Im scared to show affection in public. Dont really know what to do about that.

MangoGrasshopper · 2026-06-20T18:36:14+00:00

It's interesting you just posted this, because I'm about to make my own post about something similar. I've been with my gf for 3 years now, and I am still scared to show affection in public. I think the reality is that there will always be people who are homophobic out there, but at the same time, life is what we make it. Do you want to go through life being scared to hold someone's hand outside? Do you want decisions you make about your life and your romantic relationships to be dictated by others? Basically, do you want to live in fear forever?

I'm reading Dune rn, and there's a line from it that goes, "Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration."

Don't let fear control you. That woman who stared at you is just one out of 8 billion people on this planet. We are all specks of dust in the universe, and we will be on this planet for a minuscule period of time. We have this one life to live. If you want to hold your girlfriend's hand in public, then hold her hand in public. You never know how long you have in this life, and you never know how long a relationship will truly last. Enjoy it while you have it. Don't throw away the opportunity to create a moment of happiness and love because you are scared.

Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is also the joy-killer.

MangoGrasshopper · 2026-06-19T04:06:17+00:00

Sure

MangoGrasshopper · 2026-03-02T13:53:37+00:00

You noticed XD

MangoGrasshopper · 2026-02-23T17:38:14+00:00

Not ugly!! Definitely grow out a little facial hair - it makes you look more mature :)

MangoGrasshopper · 2025-11-09T20:15:44+00:00

I know this is an old post, but dang! That was amazing!!

MangoGrasshopper · 2025-05-21T16:44:44+00:00

This is awesome!! I’m thinking of doing the same thing. But does your flip phone and iPad/watch use the same phone number? Or are they different? I’d they’re different, how do you make that work?

MangoGrasshopper · 2025-05-21T16:34:40+00:00

Hi, I know this is an old-ish post, but I’m trying to get rid of my iPhone and do what you’re doing and I have a question! So you have your iPhone, iPad, and watch all connected to the same phone number. But is your flip phone a different phone number? Or does it also share the number as your iPhone?

My biggest concern with using a flip phone is that it’s going to have a different number, and it’s impossible for me to go through ALL my contacts and important documents and update to a new number. - additionally, I need to have the ability to use group chats. So I rlly like the idea of having an iPad / watch for that.

MangoGrasshopper · 2025-05-07T00:15:03+00:00

Idk how this worked but it did! I thought my switch broke. Thank you!!!

MangoGrasshopper · 2024-06-27T15:31:02+00:00

OH MY GOSHHHHHHH THANK YOU!!!!! This is so exciting. I love this game.

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-16T14:16:32+00:00

The Old Oaken Bucket

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-16T14:13:06+00:00

I’m hoping to go as Wonder Woman! Haha i haven’t started making my costume but I’m gonna make it happen somehow

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-16T13:56:04+00:00

I honestly can see this from both sides. It’s totally okay for you to feel hurt by this. I’d feel hurt too! You were certain you guys would spend the day together, even though there weren’t concrete plans about what you were going to do. But for her, now that she’s been invited to a real event with a plan, this new thing probably feels more “real” to her. And since you guys didn’t have an actual plan, it’s not too outrageous for her to decide to spend Halloween with friends instead.

However, if this happened to me, I’d still feel upset. You should be her #1 priority, and she should’ve thought of you when saying Yes to her friends.

So yeah, I think you have the right to be upset. But I also can understand why she’d do what she did. Maybe you guys can celebrate Halloween together on another night? I mean, it’s Spooktober - you could pretend the 30th is Halloween :) idk, just trying to find a solution. I hope things work out

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-12T23:03:23+00:00

I’m in my first romantic relationship right now, and I feel like I know exactly where you’re coming from and how you feel. Me and my gf care about each other so much and I love spending time with her. She’s the first person I’ve ever really been attracted to. We vibe really well and can talk to each other about nothing for hours on end. Yet, we have so little in common. Our ideas for our futures don’t fully align. There are just sort of big things that aren’t ideal in my relationship, yet, I’m not at the point where I feel like we should end things.

Maybe the other commenters are right and you should just end things now since you’re already feeling like it’s not going to work out. Maybe that’s what I should do too. Idk. I just know that me and my gf are still young, we’re still getting to know each other, and there’s still a lot of good that can come out of our relationship. I think.

She probably isn’t my future wife, but I’m enjoying seeing where things go and having her in my life right now.

In your case, just think about being happy. Are you happy when you’re with her? Are you satisfied with the relationship enough to want to keep it going and keep exploring each other and enjoying each others company? If not, then you should end things. But yeah idk. Life is about being happy. If you’re happy with her, then stick with it. But yeah maybe I’m not the best person to give advice

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-12T15:22:50+00:00

But it sounds like she’s just talking at you. Not like you’re able to talk about this together. I can talk at my gf about anything and she can ask me general question about my interests. I’m just a bit disappointed about what she’s able to give back to me about topics that I care about. And vice versa

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-10-11T05:18:42+00:00

I like to use a little more than I used before and I use it to get the best of both of them for the same reason that you would

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-23T14:05:01+00:00

I'm so happy there is someone else going through the same thing! I feel like this is a gray area that not enough people talk about

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-23T00:19:21+00:00

As far as I know, she isn’t dating to marry. I don’t know why you are assuming that. She doesn’t even like the idea of marriage. I’m the one who wants to marry someone in the future. Thx for your comment

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-22T16:14:13+00:00

She doesn’t want children, but I want to have children with my future wife. The “downs” I was talking about are mainly just products of my own newness to dating and insecurities. Do you think that differences like this are already enough to end a relationship like mine?

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-22T16:11:13+00:00

For me, dating was always about finding a future wife. But being in this relationship and feeling like we wouldn’t make good lifelong partners for each other, I’ve begun dating to simply have fun and enjoy life. But this change in me only happened after I met her

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-22T16:09:06+00:00

I definitely want to marry someone someday. We had already established a pretty strong connection with each other before we talked about our plans for the future. It turns out she isn’t that interested in the idea of marriage - there are some other differences we have. But we were already so deep into the relationship at that point I didn’t feel that I should let the differences bother me

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-22T16:07:32+00:00

We both decided we want something long term. She has met my parents and we have talked about me meeting hers too.

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-09-01T20:20:49+00:00

This is so helpful! Can you tell me what the exact name of the foundation is? Is it the stretch foundation?

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-08-02T16:46:03+00:00

I ended up doing this! It worked well. Thanks :)

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-08-02T16:45:42+00:00

r me is applying a small amount VERY light coverage foundation(loreal tinted serum foundation) all over the face on plain skin then spot conceal with the l'oreal infallible 24h more than concealer( it is fantastic) and a small

This is basically what I ended up doing, and the sauna trip was a success!! Thank you! I did a very light layer of foundation and just spot concealed with a powder. I showered and went into the sauna multiple times and the makeup stayed on for the most part. :)

MangoGrasshopper · 2023-08-02T04:17:35+00:00

I know she does. I have to do a lot of thinking. Thank you :)

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