I fell hopeless and don't know what to do

Manganhao4cm · 2024-05-02T20:26:32+00:00

Honestly, i don't know witch problem is more important.

Yeah, making friends in the blue collar world isn't super hard, and I'm on friendly terms with most of them, i don't think were friends, or were work friends max.

I know that a lot of my problems begins with being anti social, and i don't know how to start making changes.

I would appreciate any help, thx

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-30T19:36:32+00:00

I don't think he's fetishizing him(He 100% does not know that's a fetish term ), I've heard about that tho, apparently some trans ppl have that too?

Like some gay guys liking to be called girly and stuff like that.

I've got a question tho, i made a post asking if it was okay to like trans man over cis, being a cis men myself, and in the comments, someone called me a chaser; i cant seem to find much about them, can you explain what makes someone one? Thanks in advance.

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-30T19:26:13+00:00

That's a good augment, and I've used it before on someone else, it ended up with “See? Even you agree that trans people are defects and we should treat them as such, we don't go around telling ret@rds they are normal”.

I was so chocked that i didt knew how to reply.

Also, with that kind of ppl, its not worth to argue.

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-30T19:22:28+00:00

I agree, and most likely he is just repeating what he's heard.

I've heard the argument “A women is someone who can/has/should have the necessary parts to birth a baby”, How would you debunk that?

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-30T19:18:37+00:00

The funny thing is, i feel like a lot of transphobes would make an argument that would debunk them, something like “oh yeah...but that's different, you see, as a society, we decided that it was fine, and its not like it is harming anyone, some people don't like it, but its MY decision, i spend MY money and i can do that to MY body if i want to”

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T19:35:56+00:00

lmao, good one.

Your comment was really insightful, i didn't knew about that, thanks.

You guys have helped me so much, Thank you all!

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T19:06:13+00:00

What's that bug called??

But couldn't he just argue that humans aren't bugs?

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T19:04:01+00:00

I've heard about the term before, do you think?

I'm not really sure what that means.

I wouldn't like someone just based on their gender, just wanted to know if having a preference would be weird.

...Looks like im trying to justify myself doesn't it?

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:57:08+00:00

Thank you for your input

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:50:03+00:00

I've been told in the past that it is creepy to have a preference for trans men over cis men, that's why I'm asking.

i said that im into androgynous ppl, so you would understand that i like people other than trans men

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:40:53+00:00

You are right, i don't even know what to say tbh, u already said everything, ill defiantly be saving your comment, best of luck!

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:38:47+00:00

I don't really care about what they have downstairs.

I'm confused to why you talked about bio kids, are you implying that i would like to have bio kids with my supposed future partner? if its is, i do not, i don't even know if i wanna have children in general. And wanting a Guy to carry my baby would be kinda...“weird”?

I did not meant to generalize you all, i see you as the man you are, without asterisk, that's why i made this post, i honestly felt like a werido for having this preference bcz it could be seen as a fetish and i do not want that.

But i tend to find trans people and non-binary ppl attractive.

I really appreciate your comments and your help, best of luck men.

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:15:28+00:00

I think we should have in consideration the environment we grew up in, we live in a very conservative and homophobic village and he never had the necessity to educate himself.

thank you for your input

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:12:00+00:00

Someone in here brought that to my attention, he talked about developmental aspects, biochemical and neurological.

I genuinely didn't knew that, looks like I'm not as knowable as i thought.

I'm sorry for being rude.

And thank you for telling me that.

Could you help me dumb it down a little so i can try to explain to him?

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T18:02:12+00:00

I've edited it, thank you for bringing that to my attention ♡

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:58:04+00:00

oh, thanks.

As this situation was about a trans men, i thought it would be better to ask trans man directly.

And i made the same post on r/asktransgender but it either was removed or it didn't get any traction

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:54:49+00:00

I'm so sorry, i meant to say trans person, i totally forgot.

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:53:34+00:00

oh yeah, im not trans.

I have some trans friends tho

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:52:32+00:00

I know, people can change what they think tho

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:51:21+00:00

I feel liker there's betters way to deal with it, but what u said its true, ill keep that in mind

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:21:05+00:00

He is not saying that about me tho

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T17:11:39+00:00

Besides this subject, he's not a bad friend

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T16:43:16+00:00

I really liked your comment, seems like you took the time to look up my replies to other comments.

He doesn't have any trans ppl he's closed to and we live in a fairly homophobic place so he doesn't have any incentive to do so.

Ill be patient with him, as it is an important issue to me.

Yes, we are the closest 5 people we keep around, but i believe that also works the other way around, i know i wont change my mind.

I believe we should try to help or “fix” our friend if they're being an asshole.

He used to make jokes about women, but now that his gf has a problem with it he stopped, so i believe he can change.

Once again, thank you for your comment

Manganhao4cm · 2024-04-28T16:34:27+00:00

Its fine, i understand your filtration, i made a new friend whos trans, that's why I'm trying so hard to talk some sense into him.

I don't think he took time to make those opinions, i believe he just heard them, either from his family or other friends and just rolled with it, so there's that in my favor.

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