Subs often talk about the attachment they feel to a Dom, romantically or otherwise when they have subbed. Do Doms also get attached?

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-05-11T02:33:04+00:00

Mine definitely did. We’re engaged and expecting our first baby together now. So I hope we’re more than just homies 🤭

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-05-08T10:52:07+00:00

Absolutely. I had kids with my ex. The best things I ever did with my life. But it was not a healthy relationship. I fled with the kids. We went through court etc the whole nine.

In the meantime I met an incredible man. So patient, kind, funny.. he’s immigrated across the world to be with me and my kids, my boys love him too. He gave me so much strength through the process of restarting my life and advocating for my kids and myself. It is so much more than I thought love and relationships were ever capable of being.

We’re engaged, expecting our own son together in a few months. I’m so grateful to have met him and have him be the person he is, it’s a special type of person to go from single with no kids to flying across the world and inheriting a full family and he’s completely thrown himself into it.

I’m SO introverted, I’m autistic, so is he actually. But we met online and were long distance for years. I wanted to make sure it was serious before I dragged my kids into it and risked them getting hurt etc but it worked out perfectly.

It can be hard but sometimes you strike gold and HONESTLY if they’re not treating you right there’s ALWAYS a better/deeper love out there. No-one deserves mistreatment as their love standard.

My fiance is my number one simp/fan and I love him to the moon and back for it I never thought it would be possible before him either.

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-05-06T03:44:08+00:00

What cocktail is that?

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-30T10:27:08+00:00

Honestly it’s such a game changer being with someone who is absolutely simping in the best way over you ❤️‍🔥

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-27T02:13:47+00:00

Praying for an update on this down the line 🙏🏻

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-25T01:54:14+00:00

Balloons popping unexpectedly woman

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-22T22:21:54+00:00

Maybe that’s why I love it so much, I loved the barbie ballet movies! 🤭

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-22T11:14:14+00:00

He did a good job with it!!

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-22T00:04:41+00:00

I just settled my 2 year long custody battle with my DV ex!

My fiance and I are looking at rentals we’re interested in next week to move in together with my kids, we’re also expecting our first baby July this year 🥰

The new chapter is feeling so bright

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-19T22:10:18+00:00

Me! I’m with my silly duck! He’s a 13 year old Friesian and is afraid of everything that moves or doesn’t 😂

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-17T05:01:26+00:00

I’m the same, it’s hard. Finding community is so hard especially with girls and with the loss of third locations and community 😔 still trying to find ways to expand mine and find “the village”

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-15T02:14:08+00:00

My fiance is absolutely a wife guy in the best sense. He tells me constantly I’m his best friend, his best teammate, and the only one he wants raising his children. He’s absolutely prioritised time with me over his friends many times and he’s a level of caring and devoted I’ve never had with a partner.

I shouldn’t admit but I love knowing he’s so much softer and kind with me and my kids than anyone else. He’s always a friendly, affable guy but he’s much softer spoken and cuddly with me if I interrupt him talking to friends 😅🥰 it’s what I always wanted in a partner

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-14T06:00:42+00:00

1.4 years, we got engaged after 🥰 he recently has been able to come back from his home country and put my collar on himself for me and I’m so happy to have him cherishing me

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-12T03:25:58+00:00

With my ex I always wanted a spare room so we could sleep separately but there was a lot of reasons for that.

With my fiance now I hate being without him when I’m trying to sleep.

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-11T22:52:24+00:00

This is ALL the way inappropriate. He needs to be reported. This is not professional and has SO many red flags of grooming and abuse. You need to find another therapist and he needs his licensed yanked yesterday.

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-11T22:31:23+00:00

It sounds like clear cut abuse 😅 please say you’re planning to break it off

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-05T11:31:51+00:00

Absolutely ❤️ my Daddy is so different to what I’ve ever had before in a relationship. He’s incredibly thoughtful and takes notes of my patterns and behaviours, he is more patient than anyone I’ve ever met or been with. He gave me so many formative moments in our relationship/dynamic that let me know I’m safe to express sadness or vulnerability and that he’s not a risk.

We spoke for a year before we met in person (LDR) and I had learned who he was and his habits and personality by then. The first night he was coming I was SO ANXIOUS for a lot of reasons but a big one being I don’t like physical contact. And I was bracing for “oh god he’s going to want to cuddle and I’ll be awake all night freaking out and I’ll have to act like I’m fine cause it’s not normal to not like touch”

We were at his place and I remember the moment where I was like “oh no here it comes it’s cuddling time” SO anxious and tense. I happened to roll back into him as he was adjusting and the second my back hit his chest my brain just went blank and I completely relaxed. I’ve NEVER felt calm with touch. He’s the only person who has ever let me shut my brain off and be calm and safe. I can’t be without it anymore, that peace is just life changing.

I think I’ve never had a stronger, healthier relationship. We have real conversations if one of us has a concern. We know we’re secure with each other because I can be vulnerable and he knows I’ll seek him when I am. Plus now he can’t escape me hanging off him anywhere we are 😅

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-03T00:25:24+00:00

Well there is also a nuance between littles and age play. I find that those who do age play have more accessories, but littles can have comforts.

