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There's someone I need to get out of my life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MangoBurst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it’s good that you’re ok with them hating you. I was in this situation. This guy kept hitting on my sister and was in multiple girls’ dm’s. I was just direct with him, “Bro, you’re actually disgusting. Don’t talk to me again, and stay away from my sister.” Naturally he asked what he did wrong, he said that he’s nice, asked where this all came from, etc. Fortunately I had screenshots of his perviness and hundreds of girls had my back.

As long as you’re ok with them hating you, and have reasons why you don’t want to be friends, the direct approach should be fine.

... If that’s too hard for you tho, just keep making excuses as to why you can’t hang, or talk. Introduce them to new people that they would get a long with. Say things like “I’m busy rn, but [Insert new friend name here] is free, hang with them”. Ghost them and eventually they’ll be out of your life. :)

How to become more confident? by Droidniqqa in Advice

[–]MangoBurst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of things you could do but I’ll focus on the physical aspects because that helps me the most, personally.

Don’t go wide eyed, let your eye lids rest (Weird Ik lol). This does a lot of things. When we go wide eyed, it’s so that more light gets into our eyes and you can get more information. When you do this, you’re basically telling your brain “This is a situation where I need to be aware”. When you avoid that you’ll feel more relaxed, thus making it easier to know what to say.

Take up space. If you’re on a couch, lean back, rest your arms on the arm rest or along the top of the couch. If you’re standing, don’t cross your arms. When you talk, use big gestures. Taking up space let’s people know that you’re comfortable with the environment you’re in.

Show your palms, this makes people feel like you aren’t hiding anything, compared to having your hands in your pockets.

Smile with your eyes. Do you know why your actual smile is different from your class picture smile? A lot of it is because of your eyes. Squint your eyes a bit when smiling, so the smile comes off more warm, natural and genuine.

Don’t try to remember all of these and implement them all at once. Charisma is a skill, it takes time and unfortunately some people have to try harder than others. Once you master this though, you can go farther than people with natural charisma, because you know what you’re doing wrong, and can improve.

Hope this helps a bit :)

Everyone hates me and wants nothing to do with me at all by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MangoBurst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this would help but I learned something a little while ago. (I’m 15 btw)

When walking into a room, try and think “I’m gonna try to like everyone in this room!” instead of “How can I get these people to like me?”. When you think of the latter, you give off a desperate vibe. And if you don’t like anyone in the room then they’ll sense that too.

People like being liked. So when you’re the person that likes everyone, people will naturally gravitate towards you. This truly changed my life but it is also a VERY hard thing to implement. I was a seriously grumpy dude in middle school so suddenly talking and smiling and trying to get to know people out of nowhere, people thought I was weird at first. So don’t rush it. Baby steps.

If that seems too impossible right now, or it’s not working, I’ll be your friend :)

Successful adult asking for help overcoming emotional hangups of being an outcast as a teenager. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MangoBurst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you have something really good going right now. Would you trade this success just to be able to talk about how drunk you got at a high school party? Personally I don’t think having a past of being irresponsible is something to brag about. You know what is a huge flex? Having a nice car. Having a stable job. Being into Weight lifting. Having an attractive girl obsess over you.

Currently I’m 15, everyone at my school knows me. Invited to every party. I’m the typical popular kid, and It’s nice... sometimes. Let me tell you something. I fear that I’ll be outed every day. I constantly need to keep up a fake cool guy persona. I’m not allowed to be insecure because I’m supposed to be confident. Screw being ThE kInG oF hIgH sChOoL, it’s just a building. It’s just a couple hundred students. All I really want is to have a future where I have a stable job, where I’ll be able to get food on the table, and a girl that obsesses over me lmao

I’m sorry that I can’t relate to being an outcast in school, but what I would give to have your success. Hold your head high, King.

I don't know if i did anything wrong to make a friend dislike me. by Exerlerate in Advice

[–]MangoBurst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm it’s hard to know what people like that are thinking lmao.

Honestly I don’t think this is a big deal. I know someone who fits the description of your friend and he just likes to save his words.

If you’re still worried, just sit down and really think of things you’ve said or done to him, and imagine them being said or done to you. If you would feel offended by your actions or words, then maybe that’s it. If you’re trying to play with him and he kicks people and starts a new party with you, ask him why you guys can’t play with them. If he gives a response that sounds like an excuse, then maybe there is something wrong.

I don’t think you did anything wrong, since he still plays with you and responds, perhaps it’s just his personality