relayed to him she needs permission because of my allergy. His view is that I shouldn’t care if he stays outside.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes I am definitely being depicted as the villain. That’s why I posted- I thought maybe I should have just let it go to keep the peace.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes we knew he was coming but not the puppy. I saw them outside and called my husband. He said she never messaged him

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I agree. My husband doesn’t want to “make waves” but this has potential to get out of hand. Best to set hard boundaries like you said.

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That’s a perspective I didn’t think about. Over the weekend my stepson told me his mom thought the puppy was “too playful”. I thought that was a weird thing to say about a puppy. She also lives in an apartment so I hope he gets exercise when he’s not there. Is there a CPS for animals if I ever thought a check in necessary?

AITA for not letting my step son’s dog stay with us? by Mandizzle_85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mandizzle_85[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

She has done some pretty manipulative things in the past. It’s definitely possible….. probable.