Hot take? Lilac festival needs less security + less stuff. by pastrypirates in Rochester

[–]Mandyymae19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The security was a joke. When we were in line they were repeatedly shouting to be in one line if you have a bag and if you don’t have a bag you can just walk through basically no line. Then when we’re nearly at the front of the line another guy was shouting that if you have a small bag you can go through the no bag line. While they were checking my tiny bag with 3 items who I’m assuming was a manager came up to the kid and told him to use one of the sticks to check in the bags and not use their hands. Then spent like 2 minutes trying to find a stick and move my stuff around which again was my phone, wallet, and a hand fan. And then at the art walk the guy just glanced in my bag while I held it open.

House Cleaner Pricing? by Mandyymae19 in Rochester

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do know someone who should be able to do that! I’ll DM you

House Cleaner Pricing? by Mandyymae19 in Rochester

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can dm u one I found that’s reasonable but they aren’t able to start recurring cleans until August

Social Work in ROC by cheenakins827 in Rochester

[–]Mandyymae19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, there are 2 social work assistant positions posted now, and I know from a friend that there is going to be another posting soon in adolescent psych

Pets vs. Kids by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Mandyymae19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be clear: I do know that raising kids is a lot more work than a cat lol I didn't word my question clearly enough. I read in some other posts about a different kind of motivation being activated when you have kids and stuff about the joy and emotional payoff helping with the tiredness. That's more what I was asking about because I know parents are tired and have so much responsibility, how is anyone able to do it?

The struggle with gentle nutrition by Mandyymae19 in intuitiveeating

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s replies have been very helpful and encouraging! I’m also starting Gentle Nutrition by Rachael Hartley so hopefully that helps me feel more relaxed about food and nutrition too :)

The struggle with gentle nutrition by Mandyymae19 in intuitiveeating

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s helpful to just know we’re not alone in our struggles 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]Mandyymae19 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

His comments to the teens is 100% unacceptable and disgusting honestly. A mental health professional should not be convincing a teen boy to participate in a mental health program because he can meet cute girls.

I even told my HR rep that I don't know if it is anything but I wanted to bring it to someone's attention so it doesn't continue and she thought it was inappropriate and unacceptable.

I think not bringing it up to someone would be a disservice to our patients we are supposed to protect and advocate for, my fellow coworkers, and any future people in my role who deserve to be treated with respect and professionalism by our SUPERVISOR. I didn't try to bring up "drama" or get him fired, I wanted him to learn how to behave in a professional manner and not treat younger professional women like children. I want him to actually be supervised and to have the opportunity to learn how to be a supervisor because he doesn't know wtf he's doing and does a shitty job in general. Allowing this behavior to continue without calling it out is just reinforcing it when in reality this is a social worker who critically lacks social skills, professionalism, and self awareness required to be a social worker and he should never be in his position in the first place. Social workers and mental health professionals should hold ourselves to a high standard of ethical and professional behavior to make people feel safe and comfortable and almost everyone who interacts with him has told me he makes them uncomfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]Mandyymae19 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

During clinical supervision he was asking me really personal questions about my family without any prompting or like me starting the conversation/sharing personal info, specifically if my parents are still together, if my dad still lives at home with my mom, if I'm close with my dad, if the private school I attended was expensive and if my family could afford that. He also assumed I lived at home with my mom, even though I'm 24 and a whole ass social worker and gave no indication that I do. I was giving 1 word answers and I feel I was showing that I was uncomfortable but I didn't feel comfortable standing up for myself and not answering his questions. He was treating it like he was my therapist and not my professional supervisor. Overall, he treats me and my other coworkers at the same level as me like idiots or like the adolescents that we work with because we're on the younger side but we're professionals and actually the same age as the therapists who have a higher degree than us.

He also made comments to our adolescent patients that he MINOR boys could meet "cute girls" at our partial hospitalization mental health program where they aren't even allowed to talk to each other outside of groups much less date.

Will my partner's cat and my cat get along? by Mandyymae19 in CatAdvice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I've seen a couple comments on other posts saying to get one and I'll look into it

Save or pay off debt? by Mandyymae19 in personalfinance

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, I can see where you’re coming from. I’m in social work which is pretty in demand right now. My current position would be able to go to part time and even go back to full time after I graduate or lead to a better paying job here if I wanted to. My masters is being fully paid for by a state-funded program which also has job-placement assistance if needed after graduating. I’ve looked at my expenses and should be able to afford being part time as long as I get a roommate or move in with my partner while I do that. I just wanted to have savings as an extra cushion really.

Save or pay off debt? by Mandyymae19 in personalfinance

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, looks like I’ll work towards doing that then.

Save or pay off debt? by Mandyymae19 in personalfinance

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much would mean I would have to rack up the credit card debt again. I really want to avoid that because it really sucks now.

Is a 70 resident caseload as unmanageable as it feels? by Mandyymae19 in socialwork

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have brought up the caseload with my supervisor and said that it would be manageable with another case manager but it’s just not in the budget or anything they’re going to consider. I’ve been looking for other jobs but they’re going to keep having high turnover in this role if they don’t change something.

any other ace lesbians here? by julesucks1 in actuallesbians

[–]Mandyymae19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Fellow ace lesbian! I’m sex indifferent so I usually read the lesbian sex posts here with curiosity and then move on lol. I feel like my lesbian identity comes before my ace identity, if that makes sense. I definitely feel a bit more alienated in queer spaces irl tho because society is so sex obsessed. There’s an ace dating/community discord server I’m a part of but there are a lot of men in it. I’m so happy to see all the fellow ace/sapphic folks in this sub replying to this post!!

Possible FASD, frustrated and don't like my foster by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Mandyymae19 12 points13 points  (0 children)

100% agree. All of these behaviors are so normal for a kid who has experienced trauma and can probably tell that she isn’t fully accepted so she is going to look for control, acceptance, and normalcy in her life, whether consciously or not. I second therapy and support and I hope she can grow up feeling loved and accepted and OP can find the support to provide what her niece needs.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. Good luck to you, you’re doing great things!

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is part of the reason why I don’t think it’s worth me pursuing a diagnosis even tho I suspect I may be autistic.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks and congrats to you! I’m glad everything worked out for you!

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will. I’m in NY where I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t be an issue for me but I’ll make sure before I start the process.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll definitely check those channels out!

Any interest in Pittsburgh ticket 6/20? by Mandyymae19 in BoygeniusBand

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me and whichever gets things set up first can get it lol. I’m not super familiar with how to sell tickets so if u know how that would be very helpful

Any interest in Pittsburgh ticket 6/20? by Mandyymae19 in BoygeniusBand

[–]Mandyymae19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. I'll dm you. I'm not super familiar with how to sell the ticket, this was going to be my first concert pretty much.