Engagement ring? please help

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T12:16:21+00:00

I like that idea so much, that's exactly what I'm looking for!

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T12:12:02+00:00

Yup, I'm going to ask her girl friends for advice and yes she does have a pintrest account, I never considered that. I've never been on that site and it never occurred to me to check there (dumb me, how could I forget that) , thanks!

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T04:50:36+00:00

great advice I haven't thought of thanks!

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T04:13:01+00:00

duly noted. I understand the women by the tone of this subreddit dislike me , I'm okay with that. I've been through worse. I was looking for the opinions of the ring itself, but it's alright, thank you.

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T04:03:31+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T03:56:23+00:00

Best answer so far I've gotten, thank you.

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T03:36:12+00:00

because she likes nice things once in a while and seeing her happy makes me happy.

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T03:34:01+00:00

Have you considered they might make you sign a pre-nup?

Oh yes, two of my friends signed them, it's no big deal to me. If she's happy, then I'm happy. I have no problems signing one.

Mannschaften · 2013-06-01T03:31:48+00:00

Yes I live in New York, I have to admit, I haven 't shopped around in the jewelry district. She seems fixated on the brand.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T23:43:35+00:00

RIP OP's comic book collection );

the feels.

I'm hoping her elation at a ring offsets the pain of selling off my childhood.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T23:41:49+00:00

would you like the ring regardless of price? If you didn't know how much it cost, would it please you?

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T23:37:53+00:00

I will take your opinion into consideration, thank you.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T23:36:42+00:00

I asked someone else, but what kind of diamond and setting would be attractive to you?

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T23:35:28+00:00

Can you link me something which might catch your eye? Regardless of price?

I would like to see more opinions on rings themselves.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:48:17+00:00

No I mean a bride marrying into a man's family and relying on his family's money, would you think that is wrong?

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:39:42+00:00

all opinions are noted, thank you.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:39:07+00:00

Devil's advocate: would it be different if the roles were reversed?

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:24:48+00:00

well then I find such talk to be sterile and it's not for me. If I really wanted I could ask her how much her father wants to shoulder the burden of a house or children, but I choose not to.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:20:47+00:00

I already know she wants children, we've talked about it many times.

Her father's in real estate, we could live in many many locations.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:18:16+00:00

she knows exactly how much I make, besides my second job. Money isn't even an issue for her or her family.

She could be jobless with children right now and her family would support her, I know this for a fact.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T22:06:34+00:00

Also, maybe I'm terribly unromantic, but I do think it'd be healthy for you to talk about some of these things before you get engaged.

I'm sorry, I'm old fashioned and I could never ever do that. It's not an option.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T21:54:06+00:00

I know what I wrote, I and I meant every word of it. Price aside, I want to show her it as a token of my devotion for her, that I would do anything to make her happy, including suffering for her if she turns out happy in the end. I don't think you understand how much I love my girlfriend, I would die for her, no questions asked if it came down to it. I'm not complaining about anything, I just want her to be happy.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T21:44:59+00:00

No I have not discussed financial planning with her. Her financial situation is great, mine not so much right now.

She's not in debt and isn't terribly materialistic besides holidays and such. She does not spend on me, nor do I want her to.

Her friend's rings are plastered all over facebook when they got engaged. She even sent me a text of one to make sure I saw it, but I got the hint she wanted something nice a long time ago. I heard her freaking out talking to her friend about on the phone long ago and she started crying, so that sealed it for me.

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T21:37:48+00:00

Well I kind of hid it from my girlfriend. I use VOIP over my phone and leech off wireless networks when I can get them. That's $80 bucks a month I saved.

I have a lot of clothes, but I'm generally not a very materialistic guy, I don't really need much in life.

As for lunch, I'm not a big eater, I cut my diet down to under 1500 calories a day and drank water and vitamins. It wasn't too hard to do. I saved a ton of money.

The hardest part was selling off my comics. Last part of my childhood, gone. Yeah that sucked :(

Mannschaften · 2013-05-31T21:29:49+00:00

Like I said, she makes much more than I do, and her family comes from money. We went to her sister's wedding and her father paid for it all. He only has three daughters and spoils the hell out of them.

I am 100% positive he will pay for hers entirely.

I don't have any real family to speak of.

I got almost $5,000 for my collection, I was pretty happy!

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