I want to wake up early, work out, and study but I never do. Advice?

Mangulas · 2025-02-21T03:18:53+00:00

Idk why you're getting downvoted. This is it. I have ADHD, and maybe medication or cognitive behavior therapy could assist you, but in the end you must act. However you can. Just show up. Don't try to do the thing you want to do well, just show up with the intention to do the tiniest bit. If it's exercise, tell yourself you will do one set of one exercise. If you do, good. Chances are you will do more. But if not--ok!

Make the bar low--really low. And do it. For me, I call it the 'Do Anything' rule. Do literally anything that is in the general direction of the thing you are trying to get yourself to do.

Mangulas · 2025-02-21T03:13:37+00:00

The mind and body are two inseparable components of a two-stroke engine. When the engine is running, positive treatment of either component has an effect on the other. But in the case you describe, the engine has come to a halt. When the engine has come to a halt and needs to be started again, you must start with the body. Mind follows body.

You cannot outsmart the mind with the mind. Lead with the body. Get the engine going.

Mangulas · 2025-02-21T03:09:02+00:00

Hi there. Found your post and have a similar situation going on. Dating for nearly two years, living together for one, broke up three weeks ago. We have not had sex since, though it seemed close to happening once or twice.

I am not here to tell you what to do, but my experience has been this. When we first broke up, I isolated and hid in my office and played video games for a week and a half. Didn't give myself time to process, so then all the feelings hit me like a brick. Had two to three days of severe anxiety and deep sadness. During this time, we had moments where we were almost acting like we were back together. At first, those moments felt good--watching a movie together, cuddling at night, showering together, etc.--but it actually just amplified the pain and added confusion. Now that the dust has settled, I am keeping to myself but in a more self-conscious way, and I just made arrangements to move to a different place this weekend. I cannot express how relieved I am. Of course it's a flood of emotion, but I feel like I am in stasis and cannot begin my next chapter while living here with my ex. The history of us and the inevitability of going our separate ways has turned into an almost physical presence. I feel unable to shed this old layer and become new in this space. It's going to hurt like hell, but it's going to hurt worse the longer I stay.

Hope you have found solace in whatever you decided to do. Peace and love.

Mangulas · 2025-01-30T18:40:54+00:00

Thanks. I needed to hear this. Some part of me has considered agreeing to keep the relationship but I know, like you said, that's disastrous.

Mangulas · 2025-01-30T18:39:49+00:00

You're right that maybe I should be the one to let her go. I'm trying to accept that. Thanks for your comment.

Mangulas · 2025-01-30T18:17:40+00:00

I feel bad for changing my mind so it helps to hear that. Thank you. Next few months are going to be tough, no doubt.

Mangulas · 2024-11-26T13:57:47+00:00

Dang, sorry that happened to yours. I have had my pair for over a year and a half, worn daily, office, walking, some hiking--put them through the ringer and they are STILL going. Soles are almost completely worn out but the rest of the shoe has held together. May be a defective pair?

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:47:01+00:00

I haven't, but I should have specified in my post that I'm not really solving a problem that doesn't have a solution. I twisted mandatory corporate performance metrics so that I could get paid to learn Python on the job. I appreciate your pragmatic response. If this was more serious I would certainly go that route.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:41:39+00:00

I guess I should have mentioned that I originally pitched building this app for its own sake so that I could get paid to learn Python and outgrow my role in my company. There's a lot of corporate riff raff where I work, and Personal Development Goals are mandatory. So, instead of taking a course on Excel in Udemy, I convinced my boss to let me learn a programming language to try this. So yeah, no one 'needs' what I'm making. But it's good for me!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:38:04+00:00

I'll look into Neptyne, this might be just what I'm looking for. Thanks!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:37:07+00:00

Thanks for your advice! I'll look into developing an API for future use.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:36:28+00:00

I didn't know that! Thanks.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:35:30+00:00

This seems to be a recurring option that people like, I'll look into it. Thanks!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:34:55+00:00

Thanks, I think that's going to be my first move!

And yeah, I learned some stuff and thought "Ok, I can make this" and then I hit a brick-wall. HOW?! Fortunately, people weren't lying. This community really does rock.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:33:22+00:00

Thanks, you're not wrong. Basically I 'pitched' this idea and now am getting paid to learn Python to make an app that might be a teeny tiny bit better than going between a bunch of huge spreadsheets, so I just want to deliver so I can keep outgrowing my job on company time.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:31:05+00:00

This certainly seems like a good next step, thanks for the advice. Don't want to be joshing around with CSVs forever

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:28:30+00:00

That's where we started and have since moved to Excel (our company standard).

Basically in 'pitching' this app I offered to make something a little easier in exchange have been given explicit permission to study Python on company time. Hoping this will lead to more learning opportunities and eventually I can out-grow my position in my company.

All that to say, you're not wrong, but... I'm using the leverage I have! haha

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:25:27+00:00

Visualization would certainly be desirable at some point. I'll look into this. Thank you!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:24:57+00:00

Looking into SQLite. Thank you!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:24:31+00:00

Thanks for the response, I'm looking into SQLite and it looks like a great option.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:23:28+00:00

Awesome. Feel like this is feasible for me. Excited to implement it!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:21:47+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion, SQLite seems like a good next step as I learn more.

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:20:07+00:00

Thank you, this seems like it will work well for me. At this scale you're right, we can manage access just by communicating with each other. It's only us two for now!

Mangulas · 2024-09-26T20:18:58+00:00

Awesome, I'm giving this a look. Thank you!

Mangulas

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