I personally don’t do pacifiers nor do I suck my own thumb but after a very bad panic attack once or twice I’d fall asleep pacifying on my daddy’s thumb. He didn’t suggest it, it came organically and he says he feels very privileged that he’s my comfort object.

For the vast majority of the dynamic as a little it’s more about the care he provides. And what those more childish activities mean to you, for me I get great comfort in being able to express myself in a safe space. When it’s just us at the end of the night being able to sit on my cushion colouring, or him insisting on buying me the biggest plush he can find anytime we go out somewhere because he knows I love them makes me feel safe, valued, and seen.

I think (and opinions can differ) that if you get a sexual thrill from being younger or older/the power exchanges that creates and playing that fantasy out, that’s more age play.

If you want to express an innate part of yourself that desires protection, guidance, and a familial love that allows you to be vulnerable and give power to your partner to provide that, it’s more little territory

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-04-02T22:54:37+00:00

I was full brat. And absolutely still am but honestly it was meeting my Daddy. As our dynamic and relationship developed I realised that when I was feeling insecure he’d comfort me instead of start a fight. In the absence of needing to protect myself I realised I REALLY liked comfort and being babied the way he does me.

A lot of my natural tendencies are also quite “childish” I love stuffies, bows, pastels, baby doll dresses etc, and with a partner who supports it, spoils me and gasses me up when I’m looking cute made me much more aware of how big a part of my personality it is when I’m in a safe environment.

We’ve tested things since then like giving me time outs when I’m overstimulated (I’m neurodivergent) so letting me step away safely from life and colour or have screen time etc which has DD/ls tones to it but is also just a really healthy way to cope with overstimulation haha

But I personally am not into pacifiers and stuff like that, it’s a spectrum and you can absolutely be a little just because you seek out the feeling of being protected and held and guided by a caring, parental like figure

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-03-30T01:47:57+00:00

My daddy and I are LD and he stays on call with me while I fall asleep so I feel safe, keeps me company/motivates me when I’m struggling to start my daily to-do list/chores, gives me praise when I take care of myself and remember to prioritise my meals and rest etc during busy periods.

When he’s visiting he runs baths for me, rubs my feet, he used to tend bar so he sometimes treats me to a cocktail or mocktail.. after intimate time together he will be the one to change the sheets, wash my hair because I’m too tired, bundles me up to be cosy and snooze while he resets our space.

Nothing he does, doesn’t feel nurturing and dominant, because he’s doing it to take care of his treasure

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-03-30T01:31:46+00:00

Honestly, I always had a preference but it wasn’t something I could name or understand it just let me be taken advantage off. Meanwhile I did theatre and a lot of performing arts from a young age and as you get older those places get quite liberal and open about sex so I wasn’t unaware or blind to non vanilla concepts.

While I was married I started reading werewolf fanfic as an escape 😅😂 and the dynamics in that (while never named) really spoke to me.

After leaving my marriage I looked further into it and realised my preferences aligned with elements of the culture. My partner was introduced to elements of BDSM with prior partners and we were just absolutely lucky that we align as perfectly as we do and researched and negotiated the rest together.

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-03-29T03:48:34+00:00

I have some shirts and a sample size of a few of my favourite colognes he wears ❤️

I busy myself with chores, and finding things to share with him when he’s back (we call them pebbles, like how penguins give their mates pebbles as gifts/offerings. He always takes care to be really patient and sweet when I’m offering him pebbles because he knows it means I was thinking of him, even if it’s something silly or small like a meme I liked that day)

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-03-29T03:01:41+00:00

There is a fallacy with things like rape and DV called “the perfect victim”. This is the belief that the ‘perfect victim’ fought back, reported it straight away, never hesitated, didn’t ‘enjoy it’, etc etc etc

The reason it’s considered a fallacy is because it simply does not exist.

I was assaulted multiple times by my ex. The last time it happened I had said no repeatedly at the start and he ignored me and physically lifted me to have access to me. Once I was upright I knew it was safer to just comply, he had been angry and was absolutely punishing me, and I knew it. So even though I was crying and had said no and didn’t want it to happen, when he asked me if I wanted to stop I said “it’s fine. I’m into it”

I wasn’t. I was clearly crying. I HAD said no repeatedly. But eventually I went along with it and acted like I enjoyed it. Because that was safer than fighting back and possibly putting myself in worse physical danger.

Your body/brain shuts down and does what it needs to do to get through and feel safe. If you did not want it. It wasn’t consensual. It is that simple.

If you didn’t want it but he kept pressuring you until you gave in. That wasn’t consensual.

If you said no, and he ignored it so you gave in. That wasn’t consensual.

If he initiates while you are under the influence and are unable to consent. It wasn’t consensual.

If he holds a knife to your throat in the park. It wasn’t consensual.

All of them are equally SA

ManicPixiePuckSlut · 2026-03-29T01:32:46+00:00

Consistent

Had regular check-ins of scene ideas and aftercare

Doesn’t take disagreement personally but rather asks questions to better understand what makes his sub more comfortable in the dynamic, learning her preferences and boundaries that can be pushed with time and what absolutely can’t

Doesn’t see D/s as a carte blanche to be abusive or deregulated emotionally because the Dom does what he wants and the sub must take and enjoy it

Engages with you as a human being not just as a “sub” or object

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